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Miiiiia
Sep 4, 2008, 04:33 PM
I´m 17 years and I´m pregnant. What should I do? The father is a guy I met in when I was in spain, and I have no contact with him now. Should I keep the baby or have an abortion? Please help me!

Fr_Chuck
Sep 4, 2008, 04:55 PM
Keep the baby or put the baby up for adoption.

J_9
Sep 4, 2008, 05:07 PM
This decision is yours and yours alone. Many here will tell you to keep it, or to abort it, or better yet to put it up for adoption.

While each of those are options, they all carry their own consequences and while one might be right for me, it might not be right for you.

I warn you now that you are going to get so many responses that recommend one of the three (abortion, adoption, or keeping it), but this decision can only be made by you and your family.

Please discuss this with your parents and make the choice that ONLY you can make.

morena13
Sep 4, 2008, 05:37 PM
i´m 17 years and i´m pregnant. what should i do? the father is a guy i met in when i was in spain, and i have no contact with him now. should i keep the baby or have an abortion? please help me!
Well it is your decision whether to keep the baby
But I will give you adive though you are still young
You should keep the baby. Because why kill another's
Life over a accident that happened? Also try your hardest
To get in contact with the baby's dad
If not you can also ask your parents for some
Help raising the baby

Emland
Sep 4, 2008, 05:54 PM
Whatever decision you make, be sure you can look yourself in the mirror afterward. You decided to take on adult behavior and now you have to make an adult decision that affects other people's lives.

JBeaucaire
Sep 5, 2008, 10:52 AM
Contact an adoption service now. One of the benefits of deciding to do such a wonderful thing as providing a childless family with this beautiful gift is the family will take care of you in many ways over the next year. It can be a joyous year getting to know the new parents, and having all your medical expenses and such taken care of.

This can be a great year, for you, for them and ultimately, for the rest of your baby's life.

sanobia89
Sep 5, 2008, 11:20 AM
I simply don't care for abortions
There are so many teenage parents today that
Are rasing babies [by them self]
Ypu can do it but its yet, your choice. I say keep the baby
Because the baby will soon be your motivation to keep you strong

Brownin
Sep 14, 2008, 04:38 PM
No one can answer that question for you it is a life changing thing and you should sit down and think about what you really want because at the end of the day you are going to live with your decision for the rest of your life, having a baby young is not always an bad thing but having a baby young and not being able to take care and love he/she how they should be is, so make sure YOU make the decision.

lmangileri
Sep 14, 2008, 04:45 PM
I would watch the movie, Juno.

lmangileri
Sep 14, 2008, 04:48 PM
I should have elaborated on that. If you don't know what the movie is about it's about a girl in high school who gets pregnant and knows she can't be a mom yet so she decides she wants to get an abortion. While she's at the clinic a girl from school is standing outside with a sign about abortions- you know how people do that? Well she ends up not following through with the abortion and lets a woman that's wanted a baby for years adopt it. I know it's just a movie but maybe you should check it out

GothGirl1771
Sep 18, 2008, 03:59 PM
Don't abort it... there are a lot of young couples out there who want a child, give him to adoption or keep him. You can change somebody's life.

J_9
Sep 18, 2008, 04:02 PM
Again, this is a personal decision ONLY the op can make. There are pros and cons to both adoption and abortion.

Viliami
Sep 18, 2008, 05:22 PM
No babies deserve to be brought into this to end up being killed. . its not the babies fault so why take its life. And adoption wouldn't help. The kid would only grow up wondering who its real mother and father is. . which could lead to him/her hating them for just leaving. . keep the babie and cherish it. . maybe someone could help you look after it.

J_9
Sep 18, 2008, 05:24 PM
Again, this is a personal decision. You see, we all have our own views and no one is more right than anyone else.

Some people think abortion is murder, others don't (aside from using it as birth control0

Some people think that the stress of pregnancy and labor and delivery can be mentally traumatic, so adoption is hard and can leave a permanent scar.

