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lady_rose
Oct 28, 2008, 03:12 PM
I just read where the lady was friends with her girlfriends husband, all innocent at first, then one of them make the wrong move.

Right now my hubby is doing that , he is talking on the phone to a friend.. I am scared that it will turn into a affair. They talk for hours everyday, he doesn't talk to me much at all since she showed up in the picture. He gets mad at me for saying that they talk too much, gets mad cause I pull the phone calls online... He is over the road driver so not home much.

He told me nothing is going on... but after reading so many post where friends end up lovers what am I to do... :(

Lady~Rose

ZoeMarie
Oct 28, 2008, 03:23 PM
If they're not having a sexual affair, it sounds like it's at least an emotional affair so far. All that time he spends talking to these other women he could spend talking to you. I'm really sorry. That's a hard situation to be in.

satswid
Oct 28, 2008, 03:25 PM
Just give him free space.
Your worries can frustrate him and can give rise to a horrible situation.
So, just relax and don't ask anything
Maybe, he just want to make you feel jealous
Show him you are matured and don't care about just friendship.

If he loves you he will definitely get back to you
Otherwise he has never loved you.

Good Luck

Raine75
Oct 28, 2008, 03:26 PM
My husband was a truck driver a number of years ago, on the road all the time, and when he was home he was always online with a lady that he claimed they were just friends, they started talking on the phone and he told me they were still just friends. One night, I went into his chat history and found they had been telling each other they love each other and he was planning on leaving me and my 2 young daughters for her. So I confronted him on it and gave him the ultimatum that it was either her or I, and I gave him a deadline to think about it. Needless to say 2 days later he calle me at home and told me he loved me and he was sorry and he wanted to stay and work things out and never spoke to her again. That was 9 years ago. And I now have 100% complete trust in him. Sometimes it takes what they think they may lose to realize what they have.

JBeaucaire
Oct 28, 2008, 04:26 PM
Almost all affairs start as "just friends". Almost all of them. You have plenty of reason to worry.

There's also not much you can do to stop it if you two aren't in that "still growing and laughing and going out of our way to make each other's lives better" mode.

You will have to decide what you are or aren't going to do if things really do go bad.

talaniman
Oct 28, 2008, 09:19 PM
You really don't have to put up with this, as kicking him to the curb would solve all that worry. If you can't do that, you condone his really bad behavior. Then its your fault for staying with the disrespectful jerk!