summerskye08
Oct 13, 2008, 04:47 PM
Hi, I am summer 39 years of age and married for nearly 8 years now. I have 2 kids both in primary school. My marriage has been on the rocks since our first year. My husband is a good bloke but has the tendency to abuse me verbally. Emotionally I am distress and coping every single day to make our marriage work for our kids sake because they adore their dad very much. As for me it is a daily struggle. I love my husband but recently I start to lose my interest in him due to frequent arguments and lack of communication. He has the tendency to blame me for not being able to find a job yet. We are struggling financially, I am looking for some part time jobs but so far unsuccessful, because of this we always tend to argue because he reckons I am not contributing anything in our marriage. It is so hard for me to accept everything he tells me. I feel very hurt with all those harsh words.
3 years ago I met a guy who's younger than me, I instantly felt a connection, until now I still see him but we just talk casually, we are not friends nor lovers, but I feel a strong emotional bond with him. He hasn't said anything to me except some nice compliments. He is really nice and I know he likes me but he is young and a bachelor and I don't want any involvement with him at all while I am still married though my feelings for hime gets stronger everyday. I am now so confused with what to do with my marriage. It has been a mess even before I met this guy. He has nothing to do with it. Though admittingly, I have emotionally connected with him through words (only) I am not intending to do any betrayal to my partner for I believe so much in keeping my dignity at least.
I just want to save our marriage for our kids sake but with that be the solution? I don't think counselling would still work for my partner is against it. I am doing it on my own I think. What do I need to do? I really want to move on and make the first step to be out f this relationship but is that the right thing to do?
Summer skye
3 years ago I met a guy who's younger than me, I instantly felt a connection, until now I still see him but we just talk casually, we are not friends nor lovers, but I feel a strong emotional bond with him. He hasn't said anything to me except some nice compliments. He is really nice and I know he likes me but he is young and a bachelor and I don't want any involvement with him at all while I am still married though my feelings for hime gets stronger everyday. I am now so confused with what to do with my marriage. It has been a mess even before I met this guy. He has nothing to do with it. Though admittingly, I have emotionally connected with him through words (only) I am not intending to do any betrayal to my partner for I believe so much in keeping my dignity at least.
I just want to save our marriage for our kids sake but with that be the solution? I don't think counselling would still work for my partner is against it. I am doing it on my own I think. What do I need to do? I really want to move on and make the first step to be out f this relationship but is that the right thing to do?
Summer skye