Hi All,

I knew a gal for over two years now...
Initially we used to work together, were quite good friends then... I somehow started liking her a lot and felt that at least she did not feel bad about me...
Then I quit the company, as I got a better opportunity outside my country.. so off I went...
But still, we had quite a good relationship on through mails, sometimes through calls or through chats... Though I never stated in explicit tones about my love, I used to care for her and try to be as much as of a help for her... whenever I could in, all possible ways...

Starting from small gifts, on special occasions like valentines day and her birthday, the last gift I gave was a gold necklace... And she accepted it with cheers and a smiling face... however for the gold necklace, she said that I should not have gone this expensive, and that a rose flower would also have been good enough...

Recently, she said that I had misunderstood, as she never had any such feelings for me... It is okay, I do understand that I may have my own shortcomings (am an average person by looks, bit overweight) and she may feel that I may not be a good person in that regard...

But she could have at least said that, when I gifted her an expensive gift... I have respect for her - but do feel, if she could have said earlier, maybe I would have been less hurt... Or maybe my mistake that I was never frank...

Just want to know from all friends here, What do you all feel? Not to hurt anyone, but maybe just to learn from this incident...

Thank you all so much for reading!

Often when guys buy girls gifts they sort of feel put on the spot and do not feel comfortable about not accepting it or about showing their appreciation, especially if they are not into the guy that much. Some girls will accept gifts just because they like the attention and basically will take what they can get, not necessarily why she did though. That is a problem when somebody buys a gift and it means more to them than to the one they are interested in. You are better off not giving gifts until you are going together, especially anything that means more than a simple friendship gift.