This is so bad, I called my ex, since I left I didn't have the time to take anything, nor did my emotions feel like it. I went out dancing, in which my GF asks " wheres your coat, its cold" she said that I should go it. I told her"no" I can't" her reply was its to cold for you. I would rather freeze. But I change my mine, later.
I realize that she is right, I can't wait until he calls, it may be weeks and its cold outside, besides I have nothing, most of good cloths was in our house.
I went to visit a friend on Saturday, and since I was in the area, I called to say I am sorry I need to get a coat & that I was on my way over. There was no answer so I left a message. When I showed up, he and this other women were exiting out the house. She left, he stayed. I call him a liar, because he said there was no one else.
I told him I didn't think he was home, or would have anyone over so soon. I realize after entering the house, that he had took down all the personal photos of us, including upstairs to the bedrooms.
He empty the draws , the closet and pack all my things away into moving boxes, the only things he left were all the décor candle pillars, wall hanging, mirrors and other things that were mine.
I just felt if you are going to pack up my personal things, you might as well have done it right, and get rid of all my stuff. Why keep it, just because it makes the house look nice. He did offer to buy them from me, because he likes my decorating.
He offer to pay for my school. Give me the little black car, (escape) and pay for a lawyer if I want to sue my job. Now I really blew it. I feel he may never take me back.
He says he can't talk to me and feels like we bump heads. But I feel he never me a chance which he admits, & says he just wants to date and has a few women in mind, and the girl he was with, he only took out her to dinner, than drinks at the house.
He said she approach him at a seminar on how to buy and flip houses. At least this was the first time, he actually talked to me, it wasn't want I wanted to hear, but he actually stated some feelings. Can any guys or girls out there, tell what they think about this? I know I should move on but I love him so.

Ok, he wants to see other people, so you, for your own sake need to see other people. You have been nervous about going to get your own things, choosing to freeze rather than go get the coat that belongs to you. He did a very healthy thing by boxing your things up. Take a tip from him and move on.

Getting mad at an "ex" is a waste of time. Calling him a liar is just plain rude. He gets to live his life anyway he wants. He gets to decorate his house the way he wants... and so on.

Even if he wasn't an ex, he would still get to live his life the way he wants. Your opinion of it is irrelevant. Him having to explain himself to you in any way, just pointless.

I'm sorry I'm so blunt, I apologize, but you need to get over your view of yourself in relation to him. You're just a solitary person, and the only life that needs explanation to you is YOURS.

If you love someone, you don't try to change them. That's not love, that's attraction coupled with manipulative dissatisfaction. Leave him alone, let him do what he wants.

The only way you get angry at him is if you try to impose your wishes on his life. Stop that and your stress is alleviated, too.

helpsos agrees: We had a 14 year relationship,when I ask if there was someone else he said no. The décor in the house in mine, I bought it. Please read my first post on " after 14 years he needs a break"I did. And the lecture I gave above would just get MUCH longer, but the message is still the same.

Dating takes 1-2 years to suss out compatibility. At that point, you need to move it steadily toward permanence, or end it. 14 years? I'm sorry, somebody... you or him or both of you... just didn't care enough to treat this seriously.

Without a marriage covenant, he has no reason to actively work against his natural feelings of "up and down" regarding you. Marriage provides a foundation, a REASON people can point to outside of their feelings that says, "I have to act better, I promised I would, I promised in a way the whole world can verify."

You guys didn't do that, so anything you've done over the 14 years is... well, at best, mildly relevant. After year 3, what did you THINK was going on? (Don't answer that, it's rhetorical, it doesn't really matter.)

Marriage means something. In your situation, even if you two were still splitting up, it would mean you would have a LOT coming your way to show for the time invested. Now, maybe you'll get your knick-knacks back. Probably not even that.

So, my answer above I wouldn't change one iota. I'm sorry you chose to vest so much time in being a girlfriend/buddy with nothing substantive to hang your future on. Dating isn't supposed to be a lifetime hobby. Now you know why.

I know it's a tough adjustment, but getting your stuff, and disappearing from his life is the option you need to pursue.

I know, but feeling are so tender. He said that he would put it into storage for me. I still have to go thur the house and take what is mine. The pain & hurt is very fresh. Thank you, I really do need all different insights to help me.