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minicupcake
Oct 18, 2008, 09:57 AM
Ok so the other day me and my best friend had a sleepover. We called my boyfriend and we talked to him all night and the whole time he was talking to her way more then me. The next day he came over to my house and me, my boyfriend and my friend went to the park. She was messing around with him throwing leaves at him and flirting and he flirted back. After a while I just started walking away and just sitting down to see if he would come with me or stay with her, and he stayed with her. Then I tried her leaving and me staying and he followed her. A week later I slept over her house again, we called him again and he asked us to send a picture of us to see what we were doing but my phone can't send picture mail so we had to send it from hers and he knew that. I did not want him to have her number because I knew something was going on but I just went along with it and sent him the picture from her phone to see what would happen. Later that night he gave her his myspace there was when I stopped talking because I got really upset. They just kept talking for an hour while I was sitting there listening to them talk. My friend noticed that I wasn't talking but he didn't. After that I hung up and we were about to go to sleep. He started texting her exactly what I thought was going to happen. I texted him 'I hate you' and he said 'whatever is it because I'm talking to Jamie (my friend)?' so I told him 'No its because you were talking to her and didn't even care that I wasn't talking' He just said whatever then I just turned my phone off. In the morning when we woke up I texted him and he didn't even answer and like five seconds later he texts my friend. So I got really upset again and I just ignored it and went home. What do you think I should do? :confused:

JBeaucaire
Oct 18, 2008, 10:36 AM
I think you should take a deep breath, relax, calm down, and step out of this situation in your mind for a moment. You need to be able to look at life honestly.

You like/love your boyfriend. You like/love your best friend. Right?

Now the hard part. Do you think you should get your way no matter it costs you? I know he's your boyfriend, but is this "til the end of time" behavior you're having with him? I don't see that. Sounds to me like normal "lasts a few a months and is fun while it lasts" behavior.

That means you're not going to be with this guy forever. Relax. Think about that. I bet you even know that to be true at some level.

So, if you can admit that this guy isn't your Mr. Forever, then you are capable of dealing with this situation far more maturely than even you realize.

If you two are going to only last a while, then move on, you CAN know that ahead of time, and even facilitate the process. If he's already started the process of falling for your best friend, you COULD be a good friend to them and not be melodramatic and fatalistic about it.

All I'm saying is you WILL lose the guy at some point in the future. But, losing the friend(s), too... well, that's a different story and doesn't have to be the result.

This exact thing happened to me and my first love. We were together 2 years, and she ended up dating on of my best friends next... it was way awkward at first, but both she and he were good people, so I had no reason to lose that, too. So I didn't. When the awkwardness faded, we were all still there loving each other.

Maturity sucks, it really does. It involves putting other people ahead of ourselves and that sucks, too. But in the end, we benefit a lot from being mature.

Think about it.

minicupcake
Oct 18, 2008, 11:52 AM
So I just started talking to him and so far this is what we've said lol
Me:Hey can I talk to you for a sec
Him:Ok what
Me:You want to know why I wasn't talking yesterday
Him:Yes
Me:Ok remember when you came to my house
Him:Yes
Me:She was flirting with you and every time I walked away you would stay with her and then yesterday you talked to her and not me and you were texting her to and cause you gave her your myspace
Him:She was flirting with me?
Me:Yea I know how she flirts
Him:why would she flirt with me
Me:Idk
Him:No she wasn't flirting
Me:By the way you texting her is really pissing me off
Him:Why
Me:Well you get mad at me when I talk to your friend
Him:Exactly you talk to Alex (his friend) I talk to hannah (myfriend)
Me:I don't talk to him anymore
Him:You did before
Me:Whatever you choose you can either talk to her or be with me
Him:Are you kidding
Me:Nope
Him:Why:
Me:Cuz
Him:Why
Me:Just choose
Him:No
Me:Why
Him:Give me one reason
Me:Because its really pissing me off
Him:What is wrong with you
Me:Nothing
Him:Whatever
Me:So what you going to do?
Him:Omg
Me:What
Him:She's just a friend how do you think I felt when you talked to Alex (his friend)
Me:Idk but I'm sorry and I did stop talking to him and I would have stopped before that if you actually told me how you felt about it
Him:Well I will evetually stop to
Me:Eventually?
Him:I will stop
Me:When?
Him:Idk
Me:Then ima break up with you
Him: OMG you always talked to Alex (his friend)
Me:Well that was before
Him:Whatever

JBeaucaire
Oct 18, 2008, 12:36 PM
Wow, you nicely did exactly the opposite of what I recommended. Exactly opposite.

