padraik
Oct 18, 2008, 08:41 AM
Hello everyone, just need a little advice here. Me and my wife have been married for about a year. Through our dating period and engagement one of my wife's old boyfiends would continue to contact her by phone and letter. I advised that I was not comfortable about this and asked her to handle it. She never did as she stated she "felt sorry for him" thus making me believe she still had some attachment to him as she wouldn't completely break it off.
Well, as time went on I have let her know that it was a bit of a sore spot with me that he had behaved the way he did and that I didn't respect him. Yesterday she ran into him and decided that she needed to have a "closure" conversation with him as she felt she owed him that.Mainly, she wanted to let him know why it didn't work out and such. I became very upset that this far into our marriage she had not closed this chapter and just don't believe its right to bring another man into our marriage at this point. I guess I was more upset that she was more concerned about this closure with him than its effect on me. Please offer any advice at it would be appreciated.
Well, as time went on I have let her know that it was a bit of a sore spot with me that he had behaved the way he did and that I didn't respect him. Yesterday she ran into him and decided that she needed to have a "closure" conversation with him as she felt she owed him that.Mainly, she wanted to let him know why it didn't work out and such. I became very upset that this far into our marriage she had not closed this chapter and just don't believe its right to bring another man into our marriage at this point. I guess I was more upset that she was more concerned about this closure with him than its effect on me. Please offer any advice at it would be appreciated.