My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years. Throughout this time, his mother has tried to control his life and he won't confront the situation. She will do things to make our relationship strained like calling him and making him come home to wash some plates, or drive 45 minutes home just to take out the trash. She also treats him like a house slave, making him clean anything and everything until its to her standards all the while his little brother does nothing. I want my boyfriend to stick up for himself but he won't. He is leaving to go into the Navy in January and I am in college at the moment. It is hard to find time to spend with him and its even harder on our relationship when he is forced to go home. My question is how can I deal with this situation? What should I say to her if anything at all?

That's his mom, and he lives with her, so you do nothing. Its not your place to start trouble for him. If he doesn't do anything about her, neither should you.

Her house her rules.

You are nothing to her. Just some girl dating her son.. remember that.

Deal with it. You have no right in even saying a word to her.

You should't confront her, that will cause trouble... like the others said, that is his mother. She will be a part of his life as long as you are with him and after you are with him. But I see nothing wrong in telling him how you feel. I think that him driving 45 minutes to take out the trash is very wacky. Are you sure that's what he's doing or what his mother is needing him to do?. I think that sounds crazy... hope everything works out.