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PinkSandals
Sep 13, 2008, 03:22 PM
I have this friend and we have been best friends for about a year now. I trust her still, I would do anything for her, and all that best friend stuff. But recently I have been feeling left out with this other person who she may consider to be her new best friend.

I hate this friend of hers, I really do, she is really mean to me. I tried explaining this to my best friend. She wouldn’t exactly listen. She agreed that she was a bit mean to people, but obviously not to her.

I feel so terrible, every time I see them hang out, I get this boiling feeling in my stomach. I am not sure who to blame, my best friend, or her new friend?

But its not just that. She never calls me or texts me anymore or anything. If I text her, she just stops texting after a while like I don’t even exist. Then when I call her, she will say she has to go for a while and she will call back. She never does. That’s the part that really hurts, I feel like she doesn’t want to talk to me.

I tried asking her to come shopping with me, same sort of thing, she would say she was busy or something.

I guess it just hurts more then anything. I really don’t want to lose her as a best friend.

- Missy

:(

volleyballgirl
Jul 30, 2009, 08:50 PM
OMG girl I know exactly what your going through now because I am too
Just keep trying to be a good friend and talk to her and ask to hang out and stuff mabye if your nice you can become friends with this "mean girl" try hanging out with your friend just one on one
Also about the boiling feeling...
U just got to learn to let it go as long as your friend is happy you can be a little happy for her
Just do all you best and try really hard to be a good friend still

Who knows mabye this "mean girl" will end things with your friend and you can be there for her

Just do your best to be a good friend and don't give up

And if things are not working out so well try to make some new friends... and mabye and new friend can help you with the problems with your other friend

I hope I helped you and I will pray for you and your friend

And my heart goes out to u

HelpinHere
Jul 30, 2009, 10:44 PM
First off, one year isn't a long time. I'm sure you have other friends you can hang out with when she's "busy".

What do you mean "every time I see them hang out"? You are still her friend, go hang out with them.
I don't care if you don't like the other girl. You must not really care about her that much if you can't put up with this other girl to hang out with her.

Then, she doesn't text you or call you? Try setting a date. Be all like "hey, do you have anything going on this weekend?
1: No? Good, we're going to the movies this Friday!
2: You're busy this Friday? Okay, we're going to the movies this Saturday!
3: You're busy all weekend? What are you doing, I'll meet you there!

I'm not sure, may be wrong, but it sounds to me like you don't like this new girl, and you are getting jealous.
You are trying to either:
1: Guilt trip your friend into picking you over the new friend.
or
2: Avoid her because you just don't want to be around the new girl.

Either way, it probably makes your friend feel like you don't care about your friendship as much, and are just trying to get the new girl out of the picture.
If you really want her as your best friend, try harder. You don't just give up.

If she doesn't text back, text her saying "Hey, what's up? You didn't text back".
If she doesn't call back, you call her. Leave a message if she doesn't pick up.
If she doesn't meet you for lunch, show up at her house with takeout.
If she's hanging out with the new girl, hang out with them both.

If you really care about her, get off the computer and go do something about it! :)

N0help4u
Jul 31, 2009, 07:20 AM
You can't do anything about who she wants to be friends with. When you want some time with her ask her can she set aside some time this weekend or whenever so the TWO of you can hang out for a while.
Do not bring her friend up at all because she will end up feeling that she needs to choose.