My situation is complicated and Im really not sure what to do. I'm in my late 20's and I have ADHD, which causes me to forget little things( leaving keys in the door, bad organization skills, emotional at times). I have a boyfriend( for now), but he notices everything I do and thinks I'm lazy, forgetful, can't take care of a home or family, etc. Basically I feel like he is tired of me & it is a very uncomfortable feeling. I live with him & he takes care of the bills in the house, because right now I'm finishing my master's degree. The thing is that I am too ashamed/ afraid to tell him about my adhd because I don't want him to think less of me. But I am not on medication & when I take over the counter or prescription drugs in the past, it changed my mood at times, and killed my sex drive. The sex between me and my previous partners wasn't as good, and I didn't really feel like doing it as much. So I stopped.

But now I'm not sure what to do. We had an argument and he basically told me that he just wants to " teach me" how to be a woman, and maybe he isn't the right guy for me because he can't " take care" of me like someone else may. Basically I feel like I have lost control of this relationship and he only now feels sorry for me rather than really loving me. I don't like feeling less than, but if I start taking my meds again I feel like he won't like having sex w/me and he'll go cheat or something.
So I really don't know what to do. I'm not financially stable so I need the help so I don't want to alienate him totally; but at the same time I feel he doesn't think I measure up as a woman & it hurts.
So I basically need advice on whether it would be best to tell him why I act the way I do sometimes; or should I give him another excuse. I'm really stumped by this. Thanks!

I honestly believe the truth is the way to go. If he can't understand your problem and love you regardless, then he really isn't the best man for you. If he care for you, then he will understand and be grateful for your honesty. The truth just might shine a needed light into the relationship.

He wants to "teach you" to be a woman? Who is he?? Find someone else!

I agree with mdh111688. I believe every relationship is based on trust, whether is a friendship or something more. You will know if he is the right one for you by how he reacts when you tell him. If he still thinks you are "being lazy" and this is "just another excuse" then he isn't the right one for you.
Good luck!!

The most important thing in your life is to *get an education*. No one can take that away from you, and you will be able to support yourself no matter what. That will make for confidence in the future, confidence you lack now.

The longer you stay with a belittler, the more your confidence gets chipped away... every day, a chip her, a chip there. Soon, you won't know your a@@ from a hole in the ground.

He is just bsing you; he doesn't care for you anymore. Get out of the relationship... get your degree... get back your confidence.

Good luck to you. :)

You should definitely talk to him and tell him you have adhd. I think most anyone would understand. What's it going to hurt to sit down and talk to him about it? Tell him that you would take the meds if it didn't kill your sex drive. Maybe he would rather you take them? You never know. If he truly loves you then you guys will be able to work it out, if not, better to find out now than to let him keep talking down to you.

You NEED to tell him that you have adhd and that in the past, the meds have helped you. It's true that the meds kill the drive, but if you are slow and steady with a solid warm-up (TONS of foreplay) your sex drive should be manageable (in the 'moderate' to 'good' level). If he's just not happy after that, then you need to consider whether he's really the right partner for you. Are you compatible? Do you really love him, or are you just dependent on him for the income to pay the bills? (that's not a good enough reason to settle for someone.)