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nicole0789
Sep 28, 2008, 01:57 PM
One of my real close friends and 1 had a falling out recently, I will say its all my fault I was dealing with a real diffucult break up and will we were suppose to go to the beach and the night before my brother said something that trigged a breakdown for me, so I turn to my ex for help, I know stupid move which resulted us fighting and me crying, I am not over him. I call my friend in tears to tell her and once she finds out it has to do with my ex she just does not care she says she heard it all before and is tired of it. She herself was dealing with a break up but unlike me she broke up with and he moved away to get away from the hurt thus hurting her. So I end up canceling the trip because I was deppressed since then she has not talked to me. I tired calling to aplogize but she does not care. I hurts because I really need her help and support and she was trying to tell me that her problems were worse than mind. Nowthis was like 2 months ago , however I hear her ex is moving in with her at college for awhile. And I am not sure why but this really tiggered something in me. I can't stop crying. Its like I am hurt that she got her way with her ex. Any feedback please ?

bulanik
Oct 2, 2008, 11:23 AM
I understand what you are going through, it is hard, I know, you will have to be strong, because you will have to wait awhile, until things get settled... she will come back to you

isabelle
Oct 5, 2008, 06:38 AM
Hon, she will either come back or she won't. It is no longer up to you because it sounds as if you have done all you can do.
I am very concerned that you can not move on with your life either about your ex or your friend. You may have some problems with desertion. My best advise would be to tell you to seek some help. Perhaps with a Counseler or a Psychologist. You need to work on yourself esteem. You have been very hurt but there are things you can do to help yourself deal with this. Remenber there is no shame in asking for help. They fact that you reached out for help on this board makes me think that you can and will pull through, but you may need more help than any of us can give you.

Choux
Oct 5, 2008, 03:58 PM
You are going through one of the most difficult and unpleasant experiences in life... losing a friend.