Nice call. I read that exchange and wonder what you think you're actually going "win" this way.

Well, good luck to you.

ttyl-miracle
Oct 18, 2008, 01:03 PM
wow, that was a pretty great way to handle that. i am proud of you, altho i would have been a lil more aggressive :D

insomniaticmeat
Oct 18, 2008, 01:08 PM
OK I'm a guy and I am in this same situation right now and I juts got to tell youone thing where is it written into our systems that we have to love juts one person its unfortunate its your friend very unfortunate but what you got to do is sit them both down and say exactly what's on your mind don't make a drama of the situation tell him if he messes up he loses you both.. OK? Thaqts froma guys point of view juts be honest.. and hell respond be staright up or he will get confused..

ttyl-miracle
Oct 18, 2008, 01:24 PM
I surprised at you, insomniatcmeat
You have overcome your fear of living
:D

ttyl-miracle
Oct 18, 2008, 01:34 PM
lol, then help yourself (carefully)
everybody likes helping people
I do, too
I only help because I'm bored (^^o)
your not a pathetic loser, u should c my grandpa ^u^

insomniaticmeat
Oct 18, 2008, 01:36 PM
Haha man life is crazy innit? And I'm also bored:L

minicupcake
Oct 18, 2008, 03:49 PM
Wow, you nicely did exactly the opposite of what I recommended. Exactly opposite.

Nice call. I read that exchange and wonder what you think you're actually going "win" this way.

Well, good luck to you.

I don't really get it lol...

Chery
Oct 18, 2008, 05:56 PM
ttyl-miracle[/b];1328036]lol, then help yourself (carefully)
everybody likes helping ppl
i do, too
i only help because im bored (^^o)
ur not a pathetic loser, u should c my grandpa ^u^ Show some respect here!

Coming from a 'grandma', I think you two (insomniaticmeat) should really find another place to 'chat' - check the rules on this please...

And if bored, find a fun place to communicate and not txt to someone without punctuation, that does not need help in dealing with inner confused emotions and stay out of issues that you don't know much about yet either. Your turn will come when you think your heart has been broken, then we'll talk again.

I'd appreciate that a lot. Your grandpa might seem like a pathetic loser to you, but he's got more life's experience under his belt than you'll ever know - you could actually learn something from him.

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Chery
Oct 18, 2008, 06:05 PM
I don't really get it lol...
One day, dear.. you'll understand. Until then, just enjoy life and growing up - we all have to go through it.

Remember when you were a kid playing with others in the sandbox and there was a bit of jealousy and dispute over a special toy? Well, I don't know how old you are, but it's the same scenario, just at a different age and stage of development. This time though, the toy is a living human being who makes choices over who he wants to be 'played' with. You don't own him so he will do what he wants when he wants to - to include flirting with your best friend if she lets him. And he's also expressed his emotions by being upset when you 'talked' to another. At that age, we should be able to talk to anyone we want without feeling guilty or having someone upset about it.

You obviously see this friendship with him as 'exclusive' and think that they should also see it the way you do. Well, unless you made special promises to each other (like love, honor, stay together forever) - you should not be surprised that life and growing up with a few disappointments will happen and you will have to learn to deal with it. It's not going to kill you, I promise. And you should be able to tell them about your feelings without 'putting on a mad' and walking off in a huff when things don't go your way. So seriously think of what JBeaucaire said to you - he's right, and you know it. It does not make the hurt any less, but you'll get over it. We promise.

Believe me, I know how you feel, and so do millions of other girls at that stage, so just accept it and find new friends to share your time with if they bother you too much. It won't last long, and your girlfriend will pay attention to you again.

