My boyfriend recently broke up with me because he feels that his transvestic fetish is wrong and he doesn't want to hurt me anymore by going behind my back and flirting online. He says he needs to figure out what is wrong with him. He told me about 6 months ago and we have been working through it. Until Saturday when he pushed me away. I love him and accept anything about him because I love him. He knows that and I know he loves me. How can I help him? My kids and I miss him! He is an awesome stepdad ,lover, and was my best friend. I don't want to lose him over this. Please help us! Thank You!

He's going to find that all women are as accommodating.

I don't have a clue how to get him to stop and get over it as he wished however.

Did you just accept it or did you add this into your private play? Perhaps that might be key.

Have you considered couples therapy? He might also benefit from individual therapy as well.

He may be telling you only half of what's really going on with him. It sounds like whatever it is, he's having a hard time with it. You might be in his future, but there is so much happening that you might not want to put too many eggs in that basket...

Mmmm you accept his tranvestitism, I think he doesn't accept it due to religious reasons, or some other personal situation. For him to leave you and to think anaother female could fulfil your understanding role, I think he is severely mistaken.

I'd hazard a guess that it really is not JUST transvestism, but he may actually be unaccepting that he may be homosexual. The trannie business is a psychological cover-up for his own mind.

I don't know, kiddo, it sounds like he wanted to break up with you and pursue different stuff.

Look for a n ew guy to have fun with, a guy without many complicated personality aspects.

Best wishes, :)

smoothy:

Did you leave out a NOT in post #2 as in "NOT as accomodating"?

smoothy:

Did you leave out a NOT in post #2 as in "NOT as accomodating"?You are correct. That's for pointing that out. I somehow missed it.

Most women will NOT be as accommodating.