bluediamond
Oct 4, 2008, 09:19 AM
Hey All,
I really need some advice from you guys. This is not the usual "girlfriend or boyfriend needs a break... what should I do type of question... My girlfriend(26) has been struggling with Alcohol very badly since we've been together for the past 4 years. She received a DUI back in April, and has violated probation three times already and has not even seen the judge on the FIRST VIOLATION yet which is scheduled for October 14, 2008. We've been getting into many arugments and fights over the past 4 years, and lately she has been drinking heavily. She did have in intervention where she got VERY WAISTED last week, and told her family that she was depressed because of her job, and that every time we get into an argument I always leave... in which if liquor is involved I do.
Well, I saw her this past Monday, and went to AA with her. On this past Wednesday morning she sent me a text stating that she needed some time to work on herself, and cannot be 100% committed to this relationship, and that it would be fair to me because she is not happy with herself right now, and that in order to be happy in the relationship, she needs to first be happy with herself She stated that she needed to work on her Spirituality & 100% Sobriety by going to AA everyday. Then she said when she calls me in the future, please do not ignore her or treat her like dirt.
Now I've been reading all these posts about the classic: its not you, its me. Meaning they are talking to someone else... but that should NOT always been ruled out to be true. Please let me know your thoughts I would really appreciate it
I really need some advice from you guys. This is not the usual "girlfriend or boyfriend needs a break... what should I do type of question... My girlfriend(26) has been struggling with Alcohol very badly since we've been together for the past 4 years. She received a DUI back in April, and has violated probation three times already and has not even seen the judge on the FIRST VIOLATION yet which is scheduled for October 14, 2008. We've been getting into many arugments and fights over the past 4 years, and lately she has been drinking heavily. She did have in intervention where she got VERY WAISTED last week, and told her family that she was depressed because of her job, and that every time we get into an argument I always leave... in which if liquor is involved I do.
Well, I saw her this past Monday, and went to AA with her. On this past Wednesday morning she sent me a text stating that she needed some time to work on herself, and cannot be 100% committed to this relationship, and that it would be fair to me because she is not happy with herself right now, and that in order to be happy in the relationship, she needs to first be happy with herself She stated that she needed to work on her Spirituality & 100% Sobriety by going to AA everyday. Then she said when she calls me in the future, please do not ignore her or treat her like dirt.
Now I've been reading all these posts about the classic: its not you, its me. Meaning they are talking to someone else... but that should NOT always been ruled out to be true. Please let me know your thoughts I would really appreciate it