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Clob12
Sep 18, 2008, 04:11 AM
I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years, resently he told me that he didn't love me any more but he would stay with me and try and work at the relationship if that's what I wanted. He said that he had had that feeling before when we were going through a rough patch but his feelings for me had always come back, he said that this time it was different though because they are stronger and he wasn't sure if they would come back this time. I feel really isolated because while I have been withmy boyfriend I have noglected my friends so I don't feel like I have anyone to turn 2. I really love him and don't want 2 loose him, my life feels really empty without him because we spend a lot of time together, what should I do?

pinkcelly123
Sep 18, 2008, 12:19 PM
Leave him.. why would you want to be with a guy who doesn't love you after 2 and half years anymore.. yea you feel alone without him but you should feel the same with him... alone . Because really the relationship is over.. what are you sticking around to work out ? He came out and said he would work this out if YOu wanted... its should be equal

liz28
Sep 19, 2008, 04:59 PM
You should've never isolated your friends. You can always have a boyfriend and friends, your life should never revolve around your boyfriend. After 2 years now he drops the ball that he don't love you and my question is do you really want to be with someone that don't love you? If so why? Sadly to say, sometimes people grow apart.

jrsg
Sep 19, 2008, 05:50 PM
I'm with the others...

It may be time to end the relationship.

The 2.5 years you have had together I'm sure have been great, but if he doesn't love you anymore, there can't be a good, healthy relationship there.

He is probably a good guy, and told you he didn't love you anymore so you know the situation. He probably doesn't want to break up with you because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings. I'm sure he doesn't want to call it quits either though, after over two years, it is tough.

But think about it...
If you two continue the relationship, how would it work? You would loooove him, and he would like you. It just wouldn't be fair. For you to give him all that love, and receive no love in return. "It takes two to tango." A cliché saying, yes, but true. You don't want to drag out a one-sided relationship.

I think you should sit down and talk with him, and seriously consider breaking up, if he still doesn't love you.

If it does happen (the break up) and you need support, come right back here, to this forum. This is the place to get suport. I'm sure you have some friends to lean on too.

Good luck,
And I know this can be tough, but it sometimes has to be done.
I think it will be the best thing for the both of you.

lelanator5
Sep 19, 2008, 07:53 PM
I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years, resently he told me that he didnt love me any more but he would stay with me and try and work at the relationship if thats what i wanted. He said that he had had that feeling before when we were going through a rough patch but his feelings for me had always come back, he said that this time it was different though because they are stronger and he wasnt sure if they would come back this time. i feel really isolated because while i have been withmy boyfriend i have noglected my friends so i dont feel like i have anyone to turn 2. i really love him and dont want 2 loose him, my life feels really empty without him because we spend alot of time together, what should i do?
A good relationship is hard for a boy to get. If you are having a bit of a time where his feelings aren't that strong, you need to return his feelings, simply kiss him, make out with him, tell him how you care about him, give him toung lol if he likes it. You need to make him like you again, by giving him what he wants, and a boy wants love.

NItEMArE129
Sep 19, 2008, 08:17 PM
Have you talked to him about the other parts of life? A lot of the time people attribute stress from other parts of their lives to their partners. Try talking to him to see if there's anything else bothering him at the moment, and then help him get through it. He might be blaming you for something else just because relationships are a large part of someone's life.