My (now ex) boyfriend and I had dated for a little more than two years, and everything was perfect until he started college. We had talked about it a little before he went, and he said that he wasn't sure what to do, and that we will keep dating, but whatever happens would happen. Then, he started college, and I saw him about two days into it and everything was very good-- he was doing everything like normal, so I wasn't worried. Then we went to his house to take a nap, when he suddenly brought up that he wasn't sure he could be in a relationship. He said this because he thinks that if we were together in college, we would be together the whole time and then afterward and he is not sure if he wants to get married and settle down for the rest of his life ( I think that just because we are together in college doesn't essentially mean that we will get married, but that is what he is thinking). It was very sad and he cried and so did I, but he says that we have a future together. I went home and was very sad, but I am just letting him do what he feels he has to do. He had called or texted me every day since the break up, and a week later he invited me over to his dorm. We were laying down together and everything seemed almost normal, until I brought the situation up and he didn't really want to talk about it. I didn't bring it up until a couple of hours later when he said that he was "very confused" and "didn't know what he was doing". He kept telling me he loves me, and eventually I dropped him off at his dorm when he said "I'm not calling you before I go to sleep anymore" and I said okay. So he didn't call me that day, but it took him about 1 day to call me back before he went to bed. I didn't pick up, and I let the next day pass, but he called and texted me at night too. The next day he called and said he was at his house and he wanted to see me, so he came to my house. He was acting like normal for a while, but when I asked him why he had been calling me he didn't want to talk about it. I told him that I was very confused, because he would try and hold my hand, and kiss me "accidentally" and then he said that he had to go. I just asked him why he was doing this if he loves me, and he said that he doesn't want a relationship, and he can't want one. I then asked him why he says to me he can date other girls then, and he said I don't want to date other girls. I was frustrated because I feel like he is running away from his problems, but I didn't call him because he needed space. I then got a call later in the evening saying "I am not calling you, texting you, or seeing you anymore" and that he was sorry that he was confusing me but being single is what he really wants. He then was talking about how he was really busy (he is, but not SO busy that he can't hang out with me sometimes.. and I knew this) but also that he has never had a girlfriend besides me and essentially needs to compare me to someone to make sure that I am the one before he settles down with me. I was pretty angry by that and I then explained that I could date other people too, which I think makes him kind of mad, but it is only fair that if he is single, than I am single too. He sounded kind of angry, because I feel like he doesn't really know what he wants, and he is very confused. I just can't trust what he is going to say because the last two times he said he would not call me, he ended up calling me a day later, and he says he wants to date other people sometimes, but he says that he loves me and that he doesn't want to date other people sometimes. I am trying to give him space, but it is hard because I feel like there is really no reason why this is happening. He is very confused, even though he doesn't want to admit it, and I am not really sure what to do because if he is serious about dating other people, I am not sure if I could trust him. I just don't know what to do. Do I call him? But that would make him more annoyed I think. Or do I not call him? It could make him miss me more like the last couple of times, or it could make him think that we shouldn't even talk anymore. He keeps saying that we have a future together, but I don't think that if he dates other people and is "comparing" me to others, I could ever trust him. That call was yesterday, and I don't really know what to do since then... I am so confused and I just feel as if he is forcing himself into not loving me, just because he maybe wants the stereotypical "college experience" that many of his friends... and it makes me very sad. I am trying to occupy myself with other things, but It is really hard because this is such a confusing situation.
I am also just scared of what will happen, who knows... he could just be saying this and will realize how much he misses me--just like the times he's said he will not call but has. Or he could realize that he likes being single and that scares me to think about. I also don't think that him finding a new girlfriend would be that easy (same for me finding a new boyfriend) just because nothing bad happened in our relationship besides this and I can't imagine being with someone else while both of us obviously have feelings for each other. This is such a confusing situation but I just need some advice about what to do.

I didn't read every line of your post but I got the just of it. My younger cousin and sister are going through the same thing as you. They are still in high school and their BF's just entered college. Your BF is being honest with you, you need to respect that. You have to put you self in his shoes. He just entered college where he probably lives there and there are hundreds of girls running around. He wants to experience college. It's not that he doesn't love you or want to be with you, it's just he has entered a new phase of his life and wants to keep his possibilites open of meeting new people - friends or more. You can only understand this fully once you enter college yourself. Support him, be his friend and let him experience college. You will want the same when you go to college and there are a ton of cute guys around you and living down your hall.

Sorry to break it to you, but he has realized he wants to be single. It's part of life hun, everyone goes through it. Be strong.

Right now I'm living your situation except I'm playing the role of your boyfriend (but I'm a girl, just to clarify). My boyfriend didn't go to college but I did. I don't care about dating other people or anything, but he doesn't support me being here... away from him. He keeps talking about getting married and having kids and I'm not at that point in my life where I'm even ready to talk about that. We have been dating since high school but him trying to get close to me is pushing me away. I know this might not answer your question... or the fact that your question is two years old... but some times I think people really do need time apart to discover who they are without the interference of a significant other.