My husband and his ex- wife cannot coexist peacefully and we feel that there son is showing signs of PAS and the nonsense she has been putting on us is killing us and our two other kids. We need the paperwork to do so. Can you help me with this?

Why doesn't he take her to court for custody and ask for a parental evaluation. If she is using PAS then she will lose custody. He needs to do this.

He can not give up his rights, he can just not visit, he can stop calling and never see his child.
As long as he merely sends his child support check each month, he does not ever have to contract his ex.

He could also go to court and get all contact to be though a third party if needed.

I'm sorry that this is downright harsh, BUT...

I feel sorry for the child that the parent wants to just walk out of their lives. Maybe his has PAS because of the way the parents treat him.

If giving up your rights was so easy, don't you think there would be a line a mile long around every courthouse in the world?

This just sickens me that parents, and I use the term loosely, want to just give up and walk out on the innocent children when trouble is on the horizon. What is wrong with this world today?

Giving up rights only means that you give up the right to make critical decisions in raising our young population. It does NOT, and I repeat, NOT mean that you are not financially responsible for. You still have to pay for the raising of the child.

I should have put all the information on my original post she is motioning that he pays for EVERYTHING she is claiming that we beat our kids and don't provide them with basic need that we are drug addicts and oh wait we are in debt up to our eye balls due to the rediculus bills she has been sending us and cout is today and we cannot afford a attorney. Her 63 year old fiencee is supporting her and the son she is 28. She is also claiming that we are drug addictis. I have had to deny my daughter doctor visits because we cannot afford it because the son has to be out in front of everything else. She is motioning that we pay all f her attorney fees and we cannot even afford to put fuel in our house for this winter and its already starting to get cold up here in CT. There is a lot more but I need to get ready for court.

Also we don't want to do this but the child has already made up his mind that daddy dosen't love him anymore which is a lie we want the son back in our lives but she won't allow it.

Of course she is "claiming" all of this, that is what happens in dirty divorce or child custody case,
Her and her attorney call you everything in the book, and try and dig up all the dirt they can.

You and your attorney then do the same with her, and you both go into court where the judge throws it all out except for the things that can be proved with evidence.

I should have put all the information on my origional post she is motioning that he pays for EVERYTHING she is claiming that we beat our kids and don't provide them with basic need that we are drug addicts and oh wait we are in debt up to our eye balls due to the rediculus bills she has been sending us and cout is today and we cannot afford a attorney. her 63 year old fiencee is supporting her and the son she is 28. She is also claiming that we are drug addictis. I have had to deny my daughter doctor visits becasue we cannot afford it becasue the son has to be out infront of everything else. She is motioning that we pay all f her attorney fees and we cannot even afford to put fuel in our house for this winter and its already starting to get cold up here in CT. There is alot more but I need to get ready for court.

All of this aside - I don't think you walk away from a child who is obviously having problems and being stressed and is heavily influenced by the other parent.

If you don't beat the kids and don't starve them and you aren't drug addicts you prove it in Court and that part of the issue ends.

The bottom line is that he can't terminate his rights. Just prove that you don't do those things that she is claiming and move on.

There are hundreds of other threads that ask this same question. You might find it valuable to browse through some of them. But the bottomline is that courts are VERY reluctant to grant a TPR. Generally they only do so to clear the way for an adoption or if the parent presents a danger to the child.

As Chuck said, if this person is making false accusations against you, then fight them in court. Judges understand this and if she is caught lying, then she will suffer for it. If she is bringing frivulous coiurt actions, then she can be made to pay your legal costs.

Of course she is "claiming" all of this, that is what happens in dirty divorce or child custody case,
her and her attorney call you everything in the book, and try and dig up all the dirt they can.

You and your attorney then do the same with her, and you both go into court where the judge throws it all out except for the things that can be proved with evidence.


WE had no attorney and guess what we won what we wanted. The system finally rewarded a then single father! Thanks for what everyone said it was all taken to heart but no more help is needed

Glad you got it all worked out!!

I will now close this thread since you said that no more help on this subject is needed.