Yet, other people believe that some are too young or immature to raise a child.

Nobody is more right or wrong, it is a personal decision that the OP must make on her own.

BlueBearcat11
Sep 18, 2008, 05:26 PM
It reall is your choice but if you have a lot going and youdont have time for a full pregnancie term I say abortion. But if you have time adoption

J_9
Sep 18, 2008, 05:26 PM
It reall is your choice but if you have a lot going and youdont have time for a full pregnancie term i say abortion. but if you have time adoption

It's not about if you have time or not. That is actually ridiculous.

Xrayman
Sep 18, 2008, 05:39 PM
Oh dear.

Make your choice and run with that decision. Forget about asking us, total strangers to provide you with an answer.

Best wishes, and whatever you decide it will be right FOR YOU!

katii
Sep 18, 2008, 06:00 PM
i´m 17 years and i´m pregnant. what should i do? the father is a guy i met in when i was in spain, and i have no contact with him now. should i keep the baby or have an abortion? please help me!
The baby needs a chance to live. Keep it. You never know what he/she will do in their life. They might be the next president, einstine, or be an amazing athlete. Give the kid a chance. The father will soon find out. Trust me you'll find a way to contact him soon.

shannon08
Sep 29, 2008, 05:37 PM
Simple keep the baby.

nebomb1982
Sep 29, 2008, 05:53 PM
i´m 17 years and i´m pregnant. what should i do? the father is a guy i met in when i was in spain, and i have no contact with him now. should i keep the baby or have an abortion? please help me!

I just turned 26 years old and I have three kids, a 4year old and twin 1 year old girls. It's extremely hard! And my 4 year olds father is not in the picture, and he is very close by. Like everyone else I feel the decision is yours and yours alone, I thought I would'nt be able to do it, but babies have a way of making you grow up and be more responsible. You are strong I can tell that just because you decided to ask for help. I know many girls that had gotten themselves pregnant @ a younger age than yours and they or doing fine, everyone not the same but, there are ways. You have Planned Parent Hood you can look them up, there great with this kinds of situations or Birth Right, their organization will help you with whatever you need. Anything from helping you make the right choice for you to helping buying baby items, even help you with housing situations.Please check those sites out or go visit one in your area.

follow please
Sep 29, 2008, 08:30 PM
Yes this is definitely and purely your decision. But ill tell you my point of view, because this site is for advice and expression. Ill have to say abortion, I have a hippie view of the world, but before abortion it is only the POTENTIAL for life. The points I can make: well, if you decide to go through with pregnancy be prepared for extreme pain physically and mentally. Be prepared to possibly be cut open to get the baby out, be prepared to never go to college or university and get a good education and job in the future that you will need to support your child, be prepared to completely ruin your body (it will never be the same again), be prepared to feel at fault if your child suffers and awful life... just be prepared to have an emotional hiroshima dropped on you. I strongly suggest an abortion before it is too late, giving away a child you housed for 9 months and witnessed how beautiful life can be, is just too hard... im sorry but this is life ruining situation. I hope you make the right decision, I wish you luck with your future endeavours and possibly raising your child.

Follow Please
Live Love L E A R N

follow please
Oct 2, 2008, 02:12 PM
I meant the whole ordeal, not just the abortion. This is her choice people, she's on here for advice, and this is mine. I can't tell her what she should and should not do, I'm only pointing out my way of thinking about it. Life is beautiful, and there are many ways of screwing it up, whether it be by letting it flourish, or smothering it. We live in a sick world, there's too much opinion to be tossed around, I don't mean to offend ANYONE, I'm trying to help the poor girl

follow please
Oct 2, 2008, 02:14 PM
I guess what I'm getting at is, you shouldn't be on this site asking people. You should be talking to your loved ones about what to do and what's best for you

