Hey I need more help. I met a girl through msn she is flying to england to stop with me for a week we have been dating for 4 months now. She has seen me on webcam but I afraid when she sees me face to face she's going to think I'm ugly and not want to be with me anymore. Any advice?

I don't know what to do! My girlfriend is perfect!!
She's beautiful, cute, funny, smart
And I'm not really anything, I've had girlfriend before but no one like her. I'm so scared I'm going to mess it up. I want her for keeps. I've never met her but she's coming to stop with me. I'm afraid she's just going to laugh at me for thinking I have a chance with a girl like her. What am I meant to do?

"Ive never met her"??

Is this an internet thing??

She's 'perfect' and you have never met her?? I don't think so - no body is perfect.

All you can do is breathe in, breathe out and take that plunge from fantasyland (internet only) to what others like to call "real life" (but its all real so I call it face-to-face).

It will either migrate into something that works in person or it won't.

Let go of so much expectation.
Let go of so much apprehension.
Let go of everything you can.

Just

Be

You... (the same one she liked online)

I personnaly smile when you say you're dating when you've never seen each other in person.

I agree with Wildcat : how can you say she's perfect when you've never really seen her ( in person, not chatting on MSN ) ?

First, nobody's perfect. There are body imperfections ( too small, too tall, too fat, too skinny, small breasts, wide nose... ).
And then there is personnality : once you really date someone ( meaning : going out, doing some activities together, meeting the family... ), you will realize that you will have to compromise. And it's even worse when you move and live together !

All that to say : if she rejects you just because you're ugly ( you said it, but I don't think that's true, everybody has insecurities, except Angelina or Brad ;) ), then shes' not worth your time.
Just be yourself. Don't act like somebody else : if you start it, you'll have to go on !

Isn't this the risk you take with internet relationships?

All right buddy... first you need to just relax. Consider this: she must be VERY interested in meeting you if she is going to FLY TO ENGLAND just to meet up with you for a week! Really, don't worry... she obviously is already interested. There is no need to feel afraid.

Sure your going to be a little nervous... she will be, too! You can be guaranteed that!

I met a girl online... she was 4 years my senior. I ended up flying to L.A. (which is about 350 miles away) to meet her for a weekend. She was older than me, more successful than me, out of my league as far as I am concerned... BUT, staying true to myself, I didn't let that get in the way. I met her, we had a FABULOUS time... I ended visiting her again months later and had another FABULOUS weekend together.

We never "dated" since we lived 350 miles apart and I knew that would never work for me... but I can say that I love that girl! We still talk to this day and we are great friends.

Internet relationships will always be risky (Im not even going to mention some of the "other" times I have met girls online! ) but they can be a lot of fun and beneficial. I know a couple that is now very happily married. They met online and moved to be with each other.

Don't get your hopes up but just relax, have fun, and most importantly BE YOURSELF!

If I understand your post correctly you haven't even met this girl face-to-face yet and you claim that you've been "dating for 4 months." She has to "fly to England" to meet you so I presume that she lives in another continent. I hate to burst your bubble but what kind of a "chance" do you expect to have with a girl who lives thousands of miles away and you haven't even met in person yet. Certainly having an "e-pen pal" is nice and the fact that you'll have the opportunity to meet her in person makes it even nicer. Unfortunately that's all this really is, however. It sounds like you're building yourself up for a big letdown. Establishing a "relationship" with someone via the internet who lives on another continent really isn't the way to find anything real and lasting.

I met the man I am going to marry next year on the internet and we dated online for about six months before we met face to face and it really wasn't that bad... Once you see her your apprehensions are going to go away for the most part, and the fact that she's already stopping to see you speaks volumes for the trust she has for you. Just be who you are and she'll be who she is... I hope that it works out for you. I traveled 2,300 miles to meet my guy so I don't think that you have anything to worry about.

The best advice. Is BE YOURSELF. The way you have been on the webcame and writing. Be the same person. Relax and breath and enjoy the meeting. Do not fret over something going wrong when nothing has. There is no guarantees in life so just make the best of the experience and whatever comes your way will.

