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NewYork123
Sep 14, 2008, 05:28 PM
Do you ever feel guilty for the number of people you've slept with?
ordinaryguy
Sep 14, 2008, 05:46 PM
Guilty? No.
Foolish? Occasionally.
shatteredsoul
Sep 15, 2008, 10:24 AM
No.. guilt isn't going to change anything! Live and learn..
NeedKarma
Sep 15, 2008, 10:32 AM
No, it was fun.
excon
Sep 15, 2008, 10:36 AM
Do you ever feel guilty for the number of people you've slept with?Hello NY:
Nope. But I do regret the ones I didn't nail.
excon
smoothy
Sep 15, 2008, 12:44 PM
Not me... I forget exactly how many, its more than some , less than others.
RustyFairmount
Sep 15, 2008, 06:30 PM
Nope. Because to feel guilty, that would mean I regret those relationships. The worst I feel is frustration from having wasted my valuable time on some of them.
ylaira
Sep 15, 2008, 06:33 PM
Unless you are sleeping with someone else while in exclusive relationship, you should feel guilty because it's not fair.
Fr_Chuck
Sep 15, 2008, 06:40 PM
We can often regret some of our choices but we make a choice and live with them. I know of some in the 70's that were as one said foolish. But would I change a single one, not a bit
iAMfromHuntersBar
Sep 16, 2008, 02:38 AM
Good God no! It's all a learning curve after all!
Even the bad experiences add to our experience! Ha ha!
NeedKarma
Sep 16, 2008, 03:35 AM
ylaira agrees: Unless you are sleeping with someone else while in exclusive relationship, you should feel guilty because it's not fair.
No guilt here at all. I have always dated one person at a time. How many people do YOU date at a time??
smoothy
Sep 16, 2008, 04:44 AM
Except on a few occaisions its usually been one at a time for me. Before I married I'd say it was only one at a time over 95% of the time.
Synnen
Sep 16, 2008, 06:06 AM
When I was dating more than one person at a time (which is a good experience, by the way---more people should do it), NONE of the relationships I was in were on a sexual level. Nothing more than kissing, period.
But... I don't regret the number of people I slept with. Some of those relationships I regret a bit, but not the experiences involved that made me who I am today.
Choux
Sep 20, 2008, 12:08 PM
I didn't bring a poor, innocent baby into the world without the benefit of a father, and me a husband... what's to be guilty about?
spyderglass
Sep 20, 2008, 04:42 PM
Never guilty, it was a learning experience at the least, my husband knows- and he doesn't mind even though I have slept with more people than he has.
As long as I stop with him.
:)
Alty
Sep 20, 2008, 05:20 PM
Guilty, no.
I have also dated more than one person at a time. Back in my teen years there was one time when I was dating 5 guys at the same time, 2 of those relationships were physical. It was a terrible idea, and I do feel guilt for doing that to them.
I have a muddy past, and everything in that past has led me to where I am now, so how can I have any regrets?
I like who I am and where I am, and the past is exactly that, the past. It's the here and now that I'm concentrating on, things I can change, not things I can't.
JudyKayTee
Sep 24, 2008, 05:52 AM
Do you ever feel guilty for the number of people you've slept with?
Absolutely no regrets, not a single one - as someone said, I am who I am because of where I've been.
That being said - I have never felt the need to discuss numbers and/or experiences with a partner or potential partner. I've never answered the question and I've never asked it. I have been asked who I have LOVED - not who I've had sex with - and I've had no problem answering that.
brokenhearted1515
Sep 24, 2008, 06:02 AM
I feel guilty about my number. It should be higher. A lot higher. :)
JudyKayTee
Sep 24, 2008, 06:09 AM
I didn't bring a poor, innocent baby into the world without the benefit of a father, and me a husband..........what's to be guilty about?
Wow - this sounds remarkably judgmental and insensitive.
G-boomer
Sep 24, 2008, 04:09 PM
It was with great pleasure... ok... maybe 1 or 2 might have been a mistake, but nothing I dwell on to date. The past is the past... one has to move on.