ANB428
Oct 2, 2008, 02:53 PM
be prepared to never go to college or university and get a good education and job in the future that you will need to support your child,


Live Love L E A R N


This is totally not true. I got pregnant at 18 and I kept my daughter and yea I struggle every month, but I go to college full-time and work two jobs. I work for a government contractor for the Army Defense (so I have a good job) and I am still getting my education. Oh and my mom lives over 900 miles away from me and my father is dead. I have been doing this for three years without any help from the father or my parents. I started school two years ago. So, it is possible, but it is VERY hard!! If I can do it, you can. So before you listen to all of these other people's opinions you should pray to God and see what he wants for you. God does everything for a reason. There are many pros and cons for abortion, adoption and keeping the baby. If you have an abortion you will not have to deal with raising a child alone at a young age, but could you live with that decision? You can give the baby up for adoption to a loving family, but can you deal with the fact that one day the child may come to you and ask you why you gave it up and why you didn't care enough to keep it? And last is to have the baby, but are you ready to give up all of your wants for your child's needs? I never get to spend any money on myself because I am always paying bills or using the money for my daughter's clothes or food, but she is the best thing that has ever happened to me. This decision is totally yours and although there are many people who will give you advice, you are the only one who knows what is best for you. I do believe in abortions, adoption, and keeping the child. I hope that you make the best decision for your life. Good luck!! Don't let other people tell you what to do or not to do because this is YOUR life, not theirs!!

liz28
Oct 2, 2008, 03:31 PM
Follow me how dare you say such things. Having a baby at any age is hard and of course having one as a teen is hard but it's up to the person on how they handle things.

I had my daughter at a young age but still got an education. Most colleges have nurseries in them but a lot of young people are making babies, mostly community colleges though. I finish college and had a job through it all and supported my child. At 18 I had a place of my own for her and me. My body isn't ruin and I didn't have to cut open at birth. Also, my daughter life nor my life is awful.

I think your view is screwed up and I really didn't see your post as advice. It was horrible. I didn't know hippies think this way.

To the OP you need to tell your parents and thoroughly think about all your choices before making one. There no easy path and any road you take is going be hard. I hope you have family and friends to help you along the way with any decisions you make. Keep us updated and remember life is a journey.

JudyKayTee
Oct 2, 2008, 05:48 PM
Follow me how dare you say such things. Having a baby at any age is hard and of course having one as a teen is hard but it's up to the person on how they handle things.

I had my daughter at a young age but still got an education. Most colleges have nurseries in them but alot of young people are making babies, mostly community colleges though. I finish college and had a job through it all and supported my child. At 18 I had a place of my own for her and me. My body isn't ruin and I didn't have to cut open at birth. Also, my daughter life nor my life is awful.

I think your view is screwed up and I really didn't see your post as advice. It was horrible. I didn't know hippies think this way.

To the OP you need to tell your parents and throughly think about all your choices before making one. There no easy path and any road you take is going be hard. I hope you have family and friends to help you along the way with any decisions you make. Keep us updated and remember life is a journey.



You've posted that you're divorced - where was your husband through all of this?

I see it less about child care while a single parent is in college and more about paying tuition and living expenses and supporting the child - and being awake enough to attend classes and do well.

There are exceptions, of course, but the statistics on single parents and poverty and children born to single parents and poverty, the number of single mothers who go on to have other children out of wedlock, are staggering.

But otherwise I agree - life is what you make it and there is no easy choice. There are single mothers on these boards who have made good lives for themselves and their children and I certainly have friends who (with their child) have succeeded and thrived. One of my best friends put herself through college and law school while waitressing and raising her child alone - so it does happen.

liz28
Oct 2, 2008, 05:58 PM
You've posted that you're divorced - where was your husband through all of this?

I see it less about child care while a single parent is in college and more about paying tuition and living expenses and supporting the child - and being awake enough to attend classes and do well.

