View Full Version : I'm scared of my anger
freshstarter
Sep 18, 2008, 12:48 PM
I'm 22 years old. As far back as I can remember I've had a temper. Recently though, I've being though a really bad time.
I don't know what's going on anymore. I'm angry all the time and my emotional state is messed up. I'll be watching something on TV and I'll start crying. The final straw was last week. I've lost my boyfriend though my anger now and I can't cope. I feel so alone. Last weekend I got so angry that I punched down a brick wall. I've broke my little finger, index finger fractered my thumb and broke 3 knuckles all in my right hand. The worst part is I didn't feel any of it.
Some off the thought in my head are scaring me now. I'm lossing the plot. Things that I'm thinking of doing to people are horrific. I'm so scared. Somebody please help me.
charleneskii
Sep 18, 2008, 12:59 PM
I've got a temper myself & one of the things I tried was writing my feelings down. You'd be surprised how much it can help to get you feelings down on paper. Some of my best stuff was when I was pissed. Try it.
ANB428
Sep 18, 2008, 01:06 PM
You need to go talk to a Psychologist. They will help you out. You may need medication to help you control your anger. Have you talked to your parents about it? How long have you been like this? Throughout all of your teenage years or just recently. Have you been taking any sort of drugs that may have some hard come downs? What triggers your anger? Do you go from beign happy to one minute, then go to sad, and then go to mad?
ANB428
Sep 18, 2008, 01:59 PM
I meant a psychiatrist, not a psychologist. A psychiatrist is not a therapist. They don't sit down and go into depth with your problems. They ask you about your moods and your stability and they may diagnose a person with bipolar, or being depressed, a lot of people who have mood swings may be bipolar and not know it. A therapist is a person you sits down and counsels you. That is what I mean. I totally agree with you on the sitting down with a stranger and pouring your heart out 100% and then you have to pay that stranger to listen to your problems. I can't do that either. I have anger problems as well and that is how I delt with them and now I rarely ever get angry. I mean I get upset, but I don't go around beating down walls and stuff and losing control of myself.
ANB428
Sep 18, 2008, 02:10 PM
Well no, they prescribed me medication that helped stabalize the chemicals in my brain.
charleneskii
Sep 18, 2008, 02:13 PM
I know some people who have done that &...
charleneskii
Sep 18, 2008, 02:13 PM
They weren't properly diagnosed. They only got worse.
charleneskii
Sep 18, 2008, 02:14 PM
And some medication actually increase these desires in young people.
ANB428
Sep 18, 2008, 02:18 PM
Well, I also had the same experience when I was about 17 or 18. I took some medication for depression and mood swings and it never really worked. It made me more depressed and down on life, but now I am on a different medication and I am 22 and it has worked for me so far. I understand what you are saying and you do have a point. It was just a suggestion.
charleneskii
Sep 18, 2008, 02:20 PM
I'm 20 & have never been on medication. I've found that just learning to deal with my issues was the absolute best way to get more control over my emotions. I don't really support medicating people unless its completely proven that they need it.
ANB428
Sep 18, 2008, 02:28 PM
I totally agree with you as well. I didn't believe in medication either because it didn't work the first time. That is what I told the psychatrist when I first went in there and he told me that some people have a chemical embalance in their head and to look at it like a disorder like diabetes and that they need to take the medication to level the chemicals in their brain. I tried everything to channel my anger though, journaling, talking to the person who made me angry, trying to control my emotions and that didn't work for me. So, you may have been able to fix yourself with out medication, but some people can not. I have been studying on this for years, but I have had a pretty messed up life, so I have a lot of emotional issues as well as my anger problems. With the medication I can focus on the real issues while the medicine levels my brain out. I am not saying that the op should go get put on medication like I said before it was a suggestion for them to go talk to a professional instead of figuring it out on their own. That is all.
silverfox1988
Sep 18, 2008, 05:48 PM
You might all think this sounds like a silly idea, so sorry if it does. It's a very, very basic concept that doesn't require medical assistance- however I'm not entirely sure if it would solve anything in the long run, or merely help while you find out what's causing these aggressive mood swings.
But I suggest, next time you get angry- stop, and do some form of breathing exercises. It sounds silly, but sometimes if you simply interrupt that 'angry' moment, you can calm yourself down.