I cannot get over my ex!! We haven't been together for almost a year!! A frickin year!! Ive tried everything to get over him, but I always find myself thinking about him. He and myself are both in relationships, I told him how I felt and he said he had to see where his new relationship was going... I said fine. He swears up and down he has no feelings for me like that, but he's always asking questions about my current boyfriend and me? If he didn't care than why is he asking? We try to be friends and get along but it never seems to work. Old feelings come up, but when I try to talk to him about why we have so much hatred towards each other, we'll start talking then out of no where he cuts me off. And if I ask him to his face, he ignores me and doesn't want to talk and I get so angry because he's so secretive and doesn't want to share his feelings. About 3 months ago we even slept together. BIG MISTAKE! What am I to do? Lately we haven't hung out at all probably not in the last 2 months. We hang out today and I tell him I want to be friends with him, like old times. He said hanging out once in a while is OK but that's not good enough for me. At the same time I don't want to hang out with him like everyday. But not every 2 months either. I have deep feelings for him and I know that hanging out with him will just make it worse, but I can't seem to let go of the 5 years we had together. I ended the relationship because I felt bored with him? I was going through some hard times and needed time for myself. Then I met my current boyfriend and ever since then things have been emotionally hard for me. At first I couldn't decide between the two, then I did and now that my ex is with someone I feel its necessary to be with him or something. Ive made all the mistakes I could in trying to get him back... desperate, needy, crying all the time. Eventually, that crap faded, but Im still trying to be his friend and start over. I can't do that if he doesn't cooperate. Some advice please!!

Impressive girl.

So you leave your X. you get a new boyfriend that you are not sure of. You go back to you x you sleep with him while you are with your boyfriend.

.. Shakes Head..

You sound really unhappy. Not due to your boyfriend or your X but due to yourself.
Now I personal hate cheaters and I think they should get what's coming to them.
tha means the both of you.

why would you want to be around someone that makes you feel like that.

Oh yeah lose the boyfriend because what you are doing to him is so unfair!
do not punish other people due to your own lack of morals. Or self control.

Leave your X and your boyfriend alone
and grow up.

You need to break up with your boyfriend,your not with him because you want to be,your just with him until you get a chance to get your ex back that's terrible to string some along like that.
You need to break up with current boyfriend
And be on your own for awhile its obvious you didn't have enough time to get over him and to heal.

Have you ever thought that he might not want you back and your starting to get a bit obsessed with him

I seldom jump on people for making mistakes, especially glaring ones, but for sure, this is one time you will not get what you want, nor do you deserve it. You can stay with this new guy, and that will be a mistake, that will come back on you later. You don't need a relationship, you need to get your act together, and stop bothering your ex, period. He doesn't want you as a g/f or friend, so leave him alone.

Learn to deal with your own feelings better, and stop being desperate.

Wow just a min... first of all I am NOT a cheater... me and my current broke up for a while, so don't even go there!! I HATE CHEATERS!! I was unsure of myself and still am. You clearly can't read or misunderstand the situation completely!!

I love him a lot. I love them both. Maybe in different ways but they both mean a lot to me. I haven't been trying to get with my ex or acting desperate? I think we are great friends but need to work on it is all.

your current broke up for a while? So as soon as he was out the door. You was back to your X


you clearly can not typ a story.

Still your actions speak volumes.
you are great friends? Even when you said there is so much anger there.
Ha!
sounds like a great friend to me. In fact the story you told me. Just sounds so wonderful.
I mean all the fun your having. Its just great.

You think you are great friends? And need to work on it.

Well F%# me sweet heart that's the understatement of the year!!

If you do not leave him you will never be able to heal.

Get your act together.
leave your X alone and leave your boyfriend alone! Stop trying to have the best of both worlds.
and work on yourself

TrueFaith hit the nail on the head when he said "Grow up."

To me, it sounds like you have an unreasonable drama need because there's really no other explanation for this. I think that you enjoy all this drama because it fulfills you emotional need for it.

When people chase the unattainable, it's because they get caught up in the struggle of it and they become immersed in the never ceasing waves of emotions that come with that. In one second you feel as though your objective is attainable but the next second leaves you grasping to at the seams. Your ex is clearly unattainable and each time that he states that he doesn't want to be together, you simply pursue harder.

For the astute reader, your posts reads like a soap opera. You break up with a guy only to realize that you want him back but the problem is he's with someone else so you fight and claw to try to get him back but you only end up having sex with him and then goes off into another relationship leaving you to fight to be apart of his life but... As I said, a drama trip.

Grow up. Only a little girl can get away with this much drama because she is devoid of responsibility. You are now (or I'm assuming so at least) an adult. You need to take some level of responsibility for your life and your own actions.