We will be attending my niece's marriage in a (secret) courthouse ceremony now, and she will have a formal wedding next year. Is it appropriate to give a gift now, or wait until "the big day"?

We will be attending my niece's marriage in a (secret) courthouse ceremony now, and she will have a formal wedding next year. Is it appropriate to give a gift now, or wait until "the big day"?



Well, I don't think you give in a gift in exchange for an evening of entertainment (at a reception) so I would send the gift now, a gift in celebration of and congratulations on the marriage.

And I'd be so delighted to be invited to an otherwise secret wedding - !

The gift is in celebration of there marriage, so give it now.