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LOG-CHELLE
Oct 6, 2008, 05:41 PM
Okay so I have my daughter who is 3 years old and just a terror, she is a great kid and just smart, I wouldn't change anything about her.
What I run into is the fact that I am a young mom, I am 21 years old I had her young, Her dad doesn't have anything really to do with her, he is ordered to pay child support but doesn't. I have given up on that whole thing but his parents play a huge roll in her life. She goes there just about every weekend and sometimes for a week at a time to save me money on child care. They help me out quite a bit with her and I am very thankful for them.
When I get her back from them she is she totally out of control for a couple days. I understand that grandparents are to spoil their grandchildren but when she spends that much time there then I think that they need to lay down some rules but every time I say something to them it doesn't help anything. I also have told her grandma not to smoke around her and when I went and picked her up one time her grandma was sitting there smoking a cigarette. Don't get me wrong I know that if I don't like the way things are going I can put a stop to it and not have her be there but they play such a huge roll in her life and the same vise versa, I just am confused how to handle it because I don't want to make them mad or think I don't appreciate what they do for me and her...

StaticFX
Oct 7, 2008, 12:18 PM
The best thing you can do is just explain your feelings. Simple.

Sit them down, tell them how much you appreciate all they do... could do it without them. But you really need to ask them to follow some rules. She is your daughter. You need to speak up for her.

If they really care about her, then they will change