I have been married for about 5 years. We went through a really rough patch last year that almost ended our relationship. When we were dating, I told him I didn't want to get married. I explained to him that I loved him, and I knew that I would be with him anyway. I wanted a family, and he explained to me that there was no way that would happen with him if we were not married. I think I fell even more in love with him at that moment, my gosh a man with morals and traditions? Well we have recently found out that biological children are not going to happen. We have lost so many that every time it tore us apart a little more, so we stopped trying. My husband is fine with it being only him and I, me I still want the house full of kids. We talked about adoption, I am all for this, but my husband tells me he is not raising someone else's kids. When he told me this he was very cold about it, he told me that this is my problem not his. I think I could have gotten through the not have children, but the problem is the attitude that my husband now has with me about families. Every time someone tells us they are going to have a baby, I see him cringe. He often tells people to not tell me because it puts me in a funk. I swear this is not true, I may get a little down but not anything drastic and I certainly do not do that in front of people or my husband. I thought that over time this would blow over I never bring up the subject of children or adoption any more. My husband still treats me this way, he has even started to throw it up to me that he will be the only person later on in life to take care of me so I should be very nice to him. I don't know where to go from here, There are so many good qualities about my husband, I mean there really are more good than bad (I have the list). He is so good to me in every other way, just not when it comes to children. I have asked him if children are that important that maybe we should go our own ways, if he feels the need to have them. He tells me he likes it better that we are alone, all we need is each other. I am afraid that maybe he feels the marrige was a mistake, because there will be no children. I asked him once if that was the case he just looked at me and told me to never ask him that again. Can some one please tell me how to fix this mess?

Many couples can not have children, the problem here is he appears to not being honest with you on how he feels, The problem here is that you both have to talk opening about how you feel.
And to be honest an adopted child is "your" child there are 1000's needing a good home.

I hate to sound like a broken record on the board but you really need to bring this up with a counselor. They can help him by finding out why he feels as he does towards adoption.

I was faced with a similar situation as we had tried and tried to have children and we decided not to do adoption and such. Low and behold on our very last attempt I became pregnant and I am ashamed to say, I had talked myself out of having children and how great our lives were going to be because we were not tied down etc.. . That I was sad to find myself pregnant.

Meaning, that maybe he can not bear to put himself through what he concieves to be an arduous task of the adoption process.

Whether you attain a family with children or not, the lack of communication and kindness he is not showing you really deserves a nice long session with a counselor. Good luck and I am sorry you are going through this.

Speaking from personal experience, infertility can honestly break a marriage if you let it. It nearly broke my husband and I. I can totally relate to what you're feeling because the problem is with me, not him. However, despite that my husband has never once thrown it in my face. We started to get stressed and it started to harm our marriage but we stopped it immediately. We decided to give it to God and not let it break us up.
Your husband is WRONG. You are not to blame, no matter if you have the infertility problem or not. You certainly didn't ask for it! Its often something you are born with, no matter the cause for the IF, so get that thought out of your head.
Yes, you have every right to be in a funk when another fertile myrtle gets pregnant by simply taking a breath! He needs to understand that your heart is broken, he needs to support you.
I strongly recommend counceling. I don't imagine he'll go at first, because he is quite bitter about the situation. That is the reasons for his comments and bad attitude. He does need to go through, to talk his feelings out. Either way, I recommend you attending therapy to get through this. It's a hard thing to deal with, and not only can it break your marriage, it can break you as well.
Once he sees an improvement in you, and your overall ability to deal with the IF better, he may turn around and go to therapy himself -- I hope he does, he would benefit from it.
Best of luck to you,