OK. I'm not sure what to do. I mean I don't even know how to tell my mom. The father knows, but I mean I know that I'm going to show soon and I'm not so sure if I want to tell her or just let her find out when I start showing... im so confused.:confused:

It is best if you come out and just tell them.
Most parents are very understanding and will help you through the difficult times ahead.
One of the first things they will want to now is who the dad is.
Second when is it due.
Third is the dad willing to help you with the baby.
Fourth are you going to keep it or give it up for adaptation.
Fifth how will you take care of it.

Also, it is a very good idea to get things out in the open, so that you can get the proper prenatal care for you and the baby. The longer you wait the harder it will be to tell. Finding out on their own will probably make their reactions more strong, then if you show maturity and strength, and come right out and tell them. Good luck hun.take care of you and that little one, and keep us posted.

Every day that your mother doesn't know is another day of added anxiety.

You know it might be very difficult... but better now than latter. Until you let her know, it is just more added stress. She'll need time to adjust, you need to know whether she'll help you. The sooner you can let her know the sooner you can begin to deal with the situation. Its always better to deal with reality than to fret about what you are unsure about.

And the point about proper prenatal care is a very good one. You should at least be taking a good multivitamin, folic acid is good, etc.

It is better to let her know now. I know it may be hard, but it will be even harder just waiting for her to find out. Quite honestly Your mother will probably take it better it actually coming from you now instead of later. Delaying it will only make her reaction possibly worse.

Hi ice angel, I know how you are feeling, I was in the same place you are in and it can be hard to tell your mom that your pregnant.angel If I were you I would tell your mom because you will need her help to make sure you are in good health and to make sure you get the right care for your baby, so don't wait to long your baby needs to get the viamins pregnant women take to make sure the baby develop right . Please let your mother be a mother don't take this from her she loves you and she will be the only one that can help you. I wish you the best : )

As a mother of a teenage mother, Let me share my feelings on this...
My daughter who is 17, hid her pregnancy from me until one month before the baby came. It's a long story she was in and out of our home , living with her boyfriend and his mother for the last couple of months.When I saw her I knew she was pregnant, I flat out asked her and she told me yes, she was.

I always thought I would freak out and go nuts if one of my girls got pregnant
So young.
I'm still amazed at how well I took the news. My daughter was very scared and in denial and did not get any prenatal care until I found out.
I made the appointment, she had an ultrasound and 3 weeks later my precious grandson was born. Perfect thank goodness!
Here are my regrets over the issue.
I wish she had told me sooner,The baby could have been born with something seriously wrong due to lack of prenatal care.
I did not have anytime to prepare. It was a mad dash to get just the basic things she needed.
I felt like she really didn't have any faith in me and our mother -daughter relationship.* I always thought my kids could tell me anything.
She fully intended to give the baby up for adoption, thankfully I convinced her she would regret that decision for the rest of her life, and I let her know that I would do what ever it took to help her keep that baby.
This baby was the cement that glued our relationship rock solid. My daughter moved back home and I watch her as a mother and have never been so proud of her. She loves me and depends on me. Just a side note, she graduated 2 weeks after the baby came! The hardest part for me from all this was that she didn't tell me. Yes I was hurt and upset that she did not make better judgement in using birth control, but I got over it. What hurt me was the lack of trust and communication.
Now not all moms are going to react as well as I did. But remember you are not the FIRST teenage girl to get pregnant and you surely won't be the last.
So please.. tell your Mom. It may be the hardest thing you ever do in your life, but you need to be an adult now and face her. Good luck to you sweety.

I just don't know how to tell her. We never really got along. And I'm just scared of her reaction. Because I mean I know who the father is but I was a mistake. We were both drinking that night. I mean I want to tell her, but I'm afraid of how she will react. Being that she was married at 16 and had me at 19, I don't think it will be that bad but then again she's always told me that if I ever come up pregnant shell kill me. And I mean I've told my boyfriend because its not his and he is somewhat OK with it. But I just don't know exactly how to tell her.

