Hey, and thanks for reading. I am talking to a girl, and I am so confused about what is going on. She is a girl in a town next to mine, and we started talking. Then we finally met, and hit it off pretty well. So, I asked her out on a date, which I still haven't got yet. I really like her, but she says that she doesn't want to get into anything right now, because she has been hurt too bad in the past. We talk all the time, and we have hung out once after we met, and will be hanging out tomorrow too. I have kissed her, and I think she likes that. She calls me babe, and baby and I call her those kind of names as well. But I'm just so confused, because it is like we are dating, without the actual confirmation. Is there anything like that? I just don't know what to do. I really like her, and would love to date her and show her that I am different than most guys and will treat her very well. Does anybody have any advice?

Does anybody have any advice?

I was in the same situation with a girl I walked with(never date a workmate) My advice, take it slow. Don't rush. Maybe she I just likes to have you around just in case, maybe she likes you. Jst give her some time. If you think it's going nowhere, break it off before you get hurt. I know it may be easier said than done but, trust me.. u don't want to make the same mistake I did

It is possible to go out with a girl who isn't your girlfriend. It's possible to date for MONTHS like that. It is possible to date this girl for years without ever calling her your "girlfriend". It's possible to marry a girl you never called your girlfriend.

So, is it possible to go out with her and have fun and hold hands and kiss and NOT be all "you're mine forever alone aaaaaaaaahhhhhhh"... yes, it's possible.

Just go out with her, talk to her, enjoy each other's company. Quit with the relationship talk, it's unnecessary. If you get all the benefits of being with a great girl except the title... you can live with that. Right?

As Shorn9 said, take it slow... as you know she had been hurt. Its just unfortunate that her former guy left her with some baggage.

If you want her bad, be patient.

Thank you guys. I appreciat it. It all makes sense, but I'm still a little confused by her. I love being around her, and I just want to know how she feels. I just don't know where the place is that I'm in now. Its kind of comfortable, but I kind of want more. Maybe if I do give her time she will see something there.

You are not confused. You are just in hurry, buddy.

Her past is holding her back.

Take your time.

Thank you. I think you are right. I'm just in a hurry. I need to slow her down, I need to give her time to forget her past and think about the future. I hope it all goes well. I will have her over to my house tonight for a movie, and we are going to talk about it. I will let you guys know what happens

OK, I had her over last night and it went amazing. It is going slowly and that is good. I don't know exactly what you would call it, but I'm not going to question it for awhile. As long as I have her beside me and can hang out with her and have a good time, I'm happy! Thanks!

Hey, thank you so much for telling me about the Romeo and Juliet law. I was hoping you could give me some good websites on it and such because I can't find much like if it applies to Oregon. I'm not on here much so if you have a MySpace, my MySpace email is [email protected] If you don't then that's fine too. But yeah, thank you so much. I just don't want anything bad to happen to mine and the guy's relationship. He's a great guy. You're awesome.

Does anybody have any advice?

You asked once,wait about a month or two ask again,if she give's you the same line don't bother any more she just looking for a friend,and she may not have that same feeling you have.

You asked once,wait about a month or two ask again,if she give's you the same line don't bother any more she just looking for a friend,and she may not have that same feeling you have.

Hey thanks. I posted this awhile back. She finally agreed on October 17th and we are still together!