what2 do
Sep 19, 2008, 05:37 PM
Please help!
I have a coworker that has been sending mixed signals for about a year now. We were friends a few years ago then I left the company. I came back and now I am confused.
I don't know what to think. When I was there initially, we were good friends and joked around a lot. He even came to my wedding with his wife.
When I came back to work with the company he was still there but divorced. He asked me if I was still married (I thought jokingly). He was very flirty and playful at times then mean (jokingly) at other times.
He continues to be flirty at times, jokes with me, as he does everyone but it seems to be on a different level to me. He tells me he loves me (I assume jokingly), he is very sexual with me at times. I find him staring at me at times. He calls me sometimes on my cell phone (but always blocks his number) for who knows what reason and contacts me after work via text messages or emails. He seems to go in cycles of flirty/fun then cool off period and then flirty/fun again.
This man is well liked and I admit to joking with him on some sexual levels but I don't know what his motives are. He kids with everyone- even sexually but I am sure he doesn't ask them the nasty questions he has asked me.
My question is, is my friend wanting more or just being flirty or what?
I have told him I want to speak with him, which he agrees to, but every time we are suppose to talk something comes up. I even invited him to a party, which initially he said he couldn't attend. He kept bothering me by saying you didn't invite me, so I did and he said he was busy (as he did previously)
What are your thoughts?
I have a coworker that has been sending mixed signals for about a year now. We were friends a few years ago then I left the company. I came back and now I am confused.
I don't know what to think. When I was there initially, we were good friends and joked around a lot. He even came to my wedding with his wife.
When I came back to work with the company he was still there but divorced. He asked me if I was still married (I thought jokingly). He was very flirty and playful at times then mean (jokingly) at other times.
He continues to be flirty at times, jokes with me, as he does everyone but it seems to be on a different level to me. He tells me he loves me (I assume jokingly), he is very sexual with me at times. I find him staring at me at times. He calls me sometimes on my cell phone (but always blocks his number) for who knows what reason and contacts me after work via text messages or emails. He seems to go in cycles of flirty/fun then cool off period and then flirty/fun again.
This man is well liked and I admit to joking with him on some sexual levels but I don't know what his motives are. He kids with everyone- even sexually but I am sure he doesn't ask them the nasty questions he has asked me.
My question is, is my friend wanting more or just being flirty or what?
I have told him I want to speak with him, which he agrees to, but every time we are suppose to talk something comes up. I even invited him to a party, which initially he said he couldn't attend. He kept bothering me by saying you didn't invite me, so I did and he said he was busy (as he did previously)
What are your thoughts?