Iv'e been married to my 3rd husband 7 months. My two previous husbands passed away from an auto mobile accident and melanoma. I'm 43 and my husband is 36. My husband has been married before when he was 19 for a couple of years. He has a son from that marriage that's 17 that he does not have any contact with, I'm not exactly sure why?( I think the ex wife) He also has a 2 year old son from a 3 week fling( He is very much in this boys life). He has been in and out of relationships that usually only last about 1-2 years his adult life. I have three children, oldest from my first marriage and the other two from my second marriage, it was seven years since my second husband died and I remarried. Hopefully I've given you enough background. The problem is that my husband is so jealous!! I've never experienced this much jealousy in my life! Not only is he jealous of other men but also of my children and his child when I give them my attention. He is also Jealous of my horses(which are my source of income) my reading, my computer time, anything that takes time away from him. When it comes to men in my environment he is always accusing me of looking at other men where ever we go ie: restaurants, driving, stores etc. He told me that he has been lied to and cheated on by every woman he has ever been with and watched his mother cheat and get cheated on by her husbands and boyfriends. I tell him that I am not those women and I've never cheated on him nor will I ever cheat on him. I always tell him I love him. He has packed his things at least 30 times and moved to his mothers house, but usually returns the next day. He tells me that I make him insecure and he feels that I will cheat on him. Again I have reasurred him that I have never done it before and I will not cheat on him. He says there is always a first time. When we decided to get married (he was not like this before we married) I told everyone I knew that I was getting married (including every man that I ever talked to or went out on a date with so that my husband would know that he could feel completely secure in our marriage) We are both going to counseling but its not seeming to help. It also does not help that we live in a small town and the guys that I dated previously still live around here along with my husbands ex's. Last night one of my ex's got a hold of my phone number and called. My husband answered my phone like usual, and the ex asked for me then said my husbands name, my husband handed me the phone then the ex wouldn't answer me when I said hello (we did not know this was the ex until calling the # back and getting his voicemail) Then the phone rang again and I handed the phone to my husband he started to talk to the ex (It was not a good break-up and the ex sued me and lost) the ex proceeded to tell my husband that he was calling to return some stuff he had of mine. He also said that I had been texting and talking to him! My husband was saying things to me like "dont act so surprised! And what did you think would happen! While the ex was on the phone. I feel like the ex found out my new # and called to check upon me and became surprised when my husband answered. The ex declined to give me my things back over a year ago when I asked for them, then made up that he had been talking to me. I told my husband that I would never talk to the ex ( I really dispise this man) and that It was not right to believe him over me and he was just giving the ex what he wanted argueing with me while the ex was on the phone. When my husbands ex's have called he does not hand me the phone so that I can take care of what ever they are calling for, I feel that offering the phone to him once we found out who it was was showing I have nothing to hide. I feel like I have tried so hard to make my marriage work and that there is always a wolf trying to attack around the corner. Am I not seeing clearly beacause I'm so involved? Please help?

It sounds like your husband really has trust issues (duh). This is not your fault because it sounds like you have tried anything and have been as open and honest as possible. I think he needs individual counselling to work through his own issues - you are not the problem.

You say you've only been married for 7 months, so my question is was he like this before, or is this recent??

This has only been since we were married.

Nip this behavior in the bud, by making him deal with his issues, in a positive way, or he leaves.