I'm going to tell my whole story. It's long, but it would really mean a lot to me if you could read it and give me some advice.

I'm a 21 year old female, and have been with the same guy since I was 15 years old. I've never been with anyone else. We have a beautiful 15 month old daughter together, and I want to spend the rest of my life with him.

I got pregnant in my first year of college, and decided not to go back after I had the baby because it was too far from my family. My boyfriend went back however, to finish his trade. Our daughter was born in June, and he went bck to school the beginning of September. He started cheating on me within 2 weeks of being gone... I never found out until I went to see him in October. I was so mad and upset, but I still wanted so badly to be with him. We ended up breaking up towards the endof October. He missed our baby girl's first Christmas and didn't even care. Anyway, after a lot of lies and drama and whatnot, we got back together in February (almost 5 months). He told me he wa so sorry and would never do it again. But I wanted him to make it up to me and the baby. I wanted my chance to be mad at him. He tells me it's my fault that he cheated, because I was such a to him last summer after I had the baby.

Sometime in March I believe (when he came home for Easter), we were arguing because I was after finding out another lie, and I think I hit him. We were in bed, and all of a sudden he reached over and started choking me. I don't really know how to explain what happened... I guess I blacked out.. I started hearing noise like people were talking (I know that probablysounds really strange.. it was just the first time I ever experienced anything like that)... then I guess I came to again and he was leaning over me looking down at me. He got really upset, and said "What did I do?"... he went out into the living room and cried. Afterwards he apologized and said he felt really bad about it.

That wasn't the first time he'd physically abused me. He's punched me, slapped me, and kicked me before... but that was the first time I ever really feared for my safety.. for my life. He moved back home the end of April.

That wasn't the last time it happened... he did it more times after that.. and the past few months have been very stressful and difficult. He's bruised me all over my legs and sides and arms... he busted open my lip on the right side. He tells me it's because I'm a and expect him to make up for things instead of letting them go. I've made excuses about the bruises... I want to be with this man. One of my friends knows that he's hit me before.. but I've never told anyone the full extent of things.

He moved out in early July and went to live with his parents. Did some nasty and uncalled for things... but in the end we decided to try and work it out again, and he moved back in the end of August.

The past couple of weeks have been really aweful. I found out I was pregnant in early August... but because of all the stress I've been going through, only me and him know... I don't want to end up having a miscarriage and everyone know about it... and I'm so afraid that it's going to happen.

Since he's moved back in, he's choked me more times than I can count... has lifted me up by my neck, and thrown me to the floor... in front of our daughter :'(... she gets so scared and she cries, and he doesn't care. It's like something inside of him just snaps. My legs are full of bruises again, and now I really fear for my life. When he gets mad now, he chokes me... and I can't get him off.. he hits me when the baby is in my arms. He hit me in the face and between the legs one night, and told me he wished he could punch me in the stomach. One evening he held his hand over my mouth so my breathing was very very limited, and when I started to panic he held it tighter... then he wrapped his arm around me and started choking me. The other day he choked me until I blacked out, waited until I came to and looked at him, and then did it again. All in front of my little girl. Today he choked me and let go just before I blacked out.. then tried to do it again, but I managed to get up and lock myself in the bathroom. He laughs about it, and tells me he doesn't feel bad for any of it. He says that he does it to get me to shut up, and that he will do it again. The reason he choked me the second time today was because he was saying something about garbage day, and putting me in the garbage... and I kind of laughed and told him to not make empty threats. He talks about loving the look in my face when he's choking me. And the blank scared look when I come to and he starts choking me again.

As I'm writing all this I know that I shouldn't stay. I don't want to die, and I don't want my baby girl to witness these things. But I won't leave. And I know that it's pathetic and stupid, and that I'm endangering my daughter, and I'm so scared... because I really think he's going to kill me... but I love him so much. I know him to be such an amazing person... he's always been so kind and tolerant and loving. I don't want to give up on him. He's a wonderful father, and I don't want my daughter to lose him. But this side him is so dark... I don't know what to do. I want to stay... but I don't want to go through this abuse anymore. I want to have the life with him that we planned... with our little girl being happy, and this new baby being healthy.

