There is a lot to this story, but in the interest of space & time I will try to give you the cliff notes.

There "was" a period of time much earlier this year where my wife and I had some intimacy issues in the bedroom. She is 34 and all the sudden became extremely horny, which I interpreted to her reaching her sexual prime... She has admitted to me that she is attracted to a movie actor "Karl Urban" and that she often fantasies about him. She watches the same 3 movies almost obsessively (Borne Supremacy, Dune, & Pathfinder). You got it, all three star her favorite crush. I had no problem with it at first, but when she would watch the same movies every day 2 - 3 x's a day and then started to fast forward to just those scenes with this actor in it, I started to wonder if there was more to this than I thought.

To add to things, I have found over the course of 3 1/2 months, a ridiculous amount of You Tube clips on this guy "Karl Urban" focusing on him as a fantasy not his acting :)... I have confronted her about it, since I caught her doing it several times, and I can tell that she is being less than honest with me. She says that she is just exploring her fantasies and that we (rather I) am not at a point that she feels comfortable talking to me about them in greater detail. I have found these You Tube clips on our home PC, Laptop and her work computer. (She is self employed).

It needs to be said that we had some marital issues (no cheating, that I am aware off :( ) for the past year. We married at 24 and recently celebrated our 11th wedding anniversary. We have a 10 yr old son. We are currently in couples counseling and have been for 3 months.

Is there more to this? Or am I just reading too much into it?

There is a lot to this story, but in the interest of space & time I will try to give you the cliff notes.

There "was" a period of time much earlier this year where my wife and I had some intimacy issues in the bedroom. She is 34 and all the sudden became extremely horny, which I interpreted to her reaching her sexual prime... She has admitted to me that she is attracted to a movie actor "Karl Urban" and that she often fantasies about him. She watches the same 3 movies almost obsessively (Borne Supremacy, Dune, & Pathfinder). You got it, all three star her favorite crush. I had no problem with it at first, but when she would watch the same movies every day 2 - 3 x's a day and then started to fast forward to just those scenes with this actor in it, I started to wonder if there was more to this than I thought.

To add to things, I have found over the course of 3 1/2 months, a ridiculous amount of You Tube clips on this guy "Karl Urban" focusing on him as a fantasy not his acting :)... I have confronted her about it, since I caught her doing it several times, and I can tell that she is being less than honest with me. She says that she is just exploring her fantasies and that we (rather I) am not at a point that she feels comfortable talking to me about them in greater detail. I have found these You Tube clips on our home PC, Laptop and her work computer. (She is self employed).

It needs to be said that we had some marital issues (no cheating, that I am aware off :( ) for the past year. We married at 24 and recently celebrated our 11th wedding anniversary. We have a 10 yr old son. We are currently in couples counseling and have been for 3 months.

Is there more to this? or am I just reading too much into it?



I'm not an expert on this board but this would only concern me from the lying about it standpoint if, in fact, she is. He's purely a fantasy. Now, if she was leering at the mailman, I'd feel differently.

It doesn't sound like she's taking time away from your relationship, either. She may very well be taking time away from work but it sounds like she's self employed - ?

Maybe I don't get jealous or threatened easily enough - I don't know.

Keep her entertained, loved ,pleased... for example when your in bed before you do anything pout and tell her getting jealous of Karl and shell laugh and find it cute.. (this is exactly what I do wit my boyfriend and when he does it I get really turned on) than after your done and you know she was satisfied joke and say see baby Karl has nothing on me! Lol how can sum movie star possibly make her happy in the way you do? :)