shane4444
Oct 2, 2008, 11:28 AM
So I just got out of a relationship of about a year. The girl being my best friend before that for a year. When we first met we hooked up a few times then she somewhat fizzled out. This was a girl when the first time I saw her AI thought she was amazing. She was everything I wanted in a woman. Successful, beautiful, from the same area as me, and it turns out our parents knew each other in high school.
So this fizzled out after about a month but I still wasn't over it. I kept my distance for awhile and we ended up becoming very close friends. But deep down I knew I wanted to be more. After awhile we became closer and closer and eventually started dating. It really never felt like she was 100% into it by some of the things she would like, like call previous guys she used to date all the time. I would catch her in lies about what she was doing. But during this time we were getting closer and closer. I eventually fell in love with her.
During this time she developed a nice little drug problem.
Putting me in situations where we would have to go meet with her drug dealer, spend our whole night looking for drugs, and eventually lying to me and telling me she wasn't on it when it was evident she was.
Every time I would call her out on some of her lies she would flip it on me, get angry and make me feel like I'm trying to control her.
Recently I had enough and told her I can't deal with the drugs and the lies anymore. So in return she started hanging out with one of her other guy friends non stop who accepts her doing what she is doing.
Im close with her family and she is with mine. It kills me to let this go
I love this girl. She means more to me than anyone. I know I can't change her and I need to walk away. I just sent her an email telling her all of this. Bad move?
Im going crazy about this and can't get her out of my head because I know how she gets when she's messed up.
What the hell do I do??
So this fizzled out after about a month but I still wasn't over it. I kept my distance for awhile and we ended up becoming very close friends. But deep down I knew I wanted to be more. After awhile we became closer and closer and eventually started dating. It really never felt like she was 100% into it by some of the things she would like, like call previous guys she used to date all the time. I would catch her in lies about what she was doing. But during this time we were getting closer and closer. I eventually fell in love with her.
During this time she developed a nice little drug problem.
Putting me in situations where we would have to go meet with her drug dealer, spend our whole night looking for drugs, and eventually lying to me and telling me she wasn't on it when it was evident she was.
Every time I would call her out on some of her lies she would flip it on me, get angry and make me feel like I'm trying to control her.
Recently I had enough and told her I can't deal with the drugs and the lies anymore. So in return she started hanging out with one of her other guy friends non stop who accepts her doing what she is doing.
Im close with her family and she is with mine. It kills me to let this go
I love this girl. She means more to me than anyone. I know I can't change her and I need to walk away. I just sent her an email telling her all of this. Bad move?
Im going crazy about this and can't get her out of my head because I know how she gets when she's messed up.
What the hell do I do??