Can anyone give me advice on how to get the violence to stop, and still be with him? I'm so lost and scared. I don't love this person that he is right now... but I still want so bad to believe that who he used to be is still there somewhere... I'm still so in love with that person. So please, I'd appreciate any advice. I don't need anyone calling me names, or leaving mean comments about me as a person. Understand that I am a good mom, that wants the absolute best for my daughter (whom he has NEVER touched), but I've spent 6 years with this man, and I know him to be so much better than this.

Can anyone give me advice on how to get the violence to stop, and still be with him?

Why do you still want to be with this loser?

If I were you, I would have contacted authorities a long time ago.

For one, this is an unhealthy relationship. And you know that. I understand love is a strong emotion. I know you think the guy he used to be is somewhere in him, but this other person has overpowered him.. its like he has two sides... I know... I'm the same way just not to that extent... at times I get so pissed at my girlfriend I want to slap the out of her.. but that's because SHE does something wrong. I've gotten so close to physical abuse but I've contained it.. its hard for men.. and when they hit a women I understand why but its still NO EXCUSE to actually engage in physical abuse. You've let it progress. And it seems like he doesn't care... and that's tough to troubleshoot someone that could care less. He does it to prove to you and himself that you messed up (if that's the case, now if its just for no reason,

Can anyone give me advice on how to get the violence to stop, and still be with him?

You can call police, call the police and break up with him.

You can't change him. He'll be like that forever specially someone tolerates like you.

For one, this is an unhealthy relationship. And you know that. I understand love is a strong emotion. I know you think the guy he used to be is somewhere in him, but this other person has overpowered him.. its like he has two sides... I know... I'm the same way just not to that extent... at times I get so pissed at my girlfriend I want to slap the out of her.. but that's because SHE does something wrong. I've gotten so close to physical abuse but I've contained it.. its hard for men.. and when they hit a women I understand why but its still NO EXCUSE to actually engage in physical abuse. You've let it progress. And it seems like he doesn't care... and that's tough to troubleshoot someone that could care less. He does it to prove to you and himself that you messed up (if that's the case, now if its just for no reason, its pretty much a hopeless case).. but if you are doing something to trigger him... you need to find a solution. He knows you won't leave him because your so head over heels with him... so he knows he can get away with anything and still have you... again, I can relate with him just not to that extent... I could check out women, hit on them, anything and get away with it because I knew she wouldn't do anything... well... that stopped when she broke it off with me and was serious about it being over for good... she told me she had enough... she stood up... and that made me realize how bad I messed up.. so I fixed it because I was scared of her leaving again. You need to stand up... I know its tough, but if your serious about it and he loves you... he will realize and come back... if he doesn't come back, forget about him.. easier said than done, I know. The reason you don't want to leave is because your too comfortable being in a relationship. And your scared of not knowing how to live life away from him because your so used to picturing a life with him. But you need to do what's best for YOU AND YOUR GIRL. Get away and if HE comes back to YOU and EXPLAINS what HE did WRONG, then you can give him another chance. Other than that, there are plenty ways to get your mind off him and seek out another man. Online sites (eHarmony) getting out places, bars, etc. but while your away from him FIND THINGS TO DO TO KEEP YOUR MIND Off HIM. Whenever you find yourself thinking about him, go somewhere, do something. It makes it easier. Once you snap out of the FALSE feeling of NEEDING to be with him, your home free.
IF you have ANY other questions please message me back! I know I missed a lot of things but if you want them answered just ask!

he's always been so kind and tolerant and loving. I don't want to give up on him.

