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maria b
Sep 2, 2008, 08:34 AM
Hello,
I have been in a relationship with my lover for 4yrs,then unfortnately he got married with another woman,and I got married with another man,but my marriage didn't worked out,and I got divorced after 1 yr,I remarried my ex lover as he convinced me lot,he already had 3 kidz,his wife has been separated but he has changed now,his behaviour is not like before,he degrades me lot to please his family,seconly he dun want more then 2 kidz in future,he is v aggressive,he yells and shouts on small things,what must I do?I have been married with him since 2 yrs,I have no kid,I'm a professional lady but I dun do job,kindly guide me what to do?

plonak
Sep 2, 2008, 12:15 PM
I have a suggestion.. follow these steps veeerry carefully

1. click the edit button on this post

2. Erase everything you've written

3. Write it in clear english so we can understand you.

Got it?

excon
Sep 2, 2008, 12:37 PM
Hello Maria:

Divorce him.

excon

akez
Sep 2, 2008, 01:03 PM
I personally would go out and get my own job and leave. There's no future for you in this. The two of you obviously have different ideas about your future. You want children he doesn't. Really this sort of thing should have been discussed prior to the marriage.

talaniman
Sep 2, 2008, 02:06 PM
Leave, get you a career, and your own life. Why be miserable?

EuRa
Sep 2, 2008, 02:27 PM
What is your nationality and religion?

I think many people on this forum are Americans, and I don't think you are Maria. Your customs are probably very different. I'd say that the situation you are in solely depends on your nationality and religion. When I know what these are, I could give you a better opinion.

From an American stand point, everyone is right. Divorce and move on, you can't win. But if you are middle-eastern and of Islam religion, I have a different opinion.

layyourbebopbop
Sep 3, 2008, 02:58 PM
If he yells or shouts about small things and is very aggressive, get out of the relationship. You do not want to have kids with this man, even if he didn't want them in the first place. I would suggest moving into a relative's house while you find a job and then meet some new people at your new job.