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kanne12
Sep 21, 2008, 09:05 PM
My boyfriend and I have just broke up today, but the thing is, we've broke up many times before in the past. We have been friends for 6 years, and always dated on and off. We had a lot of troubles in our past with trust, but we always had a lot of great times together. He is the only person in this world that I know better than my family, and visa vesa. We had a life planned together, up until now. I broke up with him because we fight constantly, but it's always about stupid things. He's always going to hang out with his friends, and leaving me by myself. Every time we talk about a future he gets nervous and stressed out. I want him to be excited about a future and want to start living it, but it dosen't seem like that will ever happen. I am only 20, but I feel like without him, I won't find anyone ever that I get along with as well as I do with him. He makes me laugh and were comfortable around each other, but he also makes me cry sometimes. He constantly gets stressed out about things, and has a lot of anxiestes, where I do not. I feel like I plan everything for us. I love him very much, but I feel like if we stay together, I have a dead end future. Am I being concided, or is this the right thing?

redwee74
Sep 21, 2008, 09:55 PM
You are still young and first loves are hard to get over. The fact that you all have broken up and got back together should show you that it is not working. I believe that the relationship is more about comfort. You will find someone else who loves and complements your needs. Just hang in there and give the single life some time, this will allow you to figure out where your headed and what you want for the long haul. If it does happen to be him great. But you may find someone who is better, you will never know if you don't try. You are still young and are going to meet many more people. I would just let it go for now.

kminni01
Sep 21, 2008, 10:25 PM
It definitely sounds like you both have some thinking to do when it comes to being together. I mean, you both want to be on the same page and maybe discussing it will stress him out and you, but you have a long time ahead of you and I believe that you can make it work some how. Just give it time and patience and enjoy being together. Try not to let the little things get in the way and try just try and work things out. A relationship is a group effort though and you shouldn't be doing all the work. Just always try and make every situation a positive one... you know what I mean? I wish you both the best and a long and happy future together!

<3 kt

chuff
Sep 22, 2008, 03:14 AM
You both are too young to know what you want.

talaniman
Sep 22, 2008, 05:06 AM
If you can't see that no matter what, you haven't made this work.

Its time to get over your fear, and see the rest of the world, and live your life for something else besides him.

You have been together to long to be healthy to either of you.