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ChaoticIllusion
Sep 23, 2008, 12:52 PM
Over the last year and a half I have noticed my husband constantly looking on the internet for gay porn and she-male porn on a daily basis or whenever he can without me catching him. He WILL NOT discuss sex with me AT ALL. We have not had sex in over 6 months and nothing I do will arouse him. Before we were married he was a sex machine, and after we moved in together it dwindled. After our daughter was born it became non existent. Is my husband gay?:confused:

450donn
Sep 23, 2008, 01:55 PM
Would not be the first time a person tried to hide their sexuality. I guess you need to ask him point blank. And then consider the options from there.

Choux
Sep 23, 2008, 04:21 PM
It is probably more likely that he got into porn, and as happens, the need for more and different visual stimulation is needed to get the desired result, getting turned on and hard, and masturbating to ejaculation.

It sounds to me like he is in the grip of something he can't control or doesn't want to control... yet.

jjwoodhull
Sep 23, 2008, 04:27 PM
Regardless of weather or not he is gay, there is something wrong with your relationship. You need to find a way to communicate with him. If you are both interested in improving your marriage then you should go to couple's counseling. If he won't go, go without him.

smoothy
Sep 25, 2008, 10:20 AM
Nope not likely gay... just has an interest in seeing that sort of porn.

Unless he is into playing the flute rather than going clam diving then he might be.

flickka
Sep 26, 2008, 09:41 AM
I'm going to disagree with some people here. Your husband is exhibiting gay tendencies. Many homosexual men who are in the closet get married, pretend they love women until their wives give them children, then they struggle to keep up with the act. Its very unlikely that a heterosexual man will "get off" on homosexual porn. That and the fact that he's withdrawing from you sexually speaks volumes. Create a scenerio where he'll have no choice but to reveal his true sexuality.

bicourious63
Oct 31, 2008, 09:43 PM
Well is he gay only you and he will know the answer to that. I am a married man who loves his wife.The one person I want to talk to about sex is her but she seems to not to wamt to hear me. I love women very much everything about them turns me on but I have been with women. I also have gotten on line and looked at gay porn and shemales gay porn really does nothing for me. But I will tell you this shemales drive me crazy I have this fantasy of preforming oral sex on a man I do not see myself as gay if you ever meet me you would never know. But I have a very femine side I love wearing women's panties and there is so many kinky things I want to do with my wife. But for men these things are wrong while two women together is okay in society.My wife has been with other women and I have no problem with that but when I tell her I am courious about sex with a man she says no way its not wright. She makes me feel bad about my thoughts while I never have about hers. Open your mind and talk to your man it could open a whole new door in your relationship who knows you might like it. THE ONLY WAY TO KNOW IS TO ASK HIM I AM 45YEARS OLD AND HAVE HAD A FANTASY OF HAVING SEX WITH ANOTHER MAN MOST OF MY LIFE AND HAVE NEVER DONE IT WHAT DOES THAT MAKE ME?? Good luck