Ok, so my other posts explain the breakup. Recently, I was asking about why one of my bandmates had disappeared. My ex's friend contacted me to hang out. We had hung out a couple of times since the breakup, I don't talk about the ex and she was good about not talking about her. This most recent time she got me nice and drunk (she wasn't) and told me that my former bandmate and ex had been spending every waking and sleeping moment together, I will not go into details. Obviously being drunk I broke down and went through every emotion humanly possible. I got out of town for a while and couldn't help myself. I called her. I know I shouldn't have but I couldn't help it, I wanted some kind of explanation (lies or not). She proceeded to tell me what was wrong with me in the relationship (not even one hint of remorse). I told her she had a drinking and drug problem but have a nice life with exfriend. She swore there was no sex and then said it was none of my business ( I didn't ask). Then she began defending her actions by pointing out everything I have been up to fro the past month and a half (which has been innocent). I realized that one of my roommates/bandmates had been feeding her all of this information. Simply put, I threw him out ,my ex's friend then sent me text messages basically calling me the most miserable person in the world. All of these people are now out of my life for good, but can anyone tell me what the hell happened.

What happened is that you just found out who your real friends are and who isn't worth your time.

I can tell you what the hell happened. Not with them but with you. Your life just got 1000 times better because you choose to stand up for yourself and say that your ex's and "friends" behavior was not good enough for you. You choose to join the minority of people who demand respect and if it isn't given to you, you take it. Do not in any way, shape or form let the weak wrongly shape your view that defending yourself is wrong. You've done something they are unfamiliar with, you showed respect for yourself and when they wouldn't they couldn't handle it.

This depends on who dumped who, what informations are you trying to gain from this question being asked?

This depends on who dumped who, what informations are you trying to gain from this question being asked?

We broke up with each other 3 or 4 times. By the end I broke it off. She went around bragging about how good single life was. Then showed up at my house at 330 in the morning asking why I wouldn't be her friend. I said I would but I needed time. We did have sex ( I was really drunk, not a good excuse but) the next morning she asked me to move her air conditioner I said get one of the other guys that she had been seriously flirting with while we were dating to move it. That was pretty much the last time we talked.

My question, aside from figuring out these people didn't really care about me (or each other, her friend trashed her to me after telling me what she was up to). What is my ex up to? I can't help but take a lot of this personally. Is she just going crazy without taking me into consideration or was this intentional?

Hard to say what happened. It seems unclear to me. But I do notice that you were drunk both times bad things happened. At least I gather you regret having sex with your ex. Maybe you should quit drinking? Just a thought. I haven't read your other thread, so I may be missing major elements of this story.

Hard to say what happened. It seems unclear to me. But I do notice that you were drunk both times bad things happened. At least I gather you regret having sex with your ex. Maybe you should quit drinking? Just a thought. I haven't read your other thread, so I may be missing major elements of this story.

I drink once a month if that.

Eh. It doesn't matter.