[F] So, as you guys would know about me and my ex girlfriend [check my other posts if you don't]. It's been around 7 months now and I'm happy to say I'm moving on, doing boxing and have been doing anger management and counselling since the break-up. I'm also back at school and off to University next year.

My ex has been talking a lot about me and has a new significant other, is spreading rumours and being immature about everything that happened. The other day, a friend of her and I spoke to me about some dvds my ex wants. All her stuff, I gave back to her through friends and sisters because my ex didn't want to be near me - which was fair enough. The dvd's she wants aren't actually hers, nor are they mine and if I don't give them to her she will seek legal advice, which I laughed at.

I arrived home from school today and found an email stating the dvds she wants and an almost expectation that I will give them to her. Since the break-up she has done quite a lot to affect me while, honestly, I have not done a thing to her except leave her alone and give what was rightfully hers back. Part of me wants to be selfish and keep the dvds, whilst the other part is saying "just give them back". On advice of friends, it's the same, half said do the other half said don't so I'm not entirely sure what to do. It may sound stupid but I'm assuming anyone who has been hurt has been through something similar to this regarding emotions. So please help!

Thanks

So... the dvds aren't hers... or yours? Who do they actually belong to?

Regardless, just give them back to her (if they're not yours) and wash your hands of this mess altogether. What's a few dvds worth when compared to peace and quiet? You can buy new dvds... you can't buy peace and quiet.

When we brought them we both agreed they were ours and never discussed it again so I'm not actually sure who's they'd be really. I agree with that statement about the peace and quiet, I guess it's me sort of thinking that "Why should I give them back when you're being stupid about it all" and that's the reason why I'm a bit confused.
Thanks for your reply =]

I hear you... for me, no amount of money is worth that peace and quiet.

... if my ex (9 months of NC now) called and said, "Hey, I want my bed back"... although it's actually my bed... take it. I'll buy a new one.

... that's how much I enjoy my peace and quiet.

To add to my first post, I forgot to mention the day she left she took 2 dvds and never asked for anymore until now. If they were that important wouldn't she have taken them then or at least asked for them earlier?. just a bit curious about that also

Well, there are two... ideas that come to mind.

1. she misses you, and wants to somehow see you or have some sort of contact with you, or just plain annoy you.

2. she... really wants those dvds now?

Haha yeah, from what she's been doing also, mates of mine have come up and said to me that they believe she still has feelings for me. But I don't know, if it were me and I'm sure most other people, I would have taken them a lot earlier, if they hated their ex as much as mine says she does. Changing numbers and what not usually indicates that "i hate you and i never want to see/hear from/speak to you again"... doesnt it?

Jeez, I left over 200 dvd, a ton of furniture plus an 8k debt. She didn't request I leave it.. but the less I have to take the better, in my opinion.

S stated earlier.. peace of mind is worth more than all that stuff combined.

Eh.... she's being the immature one~

My ex refused to give my stuff back so I'm going to make her suffer =/
There's always nothing for something or there is no such thing as free lunch

You would think that after 7 months she would've move on, which you stated she did. She is not making a big deal over the dvds but just want to bother you and to piss you off. If the dvds was that important she would've requested them a long time along as you mention. On the other hand to get rid of her and get her out of your hair, I might give it to her. Then again what will happen if next week she wants something else. This can be on going and it's unfair to you. If one of my ex contact me out the blue, especially months later, I would hang up on them. She sounds like a trouble maker and you don't want trouble. I can even say do the right thing because you stated the both of you purchased it together, therefore don't she owe you half? Anyway I would let them go so hopefully the rumors can stop and she leave you alone. Before thd dvds exchange hands, I would write an agreement that nothing else is owe to her and let her sign it. This way next week she won't be adding something else. If she can't sign the agreement then the dvds must not have been important.

Not worth the drama she is trying to create. Get it over with, and be done with it.