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stuckonyou7
Sep 14, 2008, 02:25 PM
My boyffriend broke up with me about 2 months ago, at first I was okay with it, and even started kissing an old crush, when the ex foiund out about this he was upset, was saying how much he missed me and wanted to talk. I thought it would make him want me more if I played it cool and didn't act so desperate so I said I didn't want to talk on the phone right away. (we were in a long distant reelationship) a few days later I said what did you want to talk about? And he said "oh.. i just wanted tips on getting over you, and to see how you were doing it." and then that was it, I haven't heard from him since. Is he really over it? Is there any chance of us getting back together? Why did he act like he had made a mistake at first but now nothing?

h0llister
Sep 14, 2008, 04:23 PM
Well you guys have lost of trust and in a long distance relationship you need LOTS of trust. You probably have reallly hurt him but kissing someone else and not wanting to talk to him. To you it seems like you were playing hard to get.. but to him he feels like oh she's moved on she's kissing someone else and not wanting to talk to me. You guys might be able to work it out, but the chances are very slim. Call him up and tell him you miss him and love him and you're sorry and see how he feels, if he's unable to rebuild the relationship you should on. Also tell him how you played hard to get, I'm pretty sure he believes that you were just over him. And if you guys get back together.. no more games, especially in a long distance relationship.

liz28
Sep 14, 2008, 05:13 PM
Since you was already broken up with him for 2 months before this kiss happen, you shouldn't feel gulity. The relationship was over before hand. Maybe, he heard the kiss and got jealous because you was moving on. No one knows if you two will ever get back together. It sounds like you was moving on and maybe it is best you continue to do. Question: why did you two break-up in the first place?

stuckonyou7
Sep 14, 2008, 05:15 PM
He said that this was a big year for him, that he had been talking to "loved ones" and that with hockey and the gr 12 year ahead he didn't want to be worrying about "girls". It was so out of the blue, I even called him and was like whatsup you've been quiet the last week and that's when he did it..

h0llister
Sep 14, 2008, 05:32 PM
I think you should give him some place, if he needs it and once he gets used to school and hockey he might be able to also have a relationship

stuckonyou7
Sep 14, 2008, 05:40 PM
What if he forgets about me?
He doesn't contact me ever...
Do you think he will if I stop trying too?

h0llister
Sep 14, 2008, 05:58 PM
I don't no, you don't no. only he does. He may not though because he's going to be to busy. Just have fun in school and maybe you might meet someone else but if he wants his space let him have it ,if you bug him it will only push him away

talaniman
Sep 14, 2008, 07:54 PM
I think its time you figured out to have a happy life yourself, without him in it. Holding out hope for someone so far away, and who doesn't act like its worth his time, and efforts is a lose-lose situation for you.