I know there are psychological reasons for why women stay in abusive relationships... and I know that no one person on this forum is going to get you to leave him... and that is upsetting. There is no way he is going to stop this abuse... I'm sorry to say but this is the way he is and he is just going to get worse... Notice how the abuse and the extent of it has gotten worse as time has gone on, and it's just a matter of time before he does cross the line and you end up seriously injured or dead. This is an extremely serious situation, not only for you but your daughter and unborn child. You must tell someone who can do something to help you, and to put a stop to this permanently... One way or another you must leave him and you must somehow accept that this is never going to work. Please, if not for yourself than your children, SEEK HELP!! He is an absolute bottom of the rung loser, and don't defend him... it takes a special type to abuse a pregnant women in front of a 15 month old...

He talks about loving the look in my face when he's choking me. And the blank scared look when I come to and he starts choking me again.

.... ... he's always been so kind and tolerant and loving. I don't want to give up on him. He's a wonderful father, and I don't want my daughter to lose him.

No man who does anything like this is a good father. He is amazing only in his cruelty. He does not love you; he will kill you soon if you do not leave and as a single father he will eventually treat your daughter the way he is treating you.

Unless you want to die and have your daughter live the life you have now, you need to get out as soon as possible. You still have the option of having a great life. But not with this man. Please, please get some time away from him and you will understand. I was married to an abuser and although he was not as bad as your boyfriend, I know how hard it is to summon the courage to get out. Read about safety plans on line.

Safety Plan - National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (http://www.ncadv.org/protectyourself/SafetyPlan_130.html)

Contact a battered women's shelter near where you live, TELL your friends and family what is happening and they will help you. Your boyfriend is a murderer in the making. It's only a matter of time. Do something soon. Good luck, dear. You have the strength to take care of yourself and your babies. Be strong for them and for yourself. You deserve so much better.

When he chokes you to unconsciousness means that he is choking the unborn baby too. When your little girl witnesses the beating and choking, she is learning that it's okay for men to be that way. She isn't a piece of you know what who must learn to endure beatings, neither are you!

Being a good mom, raising healthy children is not happening for you, with this man. And he will only get worse...

You have been advised to stand up to him. I know how hard that can be when someone is stronger and more violent than you are, not to mention emotionally manipulative. If I was you, I would have whisked you and your children to somewhere safe, today. I'd be on the phone with the police and with social services to get you help and protection.

KittyKat, Do not stand up to your boyfriend. When women leave abusive relationships is the most dangerous time, when they are most likely to be killed. You are already on the brink of death. You need to run and hide with your daughter. Get help from others. This man will not learn to treat you better. It would be basically suicidal to stand up to him.

Please keep us posted about how you are doing if you can post here without your boyfriend knowing. He may look at your posts, so erase your browser history and use a secure password.

I'm going to tell my whole story. It's long, but it would really mean a lot to me if you could read it and give me some advice.

I'm a 21 year old female, and have been with the same guy since I was 15 years old. I've never been with anyone else. We have a beautiful 15 month old daughter together, and I want to spend the rest of my life with him.

I got pregnant in my first year of college, and decided not to go back after I had the baby because it was too far from my family. My boyfriend went back however, to finish his trade. Our daughter was born in June, and he went bck to school the beginning of September. He started cheating on me within 2 weeks of being gone... I never found out until I went to see him in October. I was so mad and upset, but I still wanted so badly to be with him. We ended up breaking up towards the endof October. He missed our baby girl's first Christmas and didn't even care. Anyway, after a lot of lies and drama and whatnot, we got back together in February (almost 5 months). He told me he wa so sorry and would never do it again. But I wanted him to make it up to me and the baby. I wanted my chance to be mad at him. He tells me it's my fault that he cheated, because I was such a to him last summer after I had the baby.

Sometime in March I believe (when he came home for Easter), we were arguing because I was after finding out another lie, and I think I hit him. We were in bed, and all of a sudden he reached over and started choking me. I don't really know how to explain what happened... I guess I blacked out.. I started hearing noise like people were talking (I know that probablysounds really strange.. it was just the first time I ever experienced anything like that)... then I guess I came to again and he was leaning over me looking down at me. He got really upset, and said "What did I do?" ... he went out into the living room and cried. Afterwards he apologized and said he felt really bad about it.