There are exceptions, of course, but the statistics on single parents and poverty and children born to single parents and poverty, the number of single mothers who go on to have other children out of wedlock, are staggering.

But otherwise I agree - life is what you make it and there is no easy choice. There are single mothers on these boards who have made good lives for themselves and their children and I certainly have friends who (with their child) have succeeded and thrived. One of my best friends put herself through college and law school while waitressing and raising her child alone - so it does happen.

I never said anywhere on any threads about me being divorce nor ever being married. I think before you post something you should've your information straight because you got me confused with someone else. Never even claimed to be married in any of my threads.

I never said having a child is only about child care but it isn't minor. Without child care you can't go to school let alone get a job. I had a child and went to college plus graduated. I stated some colleges offer child care but they do have a age limit and it's mostly community colleges. I mention nothing about tution nor sleepless nights or studying but when you have a child while going to school you go through it. I went through it and many females have.

ANB428
Oct 3, 2008, 07:18 AM
[QUOTE=JudyKayTee;1302958]

I see it less about child care while a single parent is in college and more about paying tuition and living expenses and supporting the child - and being awake enough to attend classes and do well.

QUOTE]

Well, there are many grants out there available for single mothers that will pay for their classes. It is hard though to support yourself and go to school full-time. The grants don't cover your daycare and living expenses, they only cover your tuition and books. You can get loans as well, but seeing how the economy is right now it could be hard. It is possible though to go to school and work and raise a child. I have been doing it for two years now. I do have many sleepless nights and bust my butt though!

Bural21
Oct 4, 2008, 07:57 PM
If you have plans for going onto college and so-on, I would recommend finding a family who would like a child but can't produce one of their own. Not only are you not killing a life, but you're meeting the potential parents face-to-face so you know the child you produced will live with a wonderful family that will take care of the child.

livin_life
Oct 4, 2008, 11:56 PM
I know what you are going through personally, exact situation. I got an abortion, but this ultimately up to you and what matter most. You can weigh the pros and cons.

Keeping It:
1. It will change your life forever, its not just a "baby" this is a child you will have to care for the rest of your life.
2. Your friends, family, and strangers will judge you. So be prepared
3. It is going to be the hardest/greatest thing you will ever have to do. Remember you are going to have to have to raise this child financially as well as emotional. You will have to sacrifice going out, friends, having fun, school, career plans, etc.

Adoption:
1. You will have to endure the pain of going through the pregnancy, and then giving up this child you have bonded with for the past 9 months.
2. Your friends, family, and strangers will judge you as well
3. Dealing with pain that you have given your child, and the child's pain of why they were given up for adoption
4. Or you can be happy knowing that you provided a better life for your child


Abortion:
1. It can be painful to deal with the fact that you have deceased this baby
2. Your life plans can continue as planned, no sacrifices will have to be made, enjoying the best years of your life your 20s!
3. Nobody has to know. If you turn 18 before you are 3 months pregnant you can do this on your own

If you want help or extra advice on abortion in particular I can help you with this matter. I know it's a very emotional time for you and we're all here to help you no matter what you may choose to do.

JBeaucaire
Oct 5, 2008, 07:50 AM
So as to not be thought ill of by others, killing an innocent bystander is ok.
So as not to have to feel unwanted pain, killing an innocent bystander is ok.
So as to not be inconvenienced or feel bad, killing an innocent bystander is ok.

In the case of abortion, there is by definition no greater defenseless innocent bystander than an unborn child. As long as the only thing important in life is avoiding pain, guilt or shame, killing innocents is OK?

In no other part of our culture is this thought to be the case. I continue to find it odd that in this case, we do. In all other parts of culture and education we attempt to teach sacrifice, selflessness, and the responsibility of all to protect the weakest among us who cannot protect themselves.

But not for our own children. I just find it odd.

I'm absolutely 100% about choice. Everyone gets a choice. I just can't believe we think the choices are "kill the baby or not"? The choice should be "raise the baby myself or not?"

