rgk
Oct 27, 2008, 10:19 AM
I have logged a couple of thoughts about my ongoing "She needs her space". We went out a week ago Saturday and had a nice time. Sunday there was no change, she still needed space. I have not contacted her in any way shape or form since then. 8 days. N/C is no fun... but if I were to call, I would be starting right back at day 1 and I would have lost some dignity for myself and I would not be respecting her wishes. Do I respect her as a person? Absolutely. I need to be adult about it and act like I do.
I know that eventually she will call probably to say, there's someone else, it's not going to work out or something along those lines. I need to be a little further along in the healing process to deal with that when the time comes. NC will help that. I loved her for many reasons and I have great respect for her. Just because she doesn't love me anymore doesn't mean that she isn't still a wonderful person. And there is nothing wrong with me either. Fact is that it probably just isn't going to work.
I think at that point my response, because I have respected her wishes and retained my dignity in a difficult situation, while easing her mind about feeling the way she does... I will say... I understand that you have to do what is in your heart... I doubt there have been many, if any men in your life, or in you future who will have treated you with the amount of dignity and respect that I have. I don't want to own you or possess you. I am your friend plain and simple and I hope we can hold on to a portion of that.
If you are going through what I am going through remember. Your Dignity is you most attractive quality, especially when you rise above your own pain. Man UP!
I know that eventually she will call probably to say, there's someone else, it's not going to work out or something along those lines. I need to be a little further along in the healing process to deal with that when the time comes. NC will help that. I loved her for many reasons and I have great respect for her. Just because she doesn't love me anymore doesn't mean that she isn't still a wonderful person. And there is nothing wrong with me either. Fact is that it probably just isn't going to work.
I think at that point my response, because I have respected her wishes and retained my dignity in a difficult situation, while easing her mind about feeling the way she does... I will say... I understand that you have to do what is in your heart... I doubt there have been many, if any men in your life, or in you future who will have treated you with the amount of dignity and respect that I have. I don't want to own you or possess you. I am your friend plain and simple and I hope we can hold on to a portion of that.
If you are going through what I am going through remember. Your Dignity is you most attractive quality, especially when you rise above your own pain. Man UP!