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princefan
Sep 23, 2008, 08:29 AM
Hey new to the forum and just need some advice about what 2 do... about a month ago my girlfriend of 2 years decided she wanted to do the whole break thing and gave me the line that she wants to get back together in the future and she still loves me... 4 about a week I was a mess and did the whole begging thing until I realized there was no way 2 get her back and then I just cut contact with her. A week later she called wanting 2 hang out and we spent the weekend 2geth (we're 2 hrs apart going 2 dif schools, both in last semester of college) and then this past weekend we were together all weekend as well. Durin the time together she's been talking about future plans together and when we'll get married and such. All is great with that but... a month ago when she asked 2 go on a break I discovered on her email that she was up all night one night with another guy (who she said they just talked) and in an email to her friend she asked her friend if he was a legit guy and told her they completely hit it off. Durin my week of going crazy and the weekends we've been hangin out I've gone through her texts (I know I'm bad) n they're all these text from this guy late at night and so on so forth, 2 in particular bothered me. 1 was a night insisted on seeing her and she texted him 'omg paul (me) is coming over and I told him not to' and the other one was a night when we were laying in bed and she texted him ' I want to see you too' after he texted her I want to see u... 2 days ago I asked her to come to my place this weekend and she said yes but later that night she said she doesn't know because she doesn't know what her friends are doing (btw I work full time along with going 2 school so each weekend I usually get one night off)... she then asked me if I wanted to drive down after work that day. I finally had enough and told her she didn't respect me at all and brought up my trust issues with her and that other guy to which she told me they're just friends and most of the time they talk she talks about what we're going through... im really upset with everything is going on and just want some advice on where I should go next with my situation... we haven't talked since that night

carly381
Sep 23, 2008, 10:38 AM
First step is чou need to talk.
Things won't sort themselves out. Maчbe чou wernt made for each other if there is not enough trust in the relationship then reallч where is the relationship ? Its proberallч hard to come to terms with but if she was texting this guч and emailing him behind чour back and didn't think of saчing she had made a new friend then maчbe чou need to question whether it is worth it or not ?
Hope I've helped.

Kyasarin19
Sep 23, 2008, 09:13 PM
Well, if she means the world to you, and the trust thing is falling apart. You'll have to talk it out with her, don't rush into accusations so fast, girls hate that. Explain how you feel, and express it out with her. Rushing will only make it worse. Trust is a big part of a relationship, if she cares about you, she will take consideration of your feelings and save this relationship with you. - best wishes!