Just my humble opinion, folks.

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If killing innocent bystanders is OK to avoid the things noted above, what if you were the innocent bystander?

kirriky
Oct 6, 2008, 04:00 AM
I'm surprised to see how anti-abortion this forum is. Everyone who has mentioned abortion has gotten replies like "how dare you say that", "abortion should not be an option"... Abortion is a reality and a women's right in many countries, and in this situation is one of the options for the girl. It's not about killing the baby - early on it's zygote, a fetus that might or might not be carried to full term. It's about waiting a few years to give your child a better life. This baby is going to be born fatherless, to a teen who didn't want it and is unsure of whether to keep it, who'll have little money to support it and might resent it for "ruining" her life.. What good is it going to do to anyone?

JBeaucaire
Oct 6, 2008, 07:42 AM
What good is it going to do to anyone?The unwanted baby will be the UNIVERSE to the couple that adopts it. That baby will THE MOST WANTED and adored child on the planet.

Everything you said is correct about the affects on the mother and the life it "might" have as a result if kept, but you just essentially MADE the argument for adoption. Thanks for that.

And again, like most people I debate this topic with, you fail to answer any of my questions regarding the "rights" of the innocent bystander. Instead, you discount them completely in the name of inconvenience. That's very telling to me.

You would get sent to JAIL for spanking a child in some districts... but killing it altogether, that's fine.

DoulaLC
Oct 6, 2008, 01:54 PM
i´m 17 years and i´m pregnant. what should i do? the father is a guy i met in when i was in spain, and i have no contact with him now. should i keep the baby or have an abortion? please help me!


I wish you well in whatever decision you make. As you can see, there are different options and many opinions. You will have to decide what is best for you and for your pregnancy. Consider how your decision now will potentially effect how you feel about it in 3 years, 5 years, 10 years when your life will be very different from how it is today.

hjpan
Oct 6, 2008, 02:11 PM
Knocked up....

Yep~ should've kept your legs closed...

There's nothing to say.

Adopt.
Abort.
Keep.

JudyKayTee
Oct 6, 2008, 02:52 PM
Knocked up....

Yep~ should've kept your legs closed...

There's nothing to say.

Adopt.
Abort.
Keep.






Totally crude and obscene and right in keeping with all of your other posts. Again, no wonder why you've been suspended from another board - for life.

Chessca
Oct 6, 2008, 03:31 PM
I know this sounds mean because its up to you what you do but personally I'd have an abortion.
You've got plenty of time left to have kids if you want them and you can have kids with someone you really love as well.
Get your best mates at your side, (yet again this sounds bad) don't tell your parents, and go out and enjoy your teenage hood because it won't last forever!
Well done with the guy in spain by the way, wer you pissed or was he really cute lol??

Get an abortion, good luck CHESSCA XXXX

twinkiedooter
Oct 6, 2008, 04:48 PM
Knocked up....

Yep~ should've kept your legs closed...

There's nothing to say.

Adopt.
Abort.
Keep.





You are rude, crude and stupid on top of all that. Your avatar says it all. Drinking straight from the bottle. No wonder you say such trash - you're zonked out of your skull on booze.

hjpan
Oct 6, 2008, 06:38 PM
You are rude, crude and stupid on top of all that. Your avatar says it all. Drinking straight from the bottle. No wonder you say such trash - you're zonked out of your skull on booze.

Good one on judging one and assuming about me.

1. I hardly drank. I only drink when I socialize as you can see that the pic was a house party with me drinking.
2. I am not rude, crude, and stupid. My post is like everyone else: adopt, abort, or keep.
3. I don't say such trash. Only those who accept the facts will know what I'm trying to say.

J_9
Oct 6, 2008, 06:42 PM
This thread was posted by the OP a month ago, and the OP has not returned, as well as the bashing going on here... This thread has been officially closed.