Hey gang. I just wanted to drop a line (sorry, it's not really a question), to hopefully motivate those of us that are going through a rough break up. I am sure some of you have seen my story and obviously a lot of us are going through some incredible pain right now. The most important thing I have been trying to learn is to believe in myself and just try and enjoy life as it comes. Certain things are hurting me everyday, and everyday is a struggle to get my mind off stuff that I CANNOT control. Have faith that we all will end up happier than we ever were before and have faith that you do not need anyone else to make you happy. My ex has already moved on with her life after a more than 4 year relationship, and it stings, but I will be damned if I let that ruin all of my dreams and wishes. I pray a lot, and I am always going to my friends for advice and comfort. To truly know that there are sooo many people out there that care for you is just a testiment to how good of a person you really are. I will be back and better than ever eventually, and so will all of you dealing with this same type of pain. I do want to say that I have heard so many times that "let her go, if she comes back to you shes yours, if she doesn't she never was." Get that out of your mind. I don't think I will EVER get back with my ex. We had some awesome times and we had some bad times. No matter who she dates or who she is with it will NEVER change my good qualities or diminish my character. I can honestly say that it wasn't meant to happen. Even if four years down the line we run in to each other, I don't think anything will happen. This isn't a movie scripted by Hollywood, this is a movie scripted by us! I can feel myself getting stronger each day. I am still hurting and have cried all of the tears you can imagine, but at the end of the day I realize that I am a good person and there are at ton of beautiful, fun, intelligent and warm hearted women out there. Don't think about being alone for the holidays or on Valentines day (as I do every now and then). Who the hell knows what is going to happen. You could be eating at a joint tomorrow and bam, you hit the love of your life. It's life, and anything can happen.

I wish all of you luck and I thank everyone for their support. I am only on day 3 of STRICT NC and my pain is maybe 1% gone, but my character and my good qualities are 100% there.

I agree it seems when you never expect it, something good happens or someone amazing comes into your life. The pain right now is hard etc. For me, I only make it through the day through prayer reading my bible, I know Gox has someone better for me just the wait is killing. I know now etc. Thinking these past few weeks of all her faults, she would complain about me wearing track pants or a hat just those small little things and more I know someone is out there who will love me for mr.

Yes, someone is out there. Keep your eyes open and don't always try and rush things. Let good things happen to you. My girlfriend treated me like garbage for the last month we were together. I spent around $400 at a bar for her be day and she never once thanked me or even came by and hugged me while I was there. Totally ignored me. Slept on the bathroom floor that night to watch out for her. No appreciation. We deserve better than that, and we will get it!

Remember that part of the movie Home Alone where Kevin McAllister runs out of the house and yells, "I'M NOT AFRAID ANYMORE!!!"?

That is the mental picture I get every time I tell people that the pain of break up will get easier. When I say, "Just choose not to think about them. When you find yourself getting sad, make the mental choice to think about something different."

So, as I've said to others, I say to you... be a Kevin McAllister :)

"I'M NOT AFRAID ANYMORE!"