Joe

I agree with everyone, no matter how great and beautiful she may be remember not to loose your own identity in the process of becoming or impressing her.. be you and it will all work out for the best! Good Luck!

hey i need more help. i met a girl through msn she is flying to england to stop with me for a week we have been dating for 4 months now. She has seen me on webcam but i afraid when she sees me face to face shes going to think im ugly and not want to be with me anymore. any advice?

i dont know what to do! my girlfriend is perfect!!!
shes beautiful, cute, funny, smart
and im not really anything, ive had girlfriend before but noone like her. im so scared im gona mess it up. i want her for keeps. ive never met her but shes coming to stop with me. im afraid shes just gona laugh at me for thinking i have a chance with a girl like her. what am i meant to do?

Is she the same girl who were talking about where you wondered if its legal to have sex at your ages?
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/we-legal-27052.html

That would be correct yes.

Just prepare yourself!
Don't get your hopes up so high, I mean you haven't met her in person yet, which means you hardly know her!
Is she from england too?

No she's from Denmark. We have been dating for 4 months and I've know her for 6. we spend about 5-6 hours aday talking.

I wish you the best of luck.

Is she coming down alone?
As she is quite young.

Yes she is but I'm meeting her at the airport

Good luck and keep us posted :)

Don't spose you have any ideas of what I can do for our Anniversary. I'm 15 I've got very little money but want to do something amazing.

How about a pic-nic in the park... always weather permitting I guess..
Prepare some lunch for her, and buy her flowers.

I feel so cofused and old reading this post. Not that I don't get this internet dating thing but a 16 year old traveling alone to meet a 15 year old boggles my mind! Where is this girl staying and how can she afford to fly that distance. Do you drive? What do your parents say about this? What does her parents say about this? I can come up with no answers just questions. Am I Alone?

She is staying with me, her parents are paying, I'm not old enough to dirve, my parents don't really have a problem with it and our parents have spoken over the phone to talk about her coming to england.

I feel so cofused and old reading this post. Not that I don't get this internet dating thing but a 16 year old traveling alone to meet a 15 year old boggles my mind! Where is this girl staying and how can she afford to fly that distance. Do you drive? What do your parents say about this? What does her parents say about this? I can come up with no answers just questions. Am I Alone?

I felt awkuared asking all the questions, but was so curious, thanks talaniman for doing so :)
Wanted to comment but couldn't as I need to spread some round lol


she is staying with me, her parents are paying, im not old enough to dirve, my parents dont really have a problem with it and our parents have spoken over the phone to talk about her coming to england.


OK so it seems all in tact.
Good.
Im happy for you.

BUT I've experienced long distance relationship.
My husband is english. Im maltese.

We lived apart from 1 and a half years, and I'm sure you can't comprehend what it means. Now it will be even harder for you to see her go after she has been. We used to visit each other once every 2 months for a couple of weeks. It does make the heart grow fonder. But you're 16 and she is 15, I'm sure you're both still at school so it will be so hard for you guys to meet up!
I was 19 and he was 22. Abit different!

I've thought about it. I've been through the whole thing like is there any point in this am I just wasting her time when she could be of finding herself a guy in her own country who she can be with everyday. But care for her so much I want to be with her so badly there must be awayof making this work?

Yes - just chill dude!! Be yourself. You're putting too much importance into this.

FEAR =

F = FALSE

E = EMOTIONS

not

A = ACTUAL

R = REALITY

Okay tell me exactly what I'm meant to do then?

Hi. I think you should meet her first and then take it slow. If you like each other after the first actual time together, maybe she could visit you again. You are both very young so try to be patient if it looks like "love".

Also, be careful of course. B/C physically she a stranger. And you should abstain from sex with her because she's the one to face legal problems if you decide to yell "rape".

Otherwise, have a great time!

Fondly, 31pumpkin

she is staying with me, her parents are paying, im not old enough to dirve, my parents dont really have a problem with it and our parents have spoken over the phone to talk about her coming to england.
Ah! More facts brings things to a better light as it seems your parents are involved, but sorry to say the sex thing may be out because I have a feeling your parents may not go for that (NEITHER am I) but I hope you have a great time if you just relax and be yourself!:cool: :)

Yeh like I'm going to go up to my parents and ask them if I can have sex with her ;) id want to but be way way way way to scared. Not like its my first time but with her it would be difficult.:(

Anything is possible.. but not if you put yourself down. Be cool, and stop knocking something before you even tried it. She's just as nervous as you are.

Gather up a lot of self-confidence and get to know her in person. You'll probably wind up wining a great friend (or even more) and will be the richer for letting life take it's course.

Good luck, and keep us posted.

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