As for the boy(toy) - he'll go on in life flirting with hundreds of other girls until he's old enough to have a serious adult relationship.. by then, you'll have long forgotten him or will laugh about all this with the special guy that you found on the path still ahead of you.

Next time, it will be you who will receive all the attention and the other girlfriend will be upset about it - that's life and nobody said it's going to be great all the time.

Hang in there dear and come talk to us any time you need to.

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minicupcake
Oct 18, 2008, 07:15 PM
Uhm.. well we're all good now me my friend and my boyfriend and his friend lol

Chery
Oct 18, 2008, 07:22 PM
Uhm.. well we're all good now me my friend and my boyfriend and his friend lol


Now you know that taking a deep breath, thinking things out, and then talking about it can go a long way to solving issues instead of letting your temper rule.

Good luck dear.

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ttyl-miracle
Oct 19, 2008, 06:11 AM
Lol, life is crazy, mmhm. I'm also writing a novel, you should read it when it gets published :P :) know why? Because it's about little 6th graders :D it'll give you a real hard handle and loving life :O

ttyl-miracle
Oct 19, 2008, 06:13 AM
Chery, who are you to start a lecture about my weed smoking "i hate my life!" quoting grandpa? God, learn to stay in modern times, and we're not elderly, so would we know better?

Chery
Oct 19, 2008, 11:50 AM
chery, who are you to start a lecture about my weed smoking "i hate my life!" quoting grandpa? god, learn to stay in modern times, and we're not elderly, so would we know better?

Being bored and complaining about your grandfather has nothing whatsoever to do with this thread or the Original Posters question. You do have some idea of what things in life are right or wrong for you, so you 'should' know better than to interject here just out of boredom.
Your issue with your family life and your emotional anger over it have no place on this thread, and I suggest you start one of your own to get help and advice about it from those who are in the same situation.
So, who am I?. the one who is telling you that there are rules here, and it would be nice of you to abide by them.. that's all. Also the one who is telling you this is NOT a chat room. No hard feelings, but we are here helping people as much as we can, for free, so we all have a right to our opinions based on our expertise... and while doing so, we can also show some respect and not fly off the handle - that gets us nowhere at all.

So, please do start your own thread telling us why you feel your grandfather does not deserve your respect and I will be more than willing to try and help with my 2-cent's worth, if not, that's cool.

C.U. again somewhere, sometime on the forum. Just hopefully not on this thread unless you have something constructive to add to it. PM me if you are not satisfied with my reply...

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Chery
Oct 19, 2008, 02:13 PM
haha man life is crazy innit? and im also bored:L

It would be nice if you could explain what your reply has to do with the Original Poster's question. So sorry that you're bored, and am sure that your answer really helped her a lot.

minicupcake
Oct 19, 2008, 03:19 PM
Being bored and complaining about your grandfather has nothing whatsoever to do with this thread or the Original Posters question. You do have some idea of what things in life are right or wrong for you, so you 'should' know better than to interject here just out of boredom.
Your issue with your family life and your emotional anger over it have no place on this thread, and I suggest you start one of your own to get help and advice about it from those who are in the same situation.
So, who am I?... the one who is telling you that there are rules here, and it would be nice of you to abide by them..that's all. Also the one who is telling you this is NOT a chat room. No hard feelings, but we are here helping people as much as we can, for free, so we all have a right to our opinions based on our expertise ... and while doing so, we can also show some respect and not fly off the handle - that gets us nowhere at all.

So, please do start your own thread telling us why you feel your grandfather does not deserve your respect and I will be more than willing to try and help with my 2-cent's worth, if not, that's cool.

C.U. again somewhere, sometime on the forum. Just hopefully not on this thread unless you have something constructive to add to it. PM me if you are not satisfied with my reply...

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Are u 2 fighting online? Haha *cough* losers *cough*

starbuck8
Oct 19, 2008, 05:13 PM
chery, who are you to start a lecture about my weed smoking "i hate my life!" quoting grandpa? god, learn to stay in modern times, and we're not elderly, so would we know better?

