I've been reading The Secret and theories on the Law of Attraction. I was just curious people's opinions on it (good ones only) and if you think it actually does work in seeking a relationship etc. Has anyone had any success stories putting the theory to the test? If anything I think the theories are a good way to keep your optimism flowing in the things you want. Like love!

I wasn't aware that there was only one theory regarding the laws of attraction...

I wasn't aware that there was only one theory regarding the laws of attraction...


There's more than one, but they all generally hold the same concept. Or at least in my opinion they do.

I did see the movie, and from the movie, I got that it was all bs. I did try it, and my ex is still just that, my ex.

I know it doesn't work for me, but I can't speak for everyone. Maybe it'll work for you! But from my expirience, it is all crap.

Parts of it explain why it could "work". Or, at least create the illusion that it is working. I know it says to think positively, and be confident. That will attract girls/guys to each other anyway. Some of the advice is good, but the actual law is just stupid... In my humble opinion.

JB's Law of Attraction - everything that's attractive to you or toward you isn't good FOR you.

JB's Law of Attraction - everything that's attractive to you or toward you isn't good FOR you.


EPIC advice.

EPIC advice.
Maybe I should add that to my signature...

The thing about humans is that there isn't one "law" or "theory" you can follow to get them to be interested in you. Everybody has their own likes and dislikes.

Maybe I should add that to my signature...


Do it!

JB's Law of Attraction - everything that's attractive to you or toward you isn't good FOR you.

Please do elaborate. I really wish I didn't believe that, but unfortunately I think you're absolutely right. So why the hell is it that "everything that's attractive to you or toward you isn't good for you"?

I think that I believe in it; but you REALLY have to be in a centered place. This means for me that I can't have any extra stresses or anything else weighing on my mind. That has been the only way that I have received what I truly wanted. When my mind is cloudy, I don't receive like I want to

I really wish I didn't beleive that, but unfortunately I think you're absolutely right. So why the hell is it that "everything that's attractive to you or toward you isn't good for you"?!

The reason it's true is based on one of my standard speeches here on the forum, you'll hear me say it often - love is an uncontrollable reaction to someone. You participate little if at all in its creation.

So, someone you love or someone who loves you... so what? You still have ZERO information about whether the person in question is actually compatible with you. Living happily with someone for 60 years takes a LOT of things being lined up in life and character and willingness and maturity... love is almost irrelevant in the final equation.

Now, don't get me wrong, I'm a romantic, too. I want love to be in the center of it all, too. But, it has be in the center of SOMETHING... a lot of things. Love, blind, by itself, does not lead to happiness.

The reason it's true is based on one of my standard speeches here on the forum, you'll here me say it often - love is an uncontrollable reaction to someone. You participate little if at all in its creation.

So, someone you love or someone who loves you...so what? You still have ZERO information about whether the person in question is actually compatible with you. Living happily with someone for 60 years takes a LOT of things being lined up in life and character and willingness and maturity...love is almost irrelevant in the final equation.

Now, don't get me wrong, I'm a romantic, too. I want love to be in the center of it all, too. But, it has be in the center of SOMETHING...a lot of things. Love, blind, by itself, does not lead to happiness.

Very interesting JB , I particularly like this...

"love is an uncontrollable reaction to someone. You participate little if at all in its creation"

Very interesting JB , I particularly like this...........

"love is an uncontrollable reaction to someone. You participate little if at all in its creation"

I think that is yet another epic quote for JB to add to that signiture, lol.

I think that is yet another epic quote for JB to add to that signature, lol.
You make me blush... but I fear we've shanghaied this thread.

A lot of my friends swear by the book called "the Game"... it's written by the idiot who does the "pickup artist" show.

I never had any trouble meeting/talking to women, not saying that I get girls all the time, but I don't have any problems at least approaching a girl... but I thought, why not, give it a try.

I read it.

... it was... complete... crap. After reading 450 pages of crap... it boiled down to one thing: get over yourself, get up, go talk to the girl.

It seems like I've digressed, but my message stands: there's no book, song, theory, or manual that tells you how one must act to be attractive.

Forget attractions, love yourself, and share it with a deserving person. That requires you to know yourself well enough to be happy with yourself, and know how to cope with your own feelings.

As JB said, Not everything your attracted to is worthy of your attention, nor healthy for you to pursue, so sometimes you just have to back off the BS, and deal with what works well.

So don't just deal with just attraction, make sure your healthy, and be able to recognize a healthy person to partner with, as working together as one, is a lot more important than just love.

Just my 2 cents.

Just curious everyone's thoughts on contacting someone who you have dated in the past and had an awesome time and connection with but it didn't work out due to timing.

It's been months since we've spoken and I don't plan on reaching out any time soon. I guess I was just curious about opinions. You know what I mean? You meet someone who down the line you look back and wonder if maybe it could have worked out if the clock had been right.

And I know sometimes the clock never catches up, but sometimes I at least wonder what that person is up too from time to time and I don't feel like there is any harm in platonically asking someone how life is treating them.

Men: thoughts?

Why not? If you had an interest in a person and like you say the timing did not work the first time around, then a simple phone call or an email to get a feeling or how she is would be appropriate. Just he polite enough that if she does not show any positive signs to back off.

I have done that in the past and it paid off because me and him is getting married.

I met my fiancé a long ago but at the time we met it was bad timing but we had a good connection. Months went by but I still thought about him and was dabating whethe or not to call because I thought he might be with someone. Until one day I thought to myself "why keep wondering about what going on his life when I could just call him". So I called him, but while dialing I wished he didn't answer so that I could leave a message,but he answered. We talked then that lead to us meeting up for lunch and the rest is history.

In life you never know so you have to take chances. You only live once so it won't hurt to give someone a call that you was interested in because you never know what it can lead too. Even if it doesn't lead to nothing you won't be left wondering.

Having had time to know you felt a genuine connection with her, that would be ideal if she feels the same way. Unless she's now in a relationship, since you've already broken the ice with her, she should find it easy to either accept or politely decline your offer. If she accepts, then I imagine she's genuinely interested in you. As 450donn suggested, just keep it simple.

But sometimes I at least wonder what that person is up too from time to time and I don't feel like there is any harm in platonically asking someone how life is treating them.

Exactly why I like having myspace, Yahoo & Google Instant Messaging, email, etc...
Like if anybody wants to find me all they have to do is type N0help4u or sapphire630 in the search engine or go to my website.
You know they are right there at a touch of the keyboard unless they completely quit using it.

Is "timing" code for something? What does it mean for something to not work out due to timing?

Missing something...

It usually means he is busy going his direction with his life and her busy direction with her life is making it impossible to get together because they are going two different directions.
Often that in itself really means ''NOT meant for each other''

Is "timing" code for something? What does it mean for something to not work out due to timing?

Missing something...

It means that things were going great and then one day he decided he didn't want to be in a relationship even though he still really liked me. He just got out of grad school, mom going through a divorce... to my knowledge had some crap going on and felt he couldn't be in a healthy relationship and it wouldn't be fair to me if he tried.

I guess I sum that up as "timing" because had things been in a better flow for him, I think things would have turned out diffferent