Grey Kid
Oct 12, 2008, 08:05 PM
Hey guys,
So I’ve been on two dates (Met her two weeks ago) with this girl and so far there’s promise. Both dates have gone decently well. She’s told me to call her and that we should hang out together soon. But here’s the thing…
She never initiates calling. The five or six times I’ve been on the phone with her during this fortnight, I’ve had to make the calls. Sometimes, when I text her, she doesn’t text back.
Now before you think I bombard her with contact- I don’t. I always make sure to leave 48 hours (at least) between each call, and keep them brief, no more than 5 minutes. Texts messages are sporadic and usually the lead-on from some injoke or teasing.
It seems trivial, but it’s doing my head in.
I know that if I like someone, I would probably text them back if they texted me, or at least not place the ENTIRE responsibility of calling and planning dates on them. Girls, any advice from the female perspective?
It seems like the ‘rules’ state that I should match her phone call for phone call, and that I should wait for her to call. Have I set the wrong pattern by being the one to initiate? When we are together we get along great, but when we aren’t it seems like we are both trying to be as ‘indifferent’ towards each other as possible.
I’m probably over-analysing but I would really appreciate a girl’s perspective (Or a guy in the know). Cheers.
So I’ve been on two dates (Met her two weeks ago) with this girl and so far there’s promise. Both dates have gone decently well. She’s told me to call her and that we should hang out together soon. But here’s the thing…
She never initiates calling. The five or six times I’ve been on the phone with her during this fortnight, I’ve had to make the calls. Sometimes, when I text her, she doesn’t text back.
Now before you think I bombard her with contact- I don’t. I always make sure to leave 48 hours (at least) between each call, and keep them brief, no more than 5 minutes. Texts messages are sporadic and usually the lead-on from some injoke or teasing.
It seems trivial, but it’s doing my head in.
I know that if I like someone, I would probably text them back if they texted me, or at least not place the ENTIRE responsibility of calling and planning dates on them. Girls, any advice from the female perspective?
It seems like the ‘rules’ state that I should match her phone call for phone call, and that I should wait for her to call. Have I set the wrong pattern by being the one to initiate? When we are together we get along great, but when we aren’t it seems like we are both trying to be as ‘indifferent’ towards each other as possible.
I’m probably over-analysing but I would really appreciate a girl’s perspective (Or a guy in the know). Cheers.