I told my girls the same thing.. " I'd kill em" well I didn't.
Write her a letter and tell her you really need to talk to her about something very important, or find a time when she is in a good mood,or take her out to lunch and tell her in public( lessons the chance of her killing you if there are witnesses)or give her a small gift with the positive pregnancy test inside.
Or... there are lots of ways to tell her, just find the best one to suit your situation.

Thank you... I would have never thought of any of that.

You are very welcome sweetie, please let us know how things turn out, and take care of yourself! No more drinking! Start taking a prenatal vitiman, you can get them over the counter and walgreens or walmart. Drink lots of milk, all that good stuff. Let me know if there is anything else I can do to help you.

Lol. OK no more drinking. And ill look for a vitamin or whatever it is. Urgh... I hate milk but ill drink it... and all the other fun stuff...

If you can not find a prenatal vitiman, any multi-vitiman formulated for women will be better than nothing.
Is there a planned parenthood or women's clinic you can go to in your area?
There are tons of resources out there for pregnant women, especially teens.

I take regular vitamins everyday. Not that I know of. We haven't lived here long but I can look and see if there is.

Right now, I am taking prenatal vitamins from walmart. They are very good, have lots of calcium in them and are pretty cheap. They are called " one source, complete. prenatal" its in a white bottle with a pink lable. They are easy on the stomach(just make sure to take it with food, that willhelp)

If you look at the statistics, many mothers threaten to 'kill' their daughters if they come home pregnant at an early age, but none have actually done it.

Of course she's going to be upset, and she'll yell. But you've probably been yelled at by her many times in the past and have survived it.
Once she's done being a 'normal' over-reacting mom (and you know she has that right), she'll calm down, shift into the 'helpful mother' gear and start planning for the future.

She will probably enjoy helping you through your stages, looking on the internet for information that is available today for expecting moms. The sooner you tell her, the sooner she can kick into the 'soon to be grandma' feeling and I don't think you should deny her that. What do you think? How would you want your child to react (if you were in her place)? Wouldn't you want your daughter to share these times with you, ask you for advice, and to be reassured that she could come to you at this very important time in your life?

So, dear, don't deny yourself a wonderful stressless pregnancy - get it over with and tell your Mom, and you'll have one worry less.


Good luck, and please keep us posted.

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Wow, my best friend is in the grandma position right now and is due to have the grandbaby on 6/8/06, so I can answer from that side.

Yes, she was WAY upset at first, but she got over it. I asked her if she was happy being a grandmother at such a young age and she said "What can I do about it now, it is already done, no reason to be uspet over something I have no control over." So, now she is sitting up nights just waiting to go to the hospital. She has been knitting and sewing to her heart's content.

There is always initial shock, but in the end there is someone to look forward to.

And I agree with Amy, NO MORE DRINKING! You are too young for that anyway.

Wow, my best friend is in the grandma position right now and is due to have the grandbaby on 6/8/06, so I can answer from that side.

Yes, she was WAY upset at first, but she got over it. I asked her if she was happy being a grandmother at such a young age and she said "What can I do about it now, it is already done, no reason to be uspet over something I have no control over." So, now she is sitting up nights just waiting to go to the hospital. She has been knitting and sewing to her heart's content.

There is always initial shock, but in the end there is someone to look forward to.

And I agree with Amy, NO MORE DRINKING!! You are too young for that anyway.

WOW, what a coincidence, my granchild is due on the same day! I'm soooo excited!

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as a mother of a teenage mother, Let me share my feelings on this...
My daughter who is 17, hid her pregnancy from me until one month before the baby came. It's a long story she was in and out of our home , living with her boyfriend and his mother for the last couple of months.When I saw her I knew she was pregnant, I flat out asked her and she told me yes, she was.