I gave you an AGREE totally by mistake!! You did NOT deserve that, and that was my fault. How dare you talk to one of our valued members the way you did! You were completely disrespectful, and I WILL be reporting you. Go find another playground! :rolleyes:

ttyl-miracle
Oct 22, 2008, 05:05 PM
You will get it, mini:
It means she told you to be nice to him and go with it. But you went aggressive :D which is awesome. I wanted to see some *slams him to ground and beats up* stuff, but oh well. You did great :)

ttyl-miracle
Oct 22, 2008, 05:06 PM
You stud! :D

jrsg
Oct 22, 2008, 05:39 PM
you will get it, mini:
it means she told you to be nice to him and go with it. but you went aggressive :D which is awesome. i wanted to see some *slams him to ground and beats up* stuff, but oh well. ya did gr8 :)

Wow...
I don't know what to say, but wow...

Alty
Oct 22, 2008, 07:18 PM
ttyl-miracle and others, if you want to play go somewhere else, if you want to stay here then read the rules and regulations and follow them, otherwise you will be kicked off this site.

If you're bored then maybe it's time to find a hobby. I'm sure there has to be something for such fine illiterate youths such as you to do. I'm sure you have talents. I know, you could teach people how to text talk (oh, by the way, that's not allowed here, just in case you were wondering).

Chery is a respected member on this site, she's been here a long time, why, because she knows what she's doing, unlike you.

Grow up, get some life experience, go to school, learn to write, then you can come back and give advice. Until then, if you continue the way you have been, your advice isn't wanted or needed here.

We deal with serious issues on this site, we don't need a bunch of cheeky kids running around saying whatever they want.

I'll give you one more chance, if you choose not to heed my warning, I will report you.

Thank you.

emenam
Oct 23, 2008, 09:35 AM
Ones stomach is fat because one always do not exersice after eating but goes striaght to bed

starbuck8
Oct 23, 2008, 09:41 AM
ones stomach is fat because one always do not exersice after eating but goes striaght to bed

What the..? Are you answering the right question here? Do you care to explain that? :confused: :rolleyes:

Alty
Oct 23, 2008, 04:35 PM
ones stomach is fat because one always do not exersice after eating but goes striaght to bed


Confucious say you didn't read the rules and how to navigate the site. Please try again. Thank you. :)

minicupcake
Oct 23, 2008, 05:15 PM
ones stomach is fat because one always do not exersice after eating but goes striaght to bed

LMFAO! That's random. :)

Alty
Oct 23, 2008, 05:23 PM
minicupcake disagrees: who cares let people do what they want

Mini, you need to read the rules and regulations of this site or you will be banned from participating here.

People can't just come here and "do what they want" there are rules to this site which makes it one of the best sites on the internet today.

We don't allow people to just come on and say whatever they want, because, sadly, some people are trouble makers and don't have any sense (I think we've seen examples of that on your thread includeing posts made by you).

People come here with serious problems and serious questions, they don't need a bunch of bored teens giving them bad advice, talking down to them, or making things worse. We do our best to keep the riff raff out of AMHD.

So, if you can follow the rules (one of which is not giving a person a disagree unless their information is factually incorrect), then you are more than welcome to stay, but if you cannot be mature enough to follow the rules then you will be kicked out. I hope I've made myself perfectly clear.

This thread has already been reported by a number of members, it's just a matter of time before the mods take care of the trouble makers.

Good luck.

ttyl-miracle
Oct 25, 2008, 07:54 AM
It would be nice if you could explain what your reply has to do with the Original Poster's question. So sorry that you're bored, and am sure that your answer really helped her a lot.

Do you HAVE to answer every question that is on this thing? Seriously, why are you even on here? You're way past having a boyfriend.

ttyl-miracle
Oct 25, 2008, 07:56 AM
wow...
I don't know what to say, but wow...

What do u mean by "wow?"
What?
You never beat someone up before?

