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cutie08
Sep 12, 2008, 11:51 PM
OK so awhile back my boyfriend and I fought because we saw each other almost everyday. But the reason why I liked seeing him everyday was because when I didn't see him then I didn't talk him to him either cause he was always with his friends partying and he would never answer my texts or calls so I told him that if we could make the compromise that if he texted me everyonce in awhile when I was not with him and he was with his friends then I would be willing to only see him 3 days a week at most witch is what he wanted. And he promise he would text me more when he is just sitting at his friends house smoking and drinking. I didn't say he need to text me every hour or anything like that I just wanted him to text me everyonce in awhile to seee what's up you know just to say hi he misses me or hi he loves me or is thinking about me or something just make me feel important I mean seriously is it that hard to send me one message like very 5 6 hours?? Well the point being I have followd my part of the deal by giving him like more of a week with his friends then with me and he has not followed his part and so I called him tonight to talk to him about it and he got mad at me telling me he didn't have to talk to me he does not like being on call and he does not want to spend the night when he is with his friends texting me. He just does not get the fact that I don't want him on call or spending his night texting me after every message that I send him. I just know that in a 8 hour time that there is one point where he looks at his phone wather or not it is to check the time or not that he could see I have texed him once and just respond. And it just makes me feel like crap that he can't even do that when we made that compromise and I have done the part that I was supposed to do and he has not done his part at all... I just don't know what to do I love him so much but I just can't continue to put forth so much effort in our relationship if he is just not going to and just screw me over and make me upset and yell me at the time for the most pointless things. And no matter what it is we are fighting about and who starts he throws all back on me and blames every single one of our disagreements on me and I really just don't know what to do anymore cause I'm staring to not be as strong anymore he has changed so much and I miss the old him so much its not even funny. He is the one I lost mu virginity to and lately I'm really wishing that I had not I'm so stupid I don't know why I couldn't see through the mask to what I'm really getting myself into. And now I'm in deep. I really need help everything else in my life is going wrong to and I don't know how much more I can take of life when there's just no one here for me anymore. What I have I ever done to anyone to deserve this?? Please help me what should I do??

starbuck8
Sep 13, 2008, 12:11 AM
I know you are not going to like this at all, but please trust me on this one okay? Break up with him and leave. It's going to hurt, but it's suppose to. That is what teaches you to watch for the signs in later relationships.

Have some pride in yourself! DO NOT let him treat you the way he is. He's walking all over you, because he knows he can! He sounds like he's is very controlling, and he wants it all his way. This isn't going to change, it will only get worse... believe me when I say that. You have got a ton of RED FLAGS going up everywhere.

I'm sorry that you have to go through this, but even the compromise wasn't a good idea. He knew that you would stick to your end of the bargain, and he knew he would play it for what it was worth. NEVER make yourself available to someone who treats you like an option, once or twice a week. He knows you love him and will wait, while he is out partying, and probably hitting on other girls... possibly worse since he gets angry when you call.

Dump him honey! You deserve better, and it will only get worse, and harder for you in the long run. No good man would do this, and no man will respect and stay faithful to a girl that sits at home and waits on his every move.

Good luck!