I always thought I would freak out and go nuts if one of my girls got pregnant
so young.
I'm still amazed at how well I took the news. My daughter was very scared and in denial and did not get any prenatal care until I found out.
I made the appointment, she had an ultrasound and 3 weeks later my precious grandson was born. Perfect thank goodness!
Here are my regrets over the issue.
I wish she had told me sooner,The baby could have been born with something seriously wrong due to lack of prenatal care.
I did not have anytime to prepare. It was a mad dash to get just the basic things she needed.
I felt like she really didn't have any faith in me and our mother -daughter relationship.* I always thought my kids could tell me anything.
She fully intended to give the baby up for adoption, thankfully I convinced her she would regret that decision for the rest of her life, and I let her know that I would do what ever it took to help her keep that baby.
This baby was the cement that glued our relationship rock solid. My daughter moved back home and I watch her as a mother and have never been so proud of her. She loves me and depends on me. Just a side note, she graduated 2 weeks after the baby came! The hardest part for me from all this was that she didn't tell me. Yes I was hurt and upset that she did not make better judgement in using birth control, but I got over it. What hurt me was the lack of trust and communication.
Now not all moms are going to react as well as I did. But remember you are not the FIRST teenage girl to get pregnant and you surely won't be the last.
So please.. tell your Mom. It may be the hardest thing you ever do in your life, but you need to be an adult now and face her. Good luck to you sweety.I read your post and you are so right thanks for posting it : )

I became pregnant when I was 16 and was very scared to tell my parents. I'm 25 now, so it wasn't that long ago.
The sooner you tell them, the happier you will be-at least more relieved. They will be devastated to find out on their own, knowing that their daughter felt as though she could not come to them because she was afraid of their reaction.
Tell them.

"The hardest part for me from all this was that she didn't tell me."-Stormy69

See-I told you, this mother says it all. Don't know the status of your parents' relationship-but go to your mother.

Hoping for an update Ice angel.. Please let us know how things are going

ok. im not sure what to do. i mean i dont even know how to tell my mom. the father knows, but i mean i know that im going to show soon and im not so sure if i want to tell her or just let her find out when i start showing.......im so confused.:confused:

Your 16 u haven't even finished school yet what are your plans for your future you can't even tell your parents about this it's a grown up act and it means you need to make a grown up decision everyone thinks that abortion is a horrible thing but I don't believe that it is every woman has the right to her own choices and I think that you should consider all options everyone is going to have there own opion or belief but your decision should be for you and the unborn fetus not having a baby at such a young age gives you a lot more future options and having a baby puts all those options on hold for about 16 to 18 yrs think about your life the fathers life and then make your choice if you choose to not have it then no one but you and the father need to know if you have decided to have it then your parents and his have the right to know all about it good luck and I hope everything works out for you and you are happy with the decision you make for yourself!!

I disagree with terra112. Just because she is 16 doesn't mean she can't provide for that Child. Sure she is afraid to tell her Mother that she is pregnant. It was hard for me to tell my mom the times I got pregnant. The first time being 17 (I miscarried that one). I was a little after 18 when I got pregnant with my 2nd and carried her to full term. Her Mother may be dissapointed, but abortion is NOT an answer to her problem of not being able to tell her mom. Do you know what they do to a BABY when it is aborted? Do you know what kind of Psychological problems the mother will be faced with after knowing that she KILLED her BABY? Have you seen pictures of babies that are aborted? I'm guessing not, if so you are one sick person because I can't believe anyone would be willing to do this kind of ****. If she doesn't want the baby, she should give it up, not KILL it. My friend had a baby when she was 16 and has done a fine job raising her son AND finishing school. And ANOTHER good friend of mine had her baby at 17 and has finished school AND is currently attending a community college AND has a job. So she can do it. It's called encouragement. Ugh... I'm done with this one.

