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pisces313
Sep 11, 2008, 11:35 AM
I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. He moved into his house a year ago, and shortly after he asked me to move in. Everything in our relationship has been going awesome and we're looking for a house to purchase together and we've talked about marriage.
The only petpeeve I have is that he doesn't initiate sex. Now from the beginning he wasn't really the one to ask, it was mostly me. But for the past 4 months now he hasn't asked at all. Now when I ask we'll have sex and I can see he enjoys it. I know he has a good sex drive cause he also still masturbates as well. I'm I asking too much to want him to ask? I would just like it cause it would make me feel sexy and stuff. I've tired to talk about it with him, and he says that there's nothing wrong and that I'm over analyzing things.

simoneaugie
Sep 11, 2008, 02:04 PM
Some people have trouble initiating, verbally. I'm sure that there are some signals he gives off when he's horny. He may always be this way. Are you willing to live with it?

lmangileri
Sep 11, 2008, 02:10 PM
My husband doesn't initiate it verbally at all but there are certain things he does

pisces313
Sep 11, 2008, 03:58 PM
Well Yes I have to admit he's never really verbally come and told me I'm horny, lets have sex. But he would do things to kind of let me know. But lately at least I haven't seen it. We kind of got into a fight one night about it, and he said why didn't I ask him a couple of days ago, and then I realized maybe a few days ago he did try to ask but I dind't see. BUt sometimes I just get so upset. And yes I am willing to live with it, cause honestly I do love him and I know he loves me, and in all other aspect of our relationship we are really good. So I'm just not sure if I'm just nitpicking things. And just leave well enough alone.

pisces313
Sep 11, 2008, 04:00 PM
IN addition I don't want to be too pushy, cause I know with his ex the reason they broke up is because she cheated on him. ANd sometimes I think to myself maybe this is why she did that so maybe I shouldn't be too pushy with this topic, so I try not to bring it up.