That wasn't the first time he'd physically abused me. He's punched me, slapped me, and kicked me before... but that ws the first time I ever really feared for my safety.. for my life. He moved back home the end of April.

That wasn't the last time it happened... he did it more times after that.. and the past few months have been very stressful and difficult. He's bruised me all over my legs and sides and arms... he busted open my lip on the right side. He tells me it's because I'm a and expect him to make up for things instead of letting them go. I've made excuses about the bruises... I want to be with this man. One of my friends knows that he's hit me before.. but I've never told anyone the full extent of things.

He moved out in early July and went to live with his parents. Did some nasty and uncalled for things... but in the end we decided to try and work it out again, and he moved back in the end of August.

The past couple of weeks have been really aweful. I found out I was pregnant in early August... but because of all the stress I've been going through, only me and him know... I don't want to end up having a miscarriage and everyone know about it... and I'm so afraid that it's going to happen.

Since he's moved back in, he's choked me more times than I can count... has lifted me up by my neck, and thrown me to the floor... in front of our daughter :'( ... she gets so scared and she cries, and he doesn't care. It's like something inside of him just snaps. My legs are full of bruises again, and now I really fear for my life. When he gets mad now, he chokes me... and I can't get him off.. he hits me when the baby is in my arms. He hit me in the face and between the legs one night, and told me he wished he could punch me in the stomach. One evening he held his hand over my mouth so my breathing was very very limited, and when I started to panic he held it tighter... then he wrapped his arm around me and started choking me. The other day he choked me until I blacked out, waited until I came to and looked at him, and then did it again. All in front of my little girl. Today he choked me and let go just before I blacked out.. then tried to do it again, but I managed to get up and lock myself in the bathroom. He laughs about it, and tells me he doesn't feel bad for any of it. He says that he does it to get me to shut up, and that he will do it again. The reason he choked me the second time today was because he was saying something about garbage day, and putting me in the garbage... and I kind of laughed and told him to not make empty threats. He talks about loving the look in my face when he's choking me. And the blank scared look when I come to and he starts choking me again.

As I'm writing all this I know that I shouldn't stay. I don't want to die, and I don't want my baby girl to witness these things. But I won't leave. And I know that it's pathetic and stupid, and that I'm endangering my daughter, and I'm so scared... because I really think he's going to kill me... but I love him so much. I know him to be such an amazing person... he's always been so kind and tolerant and loving. I don't want to give up on him. He's a wonderful father, and I don't want my daughter to lose him. But this side him is so dark... I don't know what to do. I want to stay... but I don't want to go through this abuse anymore. I want to have the life with him that we planned... with our little girl being happy, and this new baby being healthy.

Can anyone give me advice on how to get the violence to stop, and still be with him? I'm so lost and scared. I don't love this person that he is right now... but I still want so bad to believe that who he used to be is still there somewhere... I'm still so in love with that person. So please, I'd appreciate any advice. I don't need anyone calling me names, or leaving mean comments about me as a person. Understand that I am a good mom, that wants the absolute best for my daughter (whom he has NEVER touched), but I've spent 6 years with this man, and I know him to be so much better than this.
This will be hard for you, that you spent 6 years with this guy. But, you MUST do what is best for your daughter and this situation and environment is in no way good for you both. It is stressful. Spend some time away from this man. Help yourself. Keep yourself better work on you and your daughters future. This man seems very controlling and manipulative, so the best thing to do for you and your daughter is to separate. Like I said, it will be difficult. But you should do what is right. What is right for your daughter. What if he ends up hurting you so bad that he DOES kill you. What will happen with your daughter? She won't have her mother and end up seeing the ways of this man and might end up hurt or repeating what he does. What if he ends up hurting your daughter? Get out of this situation ASAP. If you must put a restraining order/protection order for you and your daughters safety. Take care and good luck to you. Do what is right.