JBeaucaire
Oct 25, 2008, 08:36 AM
do you HAVE to answer every question that is on this thing? seriously, y r u even on here? you're way past having a boyfriend.Chery is the person you're talking to when you come on this site and ask a question. You are welcome and encouraged to post helpful responses, too, but Chery is one of the official Relationship Experts here on the forum. One of her "jobs" is to answer the posts put here.

Please be respectful to all others on this site so as to not lose your posting rights, OK? All constructive input is welcome. We're listening...

411Help
Oct 25, 2008, 08:51 AM
I vote for miracle to be banned. This person clearly disregards the rules placed on this website.

Alty
Oct 25, 2008, 12:45 PM
do you HAVE to answer every question that is on this thing? seriously, y r u even on here? you're way past having a boyfriend.

Okay, I've had enough. Chery is a very respected member on this site, and a very dear friend of mine.

Despite having a terminal disease, she still comes here and helps little brats like you get through relationship ordeals. It may surprise you but we've all been there, done that, you didn't invent dating, or sex, so maybe it's time to listen to someone older and a lot wiser than you.

If you can't behave here then you will be banned, in fact, I'm surprised you haven't been banned already, I have reported this thread a few times already and I know others have as well. It's just a matter of time though, so smarten up or you will be kicked off.

I realize you're bored, may I suggest getting a life? Maybe you should go out and do something constructive with your life instead of trolling around on internet sites.

All I can say is that you're lucky I'm not a mod, you'd be gone already if I was.

This is your last warning, and I don't even think you deserve that at this point. :mad:

jrsg
Oct 25, 2008, 01:54 PM
what do u mean by "wow?"
what?
you never beat someone up before?

I am surprised at your inability to respect others. The way you treat and talk to others is repulsing. Even when Chery is nice, and even offers help, you come back at her with "Why are you even on here?" Just ridiculous.

And for the record, no. I haven't ever beat someone up. Physically, emotionally, or mentally. I defend myself, and sometimes get heated, of course. BUT, no. I have NEVER beat someone up... Especially for entertainment... You're just disgusting.

In my opinion, because of your lack of respect for others, the rules, and pretty much everything under the sun, I think you should be banned.

I really wish you would have handled this differently. You could have received a lot of help here, and giving help too. Too bad... I hope you rethink your ways, and your attitude. You won't get far anywhere acting in such a way. I am fairly certain you are going to be banned, as it is being requested by people, so please, at least accept this as a learning expirience, and walk out of this a better person.

My orgininal 'wow' opinion at your attitude and lack of respect still remains, and is reinforced every time you post.

Chery
Oct 26, 2008, 01:48 AM
(https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/members/jrsg.html)jrsg (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/members/jrsg.html) agrees: exactly what most people here are thinking... Even though I've already reported them, I don't think ttyl deserves the second chance. Good post.
(https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/members/jrsg.html)minicupcake (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/members/minicupcake.html) disagrees: who cares let people do what they want
(https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/members/jrsg.html)friend4u178 (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/members/friend4u178.html) agrees: Balancer.......well you did call me a good looking aussie hunk Alty :)
(https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/members/jrsg.html)starbuck8 (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/members/starbuck8.html) agrees: The ignorance of some people rarely cease to amaze me!

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Dear Alty, greenie, starby, friend, and 411..

If you ask me, this entire thread should be closed, as the original poster has not responded back with much more than a few ratings herself and look who she supports...

I guess it just takes all kinds to make up this world, but we also have a choice as to who we tolerate and for how long.

Thanks for your support in this... and just follow me out of here. We all have better things to do with our prescious time.

C.U. all later, Momma C

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High Max
Oct 26, 2008, 05:40 AM
No wonder your boyfriend is wanting to get with your best friend, I'd be doing the same if I had to put up with this idiocy..

Why don't you all grow up and get the hell out of here.

krad6288
Oct 27, 2008, 12:32 PM
Get over him.

ttyl-miracle
Nov 3, 2008, 07:09 PM
Bored. So bored. What tio doo, what to doo?

ttyl-miracle
Nov 3, 2008, 07:10 PM
OH I KNOW what to do,
Kick his !
Dats what!

ttyl-miracle
Nov 3, 2008, 07:15 PM
alten, go ahead, report me. It won't scare me or get me aggrivated, stupid. I'll go on a different site and ask random questions and have a fun conversation :P

TrueFaith
Nov 3, 2008, 09:21 PM
Can someone please ban This mornic hormonal little infant!

