MixedMessages
Sep 3, 2008, 04:54 PM
I met a girl who had been single for 3 years. Her only other relationship was her first love which lasted 5 years. They still keep in touch regularly by phone although he has been living with his new girlfriend for 2 years in a different state.
We lasted 14 weeks before the dreaded "We rushed it and lets take a step back." I had no idea whether she meant a break up or slow things down. I did the right thing and backed off and our contact became less frequent. There was no intimacy during the slow down phase. Recently she asked me to meet up for a coffee and started texting me a fair bit, then the next day she went cold again. I told her that we achieve nothing by staying in contact as she was playing with my mind (still really liked her and wanted more). She got fairly angry with me cutting all ties with her.
Her friend said to me yesterday that she said the relationship didn't work because she was used to being single and didn't enjoy having to tell someone what she was doing each day, where she was. I can see now that I may have been too demanding about wanting her time but she gave me no warning along the way that I was too restrictive. I wasn't clingy, I just wanted to see her.
Did I do the right thing by cutting her from my life even though I really miss her? Was I being used? Was there a chance if I kept it cool? It ended 10 weeks ago.
We lasted 14 weeks before the dreaded "We rushed it and lets take a step back." I had no idea whether she meant a break up or slow things down. I did the right thing and backed off and our contact became less frequent. There was no intimacy during the slow down phase. Recently she asked me to meet up for a coffee and started texting me a fair bit, then the next day she went cold again. I told her that we achieve nothing by staying in contact as she was playing with my mind (still really liked her and wanted more). She got fairly angry with me cutting all ties with her.
Her friend said to me yesterday that she said the relationship didn't work because she was used to being single and didn't enjoy having to tell someone what she was doing each day, where she was. I can see now that I may have been too demanding about wanting her time but she gave me no warning along the way that I was too restrictive. I wasn't clingy, I just wanted to see her.
Did I do the right thing by cutting her from my life even though I really miss her? Was I being used? Was there a chance if I kept it cool? It ended 10 weeks ago.