Kitty do you know that my earliest memory in life was? Being 3 and waking up to a bad dream crying and walking into my parents room to find comfort only to find my dad choking my mother and my mom telling me to go back to bed. I'll never forget that and as much as you think you're doing the right thing I was actually very bitter with my mom because she had left him and decided to go back to him when finding out she was pregnant with me.

I was mad because of the bad memories that choice caused me to have along with my sister but also that she was willing to stay with a man who beat her while she was pregnant with me. I love my mom that will never change but I could have lived without those images and painful memories.

I'm not sure what causes men or women for that matter to be physically abusive but you staying is only making it worse he'll never seek help for it and you're teaching your poor little girl that this is okay and acceptable to stay just because YOU feel he's a good father. The truth is you yourself need help or you wouldn't subject yourself or your little one to such horrible things.

Oh and by the way you say he's never touched your daughter but in my opinion growing up with what I did that is just a matter of time. What if he loses control while you are holding one of them and they get hurt in the process? It honestly makes me sick to think about what your daughter must be going through in her little mind. You need to leave him and you need to do it quietly when he's gone don't pack a ton of things just the essentials go to the police and ask for help finding a battered women's shelter they will help with childcare a place to stay and help you to find a job. If you won't do it for you do it for your kids. If something happens to you what do you think will happen to your kids? Please get help now. God Bless.

Leave, there is never an excuse to be choke, punched, or kicked by a guy. He doesn't love you otherwise he wouldn't hurt you by hitting you but will protect you from harm instead of putting you in harms ways. You have a child, what happens if she wakes up and see it? He always proving to be an abuser, liar, and cheater. Leave! It will only get worst. Leave at least for your child they don't deserve this. They have shelters if you have no place to go.

Listen to the others, you need help fast, and you need to go get it. Call someone, and get away from him, and your situation. Please get some help!

I apologize for making this post so long, but I hope you'll read the whole thing.

I think you'll learn a lot about what you need to do, how dangerous your situation is if you re-read your post, and if you really do love this man or just the illusion of him. So I'm just going to break down your post for you.


Sometime in March I believe (when he came home for Easter), we were arguing because I was after finding out another lie, and I think I hit him. We were in bed, and all of a sudden he reached over and started choking me.. . He got really upset, and said "What did I do?"... he went out into the living room and cried. Afterwards he apologized and said he felt really bad about it.

That wasn't the first time he'd physically abused me. He's punched me, slapped me, and kicked me before... but that was the first time I ever really feared for my safety.. for my life.

This was the first incidence that made you feared for your life, at this time your boyfriend still feel bad for his action, but…


That wasn't the last time it happened... he did it more times after that.. and the past few months have been very stressful and difficult. He's bruised me all over my legs and sides and arms... he busted open my lip on the right side. He tells me it's because I'm a and expect him to make up for things instead of letting them go.

As time progress, he no longer take responsibility for his actions, in fact he blames you for his violence.


Since he's moved back in, he's choked me more times than I can count... has lifted me up by my neck, and thrown me to the floor... in front of our daughter :'(... she gets so scared and she cries, and he doesn't care. It's like something inside of him just snaps. My legs are full of bruises again, and now I really fear for my life. When he gets mad now, he chokes me... and I can't get him off.. he hits me when the baby is in my arms.

Obviously, his actions is getting more and more violent, now you really fear for your life. His violence is now effecting your daughter also. He also appears to think it appropriate to harm you, whenever he's upset.


He hit me in the face and between the legs one night, and told me he wished he could punch me in the stomach.

He's might soon begin to harm your unborn child.


One evening he held his hand over my mouth so my breathing was very very limited, and when I started to panic he held it tighter... then he wrapped his arm around me and started choking me. The other day he choked me until I blacked out, waited until I came to and looked at him, and then did it again. All in front of my little girl. Today he choked me and let go just before I blacked out.. then tried to do it again, but I managed to get up and lock myself in the bathroom. He laughs about it, and tells me he doesn't feel bad for any of it. He says that he does it to get me to shut up, and that he will do it again. He talks about loving the look in my face when he's choking me. And the blank scared look when I come to and he starts choking me again.

