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lemme
Aug 31, 2008, 07:26 AM
Hello Readers, I am 35 lady still single.Did you think I can still get married after 35, am pretty, small,not sexy, low income, and very sensitive, people tell me am good person all my friends wish me to get married but I don't know why am still single or no one ask me for serious relation ship do you think is their any problem with me:confused:

Advice me be for its too let I rill need to start a family

Thanks

DoulaLC
Aug 31, 2008, 07:54 AM
Sometimes the right person or the right timing just hasn't happened yet. Do you have much opportunity to meet men? Sometimes friends might be able to introduce you to people they know, sometimes you might find it helpful to join a club or group that you have a particular interest in and meet people that way. People meet their spouses at work, school, church, while participating in hobbies, chance encounters, etc.. If you have a hobby or cause that you feel passionate about, that may be a good place to start. Getting involved in something you care about can often allow others to see your positive energy... and that can be very attractive.
There are dating sites online and dating organizations in many cities for people who are comfortable meeting someone that way.
How do you feel you come across to others? Do you have a friend or two, perhaps even male friends, that will be very honest with you to suggest anything you might do differently?
You certainly can still get married after 35... plenty of men and women do. Just as an example, I was 40 (with several children) when I married my husband.

Fr_Chuck
Aug 31, 2008, 08:14 AM
WEll depends, a lot of people 35 get married, what is your demands, I mean if you are wanting someone never married, rich and so on, it gets harder.

I know plenty of men who would love to meet someone 35 and pretty.

SweetDee
Sep 1, 2008, 06:36 AM
The first thing I can tell you about meeting a man and having a family is that it all begins w/ YOU... Men are physical creatures, (no offence for the "creature word" lol). If you're pretty, that's a POSITIVE. Now to accentuate your beauty. Bring out your best features... The same goes for your body. Shop at second hand stores if you need to... they have awesome vintage clothes. You say you're thin, ACCENTUATE your hottest features. Be good to yourself and look your very best, that WILL snag a man, but keeping him begins w/ being confident and interesting...

Get self help books, or if you can't afford perhaps just hang out for the day at a large book store. Enjoy some coffee while pouring over the self help sections and you can work on your attitude and confidence there, if you don't already know yourself. Being sure of who you are and how interesting and capable of conversation is a big part in how you "project" yourself and how men will perceive you. Ultimately you need to learn to love yourself and truly believe in how awesome you are.

Dating is a piece of cake once you've tackled your physical and your personal. We all have issues in life, it's up to no one but ourselves to be the best that we can be. It's all there really is in this life. The journey that we've been born into has to go in SOME direction, it might as be one that makes us happy. You've been blessed with "pretty", now do something about it. You have more than MOST!

secretgyrl16
Sep 4, 2008, 07:52 AM
I think you can get married at any age you want. They are no rules what you can or what you can not do. That person hasn't came in your life yet. However, you go after any one and settle with the first guy you find because it will never work out that way. No one asks to be serious, they BECOME serious. Have patience and everything will fall into place wish you luck!

fightincreditor
Sep 8, 2008, 01:32 PM
One piece of advise I would give is when you date do not be too aggressive about a relationship. Just let things happen naturally. Many women and sometimes men try too hard to get people to commit to a relationship in a hurry and scare off a potential partner. I have been married to my husband 32 years and we were friends well before we discussed marriage. Good Luck.

talaniman
Sep 10, 2008, 06:41 PM
What kind of life do you have, and do you enjoy being single?? If not, learn to love yourself, and enjoy the life you build. The rest falls into place in its own time.

nyminute
Sep 17, 2008, 09:44 PM
Hello Readers, i am 35 lady still single.Did you think i can still get married after 35, am pretty, small,not sexy, low income, and very sensitive, people tell me am good person all my friends wish me to get married but i dont know why am still single or no one ask me for serious relation ship do you think is their any problem with me:confused:

advice me be for its too let i rill need to start a family

Thanks
There are plenty of people who are your age and still single. Even though you may feel alone and like you're the only one, it probably has nothing to do with you. Try putting yourself out there a bit and see what happens. There are many men that are alone as well and feel like you do, so do your best to get out there and find one!