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MixedMessages
Sep 3, 2008, 04:54 PM
I met a girl who had been single for 3 years. Her only other relationship was her first love which lasted 5 years. They still keep in touch regularly by phone although he has been living with his new girlfriend for 2 years in a different state.
We lasted 14 weeks before the dreaded "We rushed it and lets take a step back." I had no idea whether she meant a break up or slow things down. I did the right thing and backed off and our contact became less frequent. There was no intimacy during the slow down phase. Recently she asked me to meet up for a coffee and started texting me a fair bit, then the next day she went cold again. I told her that we achieve nothing by staying in contact as she was playing with my mind (still really liked her and wanted more). She got fairly angry with me cutting all ties with her.
Her friend said to me yesterday that she said the relationship didn't work because she was used to being single and didn't enjoy having to tell someone what she was doing each day, where she was. I can see now that I may have been too demanding about wanting her time but she gave me no warning along the way that I was too restrictive. I wasn't clingy, I just wanted to see her.
Did I do the right thing by cutting her from my life even though I really miss her? Was I being used? Was there a chance if I kept it cool? It ended 10 weeks ago.

BrewCrew0981
Sep 3, 2008, 05:13 PM
If she doesn't reciprocate the time needed to sustain a relationship, you did the right thing in just letting it go.

NaNA21
Sep 3, 2008, 06:17 PM
I think u did the right thing,and you are not the problem... I think she doesn't know what she wants.. maybe if u stayed more in this relationship , u will suffer more
So, absolutely u did the right thing,, I wish u will find the right woman who deserves u
Good luck... wish u all the best
NANA

Stephen100
Sep 3, 2008, 06:27 PM
Ummmm. You are confused. Oh its normal.:eek:

talaniman
Sep 3, 2008, 07:39 PM
90% of all relationships break up, and its really no ones fault. You were not compatible enough that simple. You did the right thing though, as its better to move on, than be miserable.