Not only does he not show regret for his violence, he now enjoys it. He loves choking you, he loves seeing you in pain, he enjoys it. Chances are the violence is just going to get worse and worse, If you don't leave him soon, you could end up dead. I'm not saying this to scare you or to be mean. I'm being realistic, and I honestly fear for your safety. In addition, he might start beating your daughter as well.

From the above we can see that he went from someone who used to feel bad for his violence to someone that enjoys harming you. Actions speaks louder than words, is he really a good father? Is he really going to change? I think not.

Now, you're a smart girl, you know what you need to do.. Your post already indicated that:


As I'm writing all this I know that I shouldn't stay. I don't want to die, and I don't want my baby girl to witness these things… I'm endangering my daughter, and I'm so scared... because I really think he's going to kill me...

I don't want to go through this abuse anymore.

I want… our little girl being happy, and this new baby being healthy.

What holding you back from what you want, is:

I know him to be such an amazing person... he's always been so kind and tolerant and loving.
Are you sure? From your post above, for the past year he has been anything but kind and tolerant and loving. Is he really the amazing person that you think he is? Or is it just an illusion you created for yourself?


I don't want to give up on him. He's a wonderful father, and I don't want my daughter to lose him.

He doesn't sound like a wonderful father, and you know it.

He missed our baby girl's first Christmas and didn't even care.

he's choked me more times than I can count... has lifted me up by my neck, and thrown me to the floor... in front of our daughter :'(... she gets so scared and she cries, and he doesn't care
He's also endangering your daughter's life. Are you sure he's still a wonderful father?


Can anyone give me advice on how to get the violence to stop, and still be with him?
I can give you advice on how to stop the violence, but you have to leave him. It the only way, and I'm being realistic.


I'm so lost and scared.
You're not lost, you're just scared. You know what you need to do.


I don't love this person that he is right now... but I still want so bad to believe that who he used to be is still there somewhere...
Good girl, You don't love him anymore. You said it yourself. He's not the same person he used to be, chances are he never will. You don't believe me? Re-read what you wrote yourself. Deep down somewhere you probably know this answer as well.


Understand that I am a good mom, that wants the absolute best for my daughter

Yes, you want what's best for your daughter, and you know being in this situation right now its dangerous and unhealthy for her. I believe you have the ability to make the best decision for both you and your daughter, so I'm not going to tell you what you should do.

But I would highly encourage that you leave this man, tell family and friends about it to get a social network to support you (because trust me, you'll need it), and also to reach out to battered women advocacy group or shelters, so that you can have a fresh start. Leaving this man isn't going to be easy, it takes a lot of courage, and planning. I wish you the best of luck. And I applaud you for taking the first step to reach out for help. Be proactive, you can do it. You're smart, and we support you here, at Ask me!

I hope this help. Best of luck! My blessing to you

He is not going to stop. I am almost positive. Same situation happened with my daughter's father and I. He kept beating me up while I was pregnant ans then started crying to me that he was sorry. I went through HELL! I feared for my life almost everyday. I stayed with him for a whole year while he was abusing me because I had no where else to go. I moved to California with him where all of HIS family lived. So, then one day he pulled a knife to my throat while I was holding my daughter who was 2 months at the time. That night I got as much stuff as I could and I left and went to a domestic violence shelter. I have never gone back. I have been through a lot of therapy to keep me from going back to my abuser. Most women go back to their abuser at least 7 times before they finally leave.

I left so his abuse towards me wouldn't be shown to my daughter and her remember it and think that it was okay for a man to abuse a women. My daughter's father used to watch his father beat up his mother that is where he got it from. You need to leave and NEVER look back. I got restraining orders on my daughter's father to prevent him from visitations. Your daughter WILL be effected if you stay and she sees him beating you up and you two fighting. It is NOT a healthy environment for the child to be in.