I know your having fun pissing everyone off.
But I bet you're a really weak person in real life.. who does not talk much in puplic or make much of a fuss

Yet you talk very big on a site with no faces..
Yet you are to scared to even talk to a boy you like.. and you kind of stalk him.. which I might add is not going to get you anywhere..

I can see right threw you little girl.

You think your act is tough? People here just feel sorry for you. Because you prove everyone's point that. You are just too young for a place like this. You say you are matuer in ways? You make me laugh

Your just a scared little girl trying to get some attention. Well this is all your getting from me


Now go have a glass of warm milk and go to bed
I think its past your bed time don't you?

411Help
Nov 3, 2008, 10:21 PM
I don't think anybody should give the attention this girl is craving for.

starbuck8
Nov 3, 2008, 10:52 PM
alten, go ahead, report me. it won't scare me or get me aggrivated, stupid. i'll go on a different site and ask random questions and have a fun conversation :P

Damn... I did mean to click on the disagree button. Now go away troll. Grow up and get a life.

jrsg
Nov 3, 2008, 11:07 PM
Damn...I did mean to click on the disagree button. Now go away troll. Grow up and get a life.

Completely agree...
I gave a reddie, so I think that balances out.
The first reddie I have given in a long long time, but I think it was well deserved.

I said I would forget about this thread, but this is getting rediculous:confused::mad:. Had to respond. But this is the last one, promise. :)

starbuck8
Nov 4, 2008, 01:14 AM
TrueFaith agrees: Ohh I agree but that really made me laugh a lot. In the mist of all this young crap. He says that. Ha!

I know! I was ROFLMAO! That was a nice break from all of this freakin nonsense! ;)

Alty
Nov 4, 2008, 10:06 AM
I have once again sent a report to the mods. I think that our previous reports got lost in the mix somehow.

We all know that the mods are great, they'll take care of this problem soon, it's just a matter of time.

I know it's hard to ignore this person, but really, don't feed the troll.

Some people never grow up and act responsibly, most times these kids don't have a proper role model to teach them. Tty-miracle probably doesn't have anyone to teach her how to be an adult, or how to act properly.

She's a bored young person that wants to act tough. She's probably not at all assertive in really life, so she comes to sites like this where she can act tough, pretend that she's something she's not.

Pity her, we all know where this kind of behaviour leads.

linnealand
Nov 11, 2008, 10:29 AM
emenam;1336242]ones stomach is fat because one always do not exersice after eating but goes striaght to bed

Oh boy. For those of you who were wondering what this post was about, I think I figured it out. Have you ever seen that huge advertisement frequently at the top of the AMHD threads that says, "Why is Your Stomach Fat?" well, it appears this person thought that was the OP's own question.

I needed a good laugh, and that did it. I hope it lifts the mood in here a little bit.

Trolling wastes everyone's time, energy and patience.

We rely on the rules to keep this site fun and to protect the people who do so much to support it. How this thread has been able to fly under the radar for almost a month is beyond me. Many threads are regularly removed for much less provocation. I am sure it will be properly addressed soon enough.

starbuck8
Nov 11, 2008, 10:33 AM
oh boy. for those of you who were wondering what this post was about, i think i figured it out. have you ever seen that huge advertisement frequently at the top of the AMHD threads that says, "Why is Your Stomach Fat?" well, it appears this person thought that was the OP's own question.

i needed a good laugh, and that did it. i hope it lifts the mood in here a little bit.

trolling wastes everyone's time, energy and patience.

we rely on the rules to keep this site fun and to protect the people who do so much to support it. how this thread has been able to fly under the radar for almost a month is beyond me. many threads are regularly removed for much less provocation. i am sure it will be properly addressed soon enough.

ROFLAMO! Glad you caught that Linney. That's toooo funny! Yeah, there have been threads closed for reasons unapparent to me, yet this one remains! :rolleyes: