FireLitSky
Oct 27, 2008, 10:46 PM
Hey all. I just stumpled across this site while looking for an answer. An answer I think someone on here might be able to give me. Here is my situation:
I was going out with this girl for four months. Things were always great. I really felt like we both were simply in love with each other. Toward the end of the fourth month - she started acting really weird, like she was being sneaky about something. I'm not going to get into it fully because its so long. But basically, she wasn't treating me right. I deserved better. So I ended the relationship. I didn't want the relationship to end at all, but I just knew in my head I deserved to be treated better, so I ended it slightly unwillingly? I'm not sure the exact way to put it...
Over the course of the days after the break up, she would call me here and there - and I was willing to talk over our problems and possibly work things together. She wasn't really showing a desire to do that. Then about a week later, she gets back together with her ex-boyfriend. What happened with them is she met me when she was with him, but she was doing the same things she was doing to me (towards the end of our relationship) to him - with me. I hope that makes sense! He didn't end the relationship though, he just tried keeping her on lock down and controlling who she talked to - and this made her run even further away from him, and closer to me - eventually she broke up with him and went out with me. The difference between me and him, is that when she started doing the same things to me that ended their relationship - I didn't chase her. I just ended it because I knew I had to. She wasn't familiar with this at all I guess. She's just used to guys chasing her, etc. So like a week after we break up she gets right back together with her ex-boyfriend. On her myspace she puts (... is in love) etc. How can you immediately love someone else? Even though she is with him, she still calls me all the time. Asking me how I am, being SLIGHTLY flirtatious... and at this point - I just don't know what to do.
If anyone actually sat down and read all of the above I applaud you! And I am very grateful. If any expert out there has any advice - please send it my way! Thank you so much! I just really need an answer or to be at least pointed in the right direction.
-Fire.Lit.Sky.
I was going out with this girl for four months. Things were always great. I really felt like we both were simply in love with each other. Toward the end of the fourth month - she started acting really weird, like she was being sneaky about something. I'm not going to get into it fully because its so long. But basically, she wasn't treating me right. I deserved better. So I ended the relationship. I didn't want the relationship to end at all, but I just knew in my head I deserved to be treated better, so I ended it slightly unwillingly? I'm not sure the exact way to put it...
Over the course of the days after the break up, she would call me here and there - and I was willing to talk over our problems and possibly work things together. She wasn't really showing a desire to do that. Then about a week later, she gets back together with her ex-boyfriend. What happened with them is she met me when she was with him, but she was doing the same things she was doing to me (towards the end of our relationship) to him - with me. I hope that makes sense! He didn't end the relationship though, he just tried keeping her on lock down and controlling who she talked to - and this made her run even further away from him, and closer to me - eventually she broke up with him and went out with me. The difference between me and him, is that when she started doing the same things to me that ended their relationship - I didn't chase her. I just ended it because I knew I had to. She wasn't familiar with this at all I guess. She's just used to guys chasing her, etc. So like a week after we break up she gets right back together with her ex-boyfriend. On her myspace she puts (... is in love) etc. How can you immediately love someone else? Even though she is with him, she still calls me all the time. Asking me how I am, being SLIGHTLY flirtatious... and at this point - I just don't know what to do.
If anyone actually sat down and read all of the above I applaud you! And I am very grateful. If any expert out there has any advice - please send it my way! Thank you so much! I just really need an answer or to be at least pointed in the right direction.
-Fire.Lit.Sky.