I disagree with terra112. Just because she is 16 doesn't mean she can't provide for that Child. Sure she is afraid to tell her Mother that she is pregnant. It was hard for me to tell my mom the times I got pregnant. The first time being 17 (I miscarried that one). I was a little after 18 when I got pregnant with my 2nd and carried her to full term. Her Mother may be dissapointed, but abortion is NOT an answer to her problem of not being able to tell her mom. Do you know what they do to a BABY when it is aborted? Do you know what kind of Psychological problems the mother will be faced with after knowing that she KILLED her BABY? Have you seen pictures of babies that are aborted? I'm guessing not, if so you are one sick person because I can't believe anyone would be willing to do this kind of ****. If she doesn't want the baby, she should give it up, not KILL it. My friend had a baby when she was 16 and has done a fine job raising her son AND finishing school. And ANOTHER good friend of mine had her baby at 17 and has finished school AND is currently attending a community college AND has a job. So she can do it. It's called encouragement. ugh... I'm done with this one.


"...but abortion is NOT an answer to her problem of not being able to tell her mom. Do you know what they do to a BABY when it is aborted? Do you know what kind of Psychological problems the mother will be faced with after knowing that she KILLED her BABY? Have you seen pictures of babies that are aborted? I'm guessing not, if so you are one sick person because I can't believe anyone would be willing to do this kind of ****. If she doesn't want the baby, she should give it up, not KILL it."-You have no right to say this. Well you do because of freedom of speech, but this is a very touchy subject in which a variety of people have different opinions and this is something that should be posted privately to the individual you are attacking or maybe on an anti abortionist web site"

Fine stormy... believe whatever you want...

Well girl I am 16 as well... and I want to be pregnant as well I don't know why but I do and I don't know what to do to get their, I mean I try everything if you know anything that would make it better please tell me

Brittanylivers, go to walmart, go to the toy section. Select the water baby of your choice. That is all you need to handle at 16. You do not need to have a child. I can not believe that at 16 you think that you will be able to take care of a baby. It is one thing to have the situation thrust upon you, for instance if the condom breaks, your bithcontrol fails, or he tells the pull out method works (even though I don't think it's right to have sex at 16). But to actually try to get pregnant... I really don't know what to say to that. You would be bringing a child into the world when you are still a child yourself, and don't have the money, a full high school education or anything to help provide for the child. Does that seem like something a good mother would do to their child on purpose?

Sit your mom doen and tell her you have a problem and need her help. I would be devastated if any of my girls had got pregnant and felt they couldn't tell me. Yes they may be mad at friet, but when they gety over the shock they will help you better than anyone else can, you need your moms support right now. Good luck.

Hey
Im 16 and 6 months pregnant. I told my mom when the day I found out. Actually I got my boyfriend to tell her. She really took it better then I thought she would. Now I have found out I am having a baby girl and I'm due augest 1. Honestly my mom has gotten very excited about being a grandma. She has bought her more dresses and little outfits then I thought were even out there.
Don't be afraid to tell your mom. You will be surprised how she reacts. She was never perfect when she was a teenager.
Good luck and have a happy pregnancy no matter how far you are. I love being pregnant. I love my belly to and feeling her move is the most amazing thing.

GoodLuck.
P.S. She will want you to tell her before she finds out on her own. I know I would. It will bring your relationship closer with your mom and trust me you will need her help:o

ok. im not sure what to do. i mean i dont even know how to tell my mom. the father knows, but i mean i know that im going to show soon and im not so sure if i want to tell her or just let her find out when i start showing.......im so confused.:confused:
Its best to tell your mother she might not be happy with you but she might help u though it.its happened to lots of my mates. Hope it goes well for you

I don't have an answer for you. I have a question.
My daddy is trying to break me and my boyfriend up because he found out we were engaged..
My boyfriend thinks if we have a kid..
It will make him not break us up.
He also thinks that having a kid will make us both grow up..
We both need that.
What do you think?

I don't have an answer for you. I have a question.
My daddy is trying to break me and my boyfriend up because he found out we were engaged..
My boyfriend thinks if we have a kid..
It will make him not break us up.
He also thinks that having a kid will make us both grow up..
We both need that.
What do you think?

Hi, I'm 16 and I'm pregnant. Somebody told my parents I was pregnant and I thought they would be pissed but they sat down and talked to me and asked if I was pregnant I said I don't know. Then they were like what are you going to do if you are. Then they said I was to young to have sex.
Then they made a doc app. For me next Monday.