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sanobia89
Sep 8, 2008, 10:09 PM
I ♥ the single life, but its just something about being in a relationship that I simply adore... ♥ I want a chance 2 ♥ again,but I want The Right guy this time.
I just don't understand why I keep attracting the [WRONG] guys,
Its always they lie and cheat, and sometimes I just sit and wonder what did I do wrong
What did I do right what did I do period.
Because I try my hardest to make a dude happy and I end up unhappy.
I always come out being the one hurt
With a broken heart
Because I fell in love with the wrong guy
I'm more of a [ Im going to do my best to make you happy even if I'm not happy] I put others before myself

Truth be told.
I haven't once found someone that honestly loved me back
I only found guys that would pretend to love me just to get what they wanted & I can only blame myself. I have been single for about 5 1'2 months and that's really rewarding for myself... I took this time out to find myself and figure out what I really want.
There's guys that want to be with me, but I just don't want to get hurt again.
Is that wrong?
I been hurt so many times and I just want to be LOVED for me!
CAN ANYBODY HELP ME WITH MY SITUATION??
PLEASE?

411Help
Sep 8, 2008, 10:30 PM
If you don't mind. Can I ask you a few questions?

How old are you?

Do you find yourself to be "Clingy" or a "Push Over?

sanobia89
Sep 8, 2008, 10:34 PM
I'm not clingy, not even close
I like my space
I'm not a push over either
I'm 18

talaniman
Sep 9, 2008, 06:51 AM
Love yourself ,and take a lot more time choosing your partner, as there is no hurry to be with someone. Look beyond the words, and see the guys for what they really are.

411Help
Sep 9, 2008, 07:18 PM
Before jumping into your next relationship you should learn a lot about the guy. In other words, take your time, follow your instincts.

ylaira
Sep 9, 2008, 07:48 PM
I don't know you so I can't tell what wrong things are you are doing but I think its unfair to label ALL your exes as liars and cheaters.

However these are the mistakes "YOU COULD" be doing wrong.

-being in love with the concept of fairy tale.
-thinking you can change someone.
-having sex in first or second dates.
-ignoring danger signs right on the first date.
-being available at all times.
-forgetting about yourself and just give it all.
-accusative when angry instead of saying how you feel.
-too paranoid.
-taking to the new person what the previous man has done to you.
-making men read your mind.

Etc etc

Relationship is give and take and even the 46 yr marriage doesn't mean they are perfect just because it lasted long.

There''s no Prince Charming but find someone who will respect you, has good background, appears to have a good future and communicates well. But make sure you posses these qualities first.