I hope that you leave him because he will not change. My daughter's father is now beating up the girlfriend that he has now in front of their 2 year old child and it is just so sad for me to see the chick stay in that environment with my daughter's half sister. Good luck with everything and I hope that you leave him. A person has to want to change for themselves. You can't change him, he will have to and really have to want to change before he will. Good luck.

I don't even know where to start. I've worked as a Domestic Violence Counselor, an area I saw as a passion until I became drained by the number of women that always went back. You wrote this question... but you already know the answer. Does that make you stupid? Absolutely NOT. It does however show that you are confused. YOu are so deep into this situation you can't see your way out. I have friends, family, acquaintances that have been or ARE victims of abuse. Some of have finally gotten the nerve to leave (with a SAFETY PLAN of course-- please refer to the link she sent) and with the help of loved ones. You should call the National Domestic Violence Hotline. Love yourself and your daughter enough to want more. To want happiness. To want health... You don't want to die and she not have a mom. I think that's what it sometimes comes down to in order for women to make the decision (life or death). Don't let it get to that point.

Stop arguing with him. Just start to construct a plan to leave. Get some counseling and LOVE yourself and your daughter and unborn child. Don't stay in this situation. A 6 year relationship is not worth your life.

My mother was stuck in a abusive relationship for 4 years. This jerk was crazy, me and my brothers took it upon ourselves to almost end his life (He hit my mother on mothers day of course violence is never the answer but he regretted it for the 6 weeks he had stitches in his head). But it did not stop the crazy. Get out of it. Do not look back.

I cannot tell you have much it upset me she would just take him back in and say stuff like "I deserved it". For you and your daughters life get out, men like that do not change.

Please listen to what people have posted here, for you and your daughter. Get out and do not look back know any man who hits a woman is not in love they are scum.

Please read and understand what I am saying...

My best friend was in a relationship very similar to your's. She always made excuses and went back to him. Over time the violence got worse and worse. Soon after she found out she was pregnant with her second child, he shot and killed her in front of their 2 year old son.

It's too late for me to help her... I am begging you - GET OUT NOW!

I realize you are not American, but everyone should know this fact:
THE NUMBER ONE CAUSE OF DEATH AMONG PREGNANT WOMEN IN THE U.S.A. IS MURDER

Please read and understand what I am saying...

My best friend was in a relationship very similar to your's. She always made excuses and went back to him. Over time the violence got worse and worse. Soon after she found out she was pregnant with her second child, he shot and killed her in front of their 2 year old son.

It's too late for me to help her... I am begging you - GET OUT NOW!!

I realize you are not American, but everyone should know this fact:
THE NUMBER ONE CAUSE OF DEATH AMONG PREGNANT WOMEN IN THE U.S.A. IS MURDER
That was my biggest fear as a child. That I would come home and find my mother dead at the hands of him. I cannot tell you how I felt. Please leave and never look back my older brother still has issue dealing with all of this crap that jerk dumped on us.

That actually disturbed me

YouTube - She Says She Loves Me, Lamont Carey (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JpmC7mady90)

All the good advice has been said, I hope this hits home and makes you want to get help and leave this devil man.

To be honest with you there is no way of stopping it cause my boyfriend does it to me and I'm pregnant with his child. I say there's no way cause he was in anger management and that didn't even help cause he was still abusing me. The only way anyone can make it stop is to leave but I guess that would make me a hippacret cause I still haven't left but my reasons are really fatal.

Kitty, you need to just leave... you have more to think about now than just yourself. Every time he does this to you, it not only causes you mental and physical trama, but trama to the baby that you're carrying... as well as your daughter. I will say this, one of my best friends was an abuser for a long time. The only way that this is ever going to change is if HE takes the effor to change it himself.

There is nothing you can do to change this from your side. With my background, I have seen a few scenarios where the outcome is very bad... up to death. You don't want to put yourself, or your children through this. You need to do whatever you can to leave, or else this violence will continue.

Stay strong, I know it hurts, but you deserve better... you deserve a man.. not this little boy.