I don't even know why I'm here, I know the answer to my question but can't bring myself to do it. I guess I just need advise and to hear it from all of you, and get up the courage to follow through.
I have been in a serious relationship with a man for over a year. I knew in the beginning that he was married and according to him, they (him and his wife) are no longer in the relationship stage. She, according to him, has cheated on him numerous times and he is tired of trying to make it work. Now the kicker is... they still live together and have two kids. He can't afford to move out and we are not ready to move in together but it still bothers me that they live together. ( its for financial reasons) I have tried to put myself in his shoes and have done it successfully for the 12 months that we have become serious, I am now getting to the point that my mind is constantly thinking about it.
I can honestly say that everything about our relationship is almost perfect, we have great communication, he has been honest with me from the beginning about everything and I to him. I have spent time with his daughter, (6) and he spends time with my kids, we also have had outtings together. His 12 year old son and I have not met as of yet, I know he has issues with the separation, according to his father.
I love this man with my entire self. I have even changed my ways for him. I am an Italian Aries, with a hot temper and relationship sabotaging skills. Since I have beenwith him I have become a better person by thinking first before I respond and apologizing when I know I'm wrong. I feel that he has helped me with so much.
I helped him heal when his father died and he has helped me as well with family issues. We just have such a great bond.
Again... the weight on my mind is that he is still married. My heart breaks and my should aches. Advise... please!! What to do??

This is not a good situation. Does his wife know about you? Is she also dating? The fact that they are still living together but dating other people must be so confusing to the kids!

My advice... break up with him immediately. Tell him to give you a call when he has truly left his wife.

Yes she knows about me, she is still seeing the guy she cheated on him with. She has actually called my cell a couple of times but left no message and no harassment. He has told me to answer if she calls again, to not be afraid, that she knows him and I are serious.
I agree with you on the kids being confused. I know his son must be going through some issues knowing that his parents are living together but don't love each other. I am not sure about his 6 year old daughter.
What kills me is that my kids like him and visa versa, I don't want to hurt my kids or break my own heart but its getting harder to deal with.

Doesn't look like things will change, and they both have their cake and enjoying it, so why change anything? You can change yourself though, right.

In love follows your heart or love?