Hey everyone,

I've been away for awhile but when this situation came up I had to come and share.

I just want some feedback as to this girl that I think may be interested in me but I'm not sure it's as obvious to others as it was to me (obviously cause that's what I want to beleive) So here goes, any thoughts would be very much appreciated.

On Sunday I had to drive my brother to his volleyball game and ended up having to play in the game because the team was short. I knew one of my brothers friends butnot the other two. The game was fun and when it ended my brother wanted to go out with the girls to celebrate or whatever. Turns out he likes one of the girls on the team. He got cold feet and so I asked the three girls if they wanted to go out and eat or something. Two of them said yes but one couldn't make it, the only one I knew of course.

So we went to a restaurant and my bro sat beside the girl he likes and I sat beside this other girl. I was making them laugh and joking around, the girl next to me was really laughing hard, like water through the nose hard. Shortly after she turns to me and asks how old I am, I tell her, she then asks if I have a girlfriend, I say not at the moment, and finally she asks what sign I am, so I tell her. I then asked about the signs and whether it was important to them, the whole Libra gets along with Leo and all that stuff. Both girls said it does matter to them. I thought something of this.

Later she asked what I do and I showed her my business card. Theothergirl showed me hers and we looked and returned the card, the girl next to me did not return my card. Later in the night she was talking to me and kind of scratching her nose with the card (its kind of hard to explain but it was in front of her face). Again I thought this something.

Finally as we were leaving she gave me a hug and as she was walking away she said "i better see you soon" to which I replied "you have my card".

Either she was being friendly and because I find her soooo attractive I am taking those signs as something OR she was definitely trying to get something across, the something is obvious. I posted this because perhaps from a girls perspective some could tell me if this is innocent stuff or its forward. Also, I do know the only way to find out is ask so no need to say that.

Lastly, I know I gave her my card and some say that if she did like me she'd call, however, I did not tell her I work alone or that ican receive personal calls at work and so I'm not so sure how comfortable she would be calling my work number. If the situation were reversed I would probably not call someone's work to ask them out unless I was sure they would not get in trouble or that it would be appropriate.

I have no way to contact her save for my brother sending her a message on Facebook asking if I could speak with her, I don't like this route but I have no other option unless she calls work. My plan is to wait out this week and see if she contacts me, next week she goes away for a week, once she gets back I guess I get my brother to write her something. That's what I got but would love any insight into something better. Oh, don't forget to tell me what you think about the night out:)

Thanks in advance.

If anything, she was flirting and showing interest. If your business card has only your work number, she'll put it to use. I have been received business cards from men in the past and given then a call at the number listed on it, regardless if it only has a work number. I believe you was straight on the money with this one.

Thanks Liz,

I really hope I am:)

Of course, I'm not a girl... but I can tell you that she is into you. Girls love guys that can make them laugh and have a good time... You're doing good.. just be confident and go after what you're looking for... I'm sure she'll be more than happy to allow you to be in her company.

Ohhh boy, I'm staring to blush ova hereeeee:)

I did want to follow up with Liz about calling at work. The simple answer answer is that if she calls at work than obviously I'm golden, but is that to say if she does not make use of the card she would most likely have been being friendly. I'm just curious, it matters little if she calls or not. If she does not call I will contact her through my brothers. I've spent faaaarrrrr too much time waiting and analyzing past relationships to wait on this one. (I do believe many senior members would agree with that... haha)

She sounds like fun, so stop thinking, and act, (responsibly of course, or is that drinking..! ) Give her a call! I would.

Got to go with the group on this one, don't hesitate to contact her if you'd like to see her again. The time you guys had went well & there's every reason to expect she'd like to see a guy that is nice, funny & courteous to boot. I could throw good looking in there but then you'd know I was lying so I'll leave it at attractive to her or she wouldn't have kept the card & enjoyed herself so much.

She could easily have misplaced the card, so definitely make the first move. Some women still don't like making the first move & with her trip, she may be distracted right now but would appreciate hearing from you.

