I split your with my boyfreind about a month ago he had been texting this girl and had met up with her I asked him about it and he said they were just m8s then I found dirty texts on his fone from her and texts that he had sent to her we split up and he started seeing her . I told him how much I loved him and dident understand why he was doing this after all we had been through together . He told me that nothing was going on with them and again told me they were just good m8s .stupidly I believed him and we started to take things slow again then I found out that he was texting my friend and always asking if she was coming out we had a argument and he admitted that he liked her I forgave him and carried on seeing him , now out of the blue he has told me he doesn't love me anymore and he is going to visit another girl who he has never met and is spending the night with her I really love him and he says he misses me but I don't know if I can forgive him any help?

When your guy is courting other girls, even in just texts, you catch him, he admits it, apologizes, you forgive him, then he dumps you shortly later... that is NOT "out of the blue". He gave warning after warning after warning.

So, lighten up on the drama. He didn't do this, you did. By that, I mean his actions yelled loud and clear he was leaving, you kept chasing and believing everything you heard, if it matched what you wanted. You ignored the reality of the situation.

You know, as a guy myself, I can tell you one thing for sure... trust what a guy does, not what he says. If a guy says one thing but does another, trust the thing he does, even if the things he says are more attractive to you.

OK?

This reminds me of what Tal said about people who hit a wall with their head first then wonder later why it hurts.

[{B]Deception is inevitable but looking like an idiot is an option.[/B]

I think the quote goes: "Pain is inevitable, misery is optional." There's even a book by that title...

How can you love someone that don't love you? Love is not suppose to be about lying, cheating, or let a pain. Get yourself together and move on from this drama because don't you think you deserve better? You saw all the proof and hear it from the horses mouth on how he feels about you. A relationship consists of two people working together not one. Let him stay with the other girl and let her deal with him. Don't allow this guy to use you as his doormat any longer because that what your doing, allowing yourself to be hurt, why? Start a new chapter in your life and move on. Your be surprise how easy it is.

How can you say all this came out of the blue. His actions were a very strong hint, he was moving in another direction, but you chose to ignore them.

This is going to be a continuous cycle you are going to have to break. He is lying. Leave him move on. It's quite simple. Put your feelings aside, take care of yourself.