Sounds so obvious a old priest can see that one coming.

Since you don't have her number and the only way of contacting her in through Facebook, it wouldn't hurt since the interest is mutal.

I think if she hasn't misplace your card, she'll call. Some people do that and wait a few days but I don't. I think it's silly.

Then its settled. I will contact her as soon as she gets back from her trip. I think she leaves today or tomorrow so acting today would most likely only yield a response when she gets back anyway.

Thanks to everyone for the responses.

Lol T-man, I SWEAR there was no booze involved.

Betrayal- before I finished reading your post I was going to mention you left out good looking:) Pretty fair assessment though.

I will keep everyone posted. Fingers crossed.

LOL, I edited my post to clarify the good looking part.

But you know, good looking is extremely subjective. My H is not at all my "ideal physical type" nor I his. We met very similarly to your situation & had a great conversation like you did. We've been together ever since for nearly 15 yrs (9 married) & we're each other's soulmates. He gets better looking to me every yr he loves me, LOL.

Glad you're going to call her. :D

Hope it works out well! She definitely seems interested.

I love that about first dating someone, while yes, it's frustrating having to wait and wonder, but the result is so sweet! Have fun and keep us posted!

What wonderful people and wonderful support.

Thanks all:)

Just noticed your sig line & LOVE that, B, so true.

Do you know where it's from or did you make it up?

We have a whole page of quotes on our site, they are such great food for thought.

The quote is from a song I like. If memory serves correct it's called Safety Bricks by Kevin Drew.

Good song.

Wow, cool song, thanks!

Just to update:

I sent the message on Thursday and received a response yesterday... got the number:)

Thanks for everyone who contributed to this post, it really helped a lot.

Hey everyone,

Kind of got blindsided by this one. I called her last night and she seemed happy to hear from me, she was very talkative and seemed very comfortable. Anyway, I asked if she wanted to get together this week, she replied she was very busy this week but she couldletmeknow when sheis available (not sure what that meant really). I said perhaps the weekend and then she said the thing is she has a boyfriend:(... I was shocked, really. I mustered up a sentence saying I'm sorry I had no clue and that's about it. We talked about her playing soccer next week and she asked for me to come watch the games and also that they need a coach if I were interested, I said we'll talk.

Not really sure what was going on here. I was POSITIVE she gave all the signs as was everyone I asked, then she gives my brother her number to give to me and then busts out I have a man?? She MUST have known I was calling to ask her out? Why would she ask if I have a g/f, flirt and then not accept a date?

I'm lost on this, I guess it really does not matter why. Could it be that she was interested but unable to do anything on account of her b/f? Meaning that she was flirting and did want me to call but just can't do anything at this time, hence the continued contact with soccer? OR maybe I'm just trying to make myself feel better. She may have made up the boyfriend thing for all I know right?

Anybody?

She could have just liked the attention, maybe not receiving it from her boyfriend and then you showed it and it made her feel good about herself.

I can't believe she did that. She should have been straight forward with the start. I guess that would explain her actions.

Her motives, and reasons are not important, and is a smokescreen for the real deal, how you handle yourself now, with this new revelation.

You can dwell on this rejection and waste time tripping, or you can accept that door is closed, and make some adjustments.

Its never about what has happened, its always about what you do next. That is your focus.

Thoughts?? Yours, not hers!

Thanks for the responses everyone.

T-mam - Right as usual. I guess I was stressing to know why because it appeared a sure bet and as it turned out I'm left wondering what I missed.

The real disappointment lies in the situation and not so much the girl. I have not been able to meet anyone that fits my "criteria" lately and so when she rolled around and things looked bright I wanted to take time to enjoy the feeling, that's why I waited so long to call. Also, that I was really blindsided by theanswer, I really thought this one was it.

Anyway, I feel pretty goos today and hey it's not the worst pain I've ever felt, many others on here are going through much worse and so I am grateful. If anything, I am glad I did ask, I'm glad she did respond well, and I'm